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Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« on: 09 August 2019, 09:06:30 pm »
Sorry if this sounds utterly bizarre but I've been on a break for a few years as I had children and this past day can't stop feeling guilty about a client I had, I mean we have plenty of married guys but this guy was early 30s, extremely good looking and a fantastic client very respectful friendly complimentary etc, however he was married but the issue is he had a gigantic tattoo of his wife and young son on his wedding day across his whole back, it was extremely well done realistic and huge and the image is burned into my mind of this gorgeous classy looking woman looking amazingly happy and I dunno I just feel extremely guilty I was fucking her husband and she probably never knew, he was a regular lived in the small Valley I was from and she apparently thought he was at the gym when he visited me. I just feel very sad thinking about it and extremely guilty what the hell is wrong with me I had tons of married clients but this one kinda upsets me now, is it because I've seen her face looking so happy on her wedding day?

I've never felt like this before but keep thinking about it recently has anyone ever had similar feelings?

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #1 on: 09 August 2019, 09:54:48 pm »
Kescort
He probably didn't feel too guilty when he visited otherwise he wouldn't have booked you in the first place.
Guilt is a useless feeling so please don't do it to yourself another minute
Many  of our clients are married or attached guys seeing us behind their wives /partners backs .
Their problem not ours.
It's great you had such a hot guy but there must be a reason why he choose to see an escort in the first place.
Despite his memorable tattoo
Move on x 



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« Reply #2 on: 09 August 2019, 10:00:38 pm »
I also feel bad for some wives too, so many men cheat and i think the crazy bit for me is more the attitude if we sell sex we have no morals towards cheating and we are cool with it and even have a giggle over it. I just accept a lot cheat and doing this job will bring in a lot of married men. It is not our fault we do not look for them they look for us.

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #3 on: 09 August 2019, 10:05:28 pm »
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He probably didn't feel too guilty when he visited otherwise he wouldn't have booked you in the first place.
Guilt is a useless feeling so please don't do it to yourself another minute
Many  of our clients are married or attached guys seeing us behind their wives /partners backs .
Their problem not ours.
It's great you had such a hot guy but there must be a reason why he choose to see an escort in the first place.
Despite his memorable tattoo
Move on x

Thank you sugar xxx

Yes I'm not losing sleep over it but I feel guilty probably because I saw her on her wedding day it's weird when you can put a face to the wives these guys often tell us about. I think also because he told me they had an active sex life but couldn't help himself made it more guilt inducing, I was shocked he paid he was that good looking and he told me he paid because a ons was too risky, that they might want more but he loved his wife whetheras with me he could just text, call round then be gone in half an hour. I will get over it its just a new feeling never felt guilty at the time. X

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« Reply #4 on: 09 August 2019, 10:16:24 pm »
I also feel bad for some wives too, so many men cheat and i think the crazy bit for me is more the attitude if we sell sex we have no morals towards cheating and we are cool with it and even have a giggle over it. I just accept a lot cheat and doing this job will bring in a lot of married men. It is not our fault we do not look for them they look for us.

Yes you'd get the very occasional asshole who you thought God help whoever is partnered to you hope she finds out soon so she can ditch you haha but this was rare met only two guys who I felt that about who said they had girlfriends. But this guy was not only gorgeous but a lovely person though I only saw him as a client she probably thought she had a catch, so sad so many women are deceived but yes they seek us out if it wasn't me it would have been another escort

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #5 on: 10 August 2019, 06:46:09 pm »
Sorry if this sounds utterly bizarre but I've been on a break for a few years as I had children and this past day can't stop feeling guilty about a client I had, I mean we have plenty of married guys but this guy was early 30s, extremely good looking and a fantastic client very respectful friendly complimentary etc, however he was married but the issue is he had a gigantic tattoo of his wife and young son on his wedding day across his whole back, it was extremely well done realistic and huge and the image is burned into my mind of this gorgeous classy looking woman looking amazingly happy and I dunno I just feel extremely guilty I was fucking her husband and she probably never knew, he was a regular lived in the small Valley I was from and she apparently thought he was at the gym when he visited me. I just feel very sad thinking about it and extremely guilty what the hell is wrong with me I had tons of married clients but this one kinda upsets me now, is it because I've seen her face looking so happy on her wedding day?

I've never felt like this before but keep thinking about it recently has anyone ever had similar feelings?

K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty.  If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment.  Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else? 

Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too.  There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time.  If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing. 

I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about. 

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #6 on: 10 August 2019, 06:58:16 pm »
K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty.  If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment.  Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else? 

Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too.  There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time.  If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing. 

I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
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I'm not sure why I've felt guilty, I definitely did not have any feelings for the client I was just happy to have a good will paying client who was friendly respectful etc as we all feel when we have a good regular. So it's definitely not that plus I was in a relationship with my child's father then and still am now (he knew about my work) so no it was probably seeing the realistic photo copy tattoo of his wife beaming on her wedding day with their son which induced the guilt since I'd obvious obviously never seen any clients wife before either on a photo or anything else. It was rather off putting having to look at it lol but luckily was on his back so didn't have to look at it whilst actually fucking him.

I had a few married clients who went into great detail about their wives and sex lives at home which again was off putting but didn't make me feel guilty. Also maybe because I'm a mother now I have more compassion for these women, who knows?

I did have one client who was married and lived in the local area who told me he'd saw me out with my boyfriend whilst he was with his wife I'm glad I never saw them tbh, he always used to moan she was unattractive and wanted sex from him but he didn't want it from her! No idea why they give so much detail lol.
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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #7 on: 10 August 2019, 07:04:47 pm »
K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty.  If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment.  Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else? 

Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too.  There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time.  If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing. 

I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about.

I also agree it is our job to make our clients happy and I enjoyed giving customer satisfaction lol I had a lot of regulars and return clients so must have been doing something right. Also we don't get emotionally involved with these guys so the only threat to the marriage is her finding out when a man is laxxy daisy with discretion.

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #8 on: 10 August 2019, 07:23:44 pm »
Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.

The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion.  We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.

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« Reply #9 on: 10 August 2019, 08:44:14 pm »
Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.

The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion.  We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.

Sorry didn't think of that didn't really assume it's the sort of site a clients wife would be looking at or any civvies seeing as it's meant to be for escorts, the description of the tattoo had to be given to explain my dilemma. A mod is free to edit or move it if they agree, I would definitely never want to out a client for various reasons tbh. Although I disagree I'm being indiscreet since its a support forum for escorts, presumably to get support. I've no idea why anyone else would read it or know about it except maybe some clients?
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« Reply #10 on: 10 August 2019, 08:55:56 pm »
Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.

The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion.  We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.

Also how likely is it, that someone who has seen this clients tattoo on his BACK an area always covered and not visible to most people, be reading this post on this forum? There's probably a higher chance of me winning the lottery next week.

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #11 on: 11 August 2019, 01:23:32 am »
The guilt should be the clients and not ours if that exists at all. We rarely know any thing about the client and why should we?
We offer our services, they pay - end of
Don't get engrossed in a guy's personal life. It really is not our business.
I really don't give a fuck about their relationship status and is certainly not our business or concern.


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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #12 on: 11 August 2019, 08:48:56 am »
I never feel guilty because I always keep in mind the difference between a hooker and a wife. We're service providers, nothing more. Men may love their wives passionately and share their whole lives with them but the truth is, a great many of them will take lovers or see prostitutes or have one night stands. It means nothing more to them than sex.
Don't beat yourself up because if it's not you it will be someone else. You can't tame human nature!

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Re: Bizarre guilt over ex clients wife
« Reply #13 on: 11 August 2019, 10:04:01 am »
Also how likely is it, that someone who has seen this clients tattoo on his BACK an area always covered and not visible to most people, be reading this post on this forum? There's probably a higher chance of me winning the lottery next week.

Potentially a lot of people! He just might have sunbathed on holiday with friends or gone to the gym with mates etc etc.

Yes this site is for escorts but we know many men read it too.

Obviously the details you gave are allowed to remain, which surprises me but there you go.

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« Reply #14 on: 11 August 2019, 10:50:21 am »
Potentially a lot of people! He just might have sunbathed on holiday with friends or gone to the gym with mates etc etc.

Yes this site is for escorts but we know many men read it too.

Obviously the details you gave are allowed to remain, which surprises me but there you go.

I imagine the only men who Read this forum are hobbyist punters which I doubt pose much of a risk of this client being outed plus there are 0 identifying details other than the tattoo and the description is as I said relevant to the dilemma. The reason it's likely been left is because the chances of it outing the client are absolutely miniscule.