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jasmine89

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Lonely
« on: 12 October 2012, 12:00:22 am »
Evening ladies

Even though I enjoy escorting i do find one of the major downsides is that I get very lonely. I have a couple of friends who also work as escorts so I can talk to them about what I do. My other friends do not know about what I do and so I find that I have to lie to them which I hate which in turn causes distance between us. I also find it very hard to have a normal relationship with men for the exact same reason. :(

Does anyone else get lonely and if so how do you deal with it?

KatieKurves

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #1 on: 12 October 2012, 12:09:37 am »
I understand how u feel it can be loney at times. Nearly all of my friends know what i do or are in the business too. I don't like the lies to my family tho'. 

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sade

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #2 on: 12 October 2012, 12:13:40 am »
Well, I am a foreigner so not many friends, if any, to start with. I have few friends in normal life, but I always keep them away..and my bf knows I am doing this, he is a ex punter and lives far from me...so..it gets very lonely, but...I enjoy my own company...or I join a forum..I havent even got wgs friends..at all...
Take care, play safe and sane !

Pearl

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #3 on: 12 October 2012, 01:46:45 am »
Dear Jasmine,
I deal with that with my job (out of escorting) and the gym.
Escorting is a kind of hobby for me, that why I like it.
The gym gives me a lot of satisfaction because I have the opportunity to learn new things and having more relax.
I have a degree so whatever I do it is continuous improvement to my self-esteem.
In this way I do not even feel the need to mention about escorting, I just say to everyone about my job and at the gym I have also opportunities to  know other people.
I suggest you to go to some gym and/or to find some part time course at the college such as photography, painting, or something you like. The part time courses take usually 4-6 hours a week.
I am sure that you will enjoy them  ;)

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« Last Edit: 12 October 2012, 01:55:51 am by Pearl »

lady c

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #4 on: 12 October 2012, 12:19:17 pm »
i do get lonely aswell i only have a few friends and family live away.. I go to the gym and go to the shops in between work...no one knows i do this but i don,t feel they need to.

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #5 on: 13 October 2012, 10:36:40 am »
I could count on 1 hand now the friends who i feel to be sincere and want to be with who know im an escort.
Ive distanced myself from many people and there are times i am very lonely especially when am at home at weekends.
#I am not as sociable as I used to be, and although would like to meet other escorts so I can be open and honest at last .people are busy and dont have time to meet up (or thats what they say).
I also dont think im funny enough or smart enough these days. well thats where im at.

casey_kisses

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #6 on: 13 October 2012, 11:01:50 am »
I could count on 1 hand now the friends who i feel to be sincere and want to be with who know im an escort.
Ive distanced myself from many people and there are times i am very lonely especially when am at home at weekends.
#I am not as sociable as I used to be, and although would like to meet other escorts so I can be open and honest at last .people are busy and dont have time to meet up (or thats what they say).
I also dont think im funny enough or smart enough these days. well thats where im at.

This made be sad. The reason you're not as sociable any more is because you have low self-esteem, of course you are smart and funny enough. Why would you think you're not? But you have to have that belief in yourself to go out and meet people.

Personally I value quality than quantity when it comes to friends- some know, some don't, but at the end of the day they are all there for me when it matters, and that is what is important.

Xx
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
- Albus Dumbledore

orchidperfume

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #7 on: 13 October 2012, 11:40:49 am »
Casey the reason im not as sociable any more is a combination of things, I work too much I am done with 2faced liars and users I thought were friends. Therfore my social circle has almost diminished.
I am often criticised and continiously corrected therefore have  alot of self doubts. I like escorting because Im doing something right that I like for this moment in time and getting bills paid and can interact with clients as they have chosen to want to see me. 

figa98

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #8 on: 13 October 2012, 12:27:25 pm »
Have made the effort to see friends,some know,some don't but it really is not easy.

This job puts you on the edge of society and makes you feel  very isolated.

On the other hand I have learnt so many life lessons and wouldn't change a thing.

Just have to be strong and positive! x

meetingdiversity

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #9 on: 13 October 2012, 03:57:22 pm »
Here goes...

I have not really been so socible as such meaning a few close friends, but ever since escorting this world of isolation can get depressing some times. Most of the time happiness keeps me going being content.
« Last Edit: 13 October 2012, 05:18:59 pm by meetingdiversity »

Kimmy

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Re: Lonely
« Reply #10 on: 13 October 2012, 07:02:34 pm »
I get lonely too and I dont have any escort friends, although all my friends know what i do but i dont talk about the job with them really because its just so alien to them and they cant really relate to my experiences

im lonely sometimes mostly because i used to have such an active social life when i was younger and when i first started escorting, over the last 6 months though iv barely had a social life as most of my friends have had kids or a full time normal job and boyfriend so now live a different life to me and i often fear we have drifted away

id love escort friends to talk to and go out with sometimes, i met lots of girls at parlours who i got on with but i was always told to be wary and not trust other girls im working with so i kind of kept things at a distance, maybe i shouldnt have who knows, but at work your just there to earn money and most of the girls lived nowhere near me, i live in a small valley area where everyone knows everyone and searching on AW shows im the only escort in that area on there, and its hard really

maybe i should move somewhere packed with escorts lol!


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Re: Lonely
« Reply #11 on: 13 October 2012, 09:07:37 pm »
I get lonely, but then again i've always been that way.