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Barbiesback

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Big mistake working in a small town
« on: 06 April 2025, 07:51:46 am »
Hey ladies so I had a client come see me before I went on tour he just had a massage he came to see me Friday he had bought me cards and presents for my bday any way when I was massaging him he said Ruby I have a confession I live 5 doors up from you I was like thinking omg . He knows I love horror films and he got me a real expensive horror figure for my bday . Yesterday he was like how much would it be to watch horror films at mines and just watch movies nothing else I gave him a price was discounted because it was just basically hanging out . I even brought my dog round to his house . I stupidly fell asleep in his arms he paid me bank transfer . So that wasn’t a problem but I can’t believe I fell asleep . Hes messaged me when I got back This morning saying that all escorts are damaged and he feels sorry for me I was like hun I’m not damaged at all .

I’m really worried he’s gonna out me im in a panic . I don’t think I’m gonna be working from home again .
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Lushblossom

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #1 on: 06 April 2025, 09:01:29 am »
Most clients do not visit people who live very near to them. He must be an exception.

I work from home with no issues in a small town but many come from neighbouring cities and hamlets. In fact being near the m1 I get people from everywhere.
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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #2 on: 06 April 2025, 03:22:54 pm »
Quote from: Barbiesback on 06 April 2025, 07:51:46 am
Hey ladies so I had a client come see me before I went on tour he just had a massage he came to see me Friday he had bought me cards and presents for my bday any way when I was massaging him he said Ruby I have a confession I live 5 doors up from you I was like thinking omg . He knows I love horror films and he got me a real expensive horror figure for my bday . Yesterday he was like how much would it be to watch horror films at mines and just watch movies nothing else I gave him a price was discounted because it was just basically hanging out . I even brought my dog round to his house . I stupidly fell asleep in his arms he paid me bank transfer . So that wasn’t a problem but I can’t believe I fell asleep . Hes messaged me when I got back This morning saying that all escorts are damaged and he feels sorry for me I was like hun I’m not damaged at all .

I’m really worried he’s gonna out me im in a panic . I don’t think I’m gonna be working from home again .

He is sounding like he is a boundary pusher, or at best gaslighting you. However just because he has sent an insulting message doesn't necessarily mean he will out you. I have had a variety of experiences with clients near as well as far, many do not want to create trouble they just want their booking but patronising you is not on and you do not have to prove yourself to him. Also sounds like he has some issues with paying someone to be with him, perhaps his own guilt and shame. Whatever it is it is not your responsbility.
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ana30

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #3 on: 06 April 2025, 05:22:33 pm »
Quote from: Barbiesback on 06 April 2025, 07:51:46 am
Hey ladies so I had a client come see me before I went on tour he just had a massage he came to see me Friday he had bought me cards and presents for my bday any way when I was massaging him he said Ruby I have a confession I live 5 doors up from you I was like thinking omg . He knows I love horror films and he got me a real expensive horror figure for my bday . Yesterday he was like how much would it be to watch horror films at mines and just watch movies nothing else I gave him a price was discounted because it was just basically hanging out . I even brought my dog round to his house . I stupidly fell asleep in his arms he paid me bank transfer . So that wasn’t a problem but I can’t believe I fell asleep . Hes messaged me when I got back This morning saying that all escorts are damaged and he feels sorry for me I was like hun I’m not damaged at all .

I’m really worried he’s gonna out me im in a panic . I don’t think I’m gonna be working from home again .

Sorry for going against the grain OP but you need to work on boundaries, going to a strangers home who likes horror movies and falling asleep in his arms is very unsafe (that's the type of stuff you do with trusted friends or family members), you could have been raped or unalived, this said the guy is a jerk. I wouldn't even bother to respond to such bollocks.
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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #4 on: 06 April 2025, 05:49:36 pm »
What the shimmering fuck is 'unalived'? 🤣

The sort of film a person likes is irrelevant; if you're tired enough that you think you might fall asleep, don't go on an outcall. He sounds like a boundary pushing twat, but stuff like that is going to make him think he's Different From All The Other Punters ::)

If he contacts you again I'd stick with what you've already done; tell him you don't appreciate having your job mansplained to you and then block. He can't easily out you without also outing himself, and if he'll be treading a very fine line with the harrassment laws if he keeps it up. If you can manage without working from home for a bit and your only advertising is AW, I'd maybe take your profile down for a week or two if you're still concerned.
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Barbiesback

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #5 on: 07 April 2025, 10:57:51 am »
Hey ladies thanks for reply yes I was stupid to fall asleep with a client I couldn’t believe it I’m just glad every thing was ok . I have blocked him now and I hope I don’t bump into him I’m not working from home for abit I’m gonna use hotels x
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Barbiesback

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #6 on: 07 April 2025, 10:59:48 am »
I won’t be doing outcalls again. I’m on some heavy meds for my epilepsy and I get very tiered .
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BBW Jayda

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #7 on: 07 April 2025, 11:17:41 pm »
Quote from: Barbiesback on 07 April 2025, 10:59:48 am
I won’t be doing outcalls again. I’m on some heavy meds for my epilepsy and I get very tiered .
I thought you decided to work in parlour /brothel to avoid mishaps like this of neighbours finding out and so
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Barbiesback

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Re: Big mistake working in a small town
« Reply #8 on: 08 April 2025, 07:56:26 am »
I hate the thought of going back to parlours I find them sleezy I don’t like them but I have no choice now but to cool things down at home for abit I’m off touring tomorrow
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