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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: honeymoonbarbie on 17 March 2017, 12:31:38 pm
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Am I the only one who as an adult woman does not enjoy being called a 'good girl'? I've found a lot of my clients during a booking will say it and I find it demeaning and patronising - it almost makes my skin crawl.
Other pet-names and 'terms of endearment' don't get to me at all but this one really irritates me?
Am I right to let clients know it makes me uncomfortable or should I just grow a thicker skin?
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I don't like this either, along with "I think we'll have these off" as they start pulling your clothes or outfit off. When they do this I stop them and as nicely as I can, tell them I will take them off myself. It isn't the same as being seductively undressed, that is acceptable.
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Yeah, I hate this.
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No, it makes me want to punch them in the throat.
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Yeah, I hate this.
No, it makes me want to punch them in the throat.
I don't like this either, along with "I think we'll have these off" as they start pulling your clothes or outfit off. When they do this I stop them and as nicely as I can, tell them I will take them off myself. It isn't the same as being seductively undressed, that is acceptable.
Thank goodness I'm not the only one!
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if he called me a good girl I'd call him a good boy every occasion I could fit it in.
Mirroring peoples annoying habits right back at them is great fun but then again I'm easily amused.
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I don't get this, but I advertise* myself as being pretty dominant and sarcastic, so they probably know it wouldn't fly. The thought of it makes my skin crawl as well.
I had one client who once asked me if I knew what 'in the Biblical sense' meant in a really patronising tone, and I realised he clearly had never read my site. There had been an incident in that same booking where he had tried to rub his bare genitilia against mine and spat his dummy when he was told off for it (nicely, I may add). I smiled and asked him, in the sweetest voice, sure, but did he mean the King James, Jerusalam, Vulgate - or was he referring to partially completed translations such as Aramaic?
Never saw him again, can't think why.
*advertise/be honest, call it what you want.
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My clients wouldn't dare to call me that as I'm a Mistress. If they would I'd throw them out in a hartbeat
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I've had it once or twice and funnily enough didn't book them in again!I find the 'good girl'cretins tend to be the ones that push the back of my head down onto their knobs and things like that so it's a big feck off from me to that brigade!
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Can't stand it. Especially when it's younger guys. But then I can't stand anything that's patronising and I quickly get bitchy.
Not long ago had a guy trying to explain to me that people in Cuba speak Spanish. Really?! This plus some other serious shit he gave me. Thank god that was after the "sex part" while he was already in the bathroom so I just said "thank god you booked me so I can learn all these amazing things from you". He left very quickly stupid moron. Go lecture your wife at home, not me.
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No I don't like it, I find it creepy and find guys who use this sort of language have particular views about women, mostly about how men are in control of women - and a result see grown women as girls. That's my 2 pence - but its how I view it, creepy and controlling.
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I've never been called that. One guy asked if I'd been a bad girl.
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I have to confess that I've called clients "Good boy!" several times, but they were schoolteacher roleplays :D
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I have to confess that I've called clients "Good boy!" several times, but they were schoolteacher roleplays :D
+1
Otherwise the whole "good boy" "bad boy" thing puts me off. Had a few clients laying there playing with themselves going "look at me I'm such a bad boy". I'm like "errrrmmm yeah" whatever. It's just a huge turn off for me.
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I've had it once or twice and funnily enough didn't book them in again!I find the 'good girl'cretins tend to be the ones that push the back of my head down onto their knobs and things like that so it's a big feck off from me to that brigade!
Couldn't agree with you more, that sort of thing annoys me too!
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It depends on the tone, generally (but not always) I find 'good girl' is used by those who speak down to me.
One client who used this a lot was a huge, subtle boundary pusher. Over the years I saw him I made it clear what I would and would not do, he would back off and ask for a second chance. Towards the end he'd stop one thing when I asked him, replacing it with something else to push on. I really started to notice him saying 'Good girl', telling me how lovely I am all the while I'm getting a feeling that he's doing it to butter me up for something, he'd say "I mean it" then go on to a big boundary push again. Each time I left feeling a bit sort of 'groomed'. The last time I saw him I came away feeling worse, so when he phoned asking me for another booking I asked him if he was always going to push for **********. He tried to sidestep around it, I asked him directly and eventually "Yes" he replied, trying to back it up with "If only you I could show you this that will prove you will like it".
Nope, fed up, cannot go on, not interested in feeling like ***** each time.
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I had recently one guy calling me good girl. I got so pissed off. I mean he was head shorter than me and skinier than me... it doesnt fit somehow :D
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I had recently one guy calling me good girl. I got so pissed off. I mean he was head shorter than me and skinier than me... it doesnt fit somehow :D
LMAO!!!
I love it when I open my door and I have to look down lol. Kissing those shorties ain't easy though :)
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I had this the other night and it always makes me think they have paedo fantasies. Maybe that's just me - I don't feel patronized, it just creeps me out. Yuk!
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I had this the other night and it always makes me think they have paedo fantasies. Maybe that's just me - I don't feel patronized, it just creeps me out. Yuk!
For me it reminds me of something different, worse even. When I hear "good girl" I get that flashback of a guy with a dog, the dog bringing back the stick and waiving its tail and the guy saying "good girl" patting the dog on the head...
Once had a guy give me a light tap on the bum while calling me "good girl". I was surprised I didn't hit him back :)
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Now that I'm thinking, there's even worse.
Once in a booking I heard a sentence starting with be a good girl and...
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I've been patted on the head like a dog on a number of occasions and I must admit that that along with 'good girl' just makes me laugh. ;D
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I won't put up wth a man I hate so much. Well, money I do need, but I din't handle emotional stress well. Especially, sex with someone you hate so much for his boundary pushing. I walk. I had a couples of regulars, showing subtle game playing, head fucking. I stopped replying to their texts/messages. Soon, they get a hint. They've gone past sell by date. To survive longer in this industry, I do need to do that. But everyone deals, differently, I guess.
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I love it in my private life and hate it when clients say it to me. I think it's gross that they do though as it's crossing a domination/submission boundary that should be discussed beforehand.
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The full sentence was be a good girl and lick my balls
As said above, in my personal life i would be ok with it. Now that client was like 10 years younger than me. And he was a client above all. I just froze. I remember I froze and then I flashed my most stupid totally dumb bimbo smile and said "noooooo I don't like the hair on your balls dahrling"
Did it spoil the mood? Hell yes!
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I've been patted on the head like a dog on a number of occasions and I must admit that that along with 'good girl' just makes me laugh. ;D
Same here and I really don't mind it..there are a lot worse things they could say/do that annoy/irritate.
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Same here and I really don't mind it..there are a lot worse things they could say/do that annoy/irritate.
They can call me anything they like as long as they pay me ;D
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They can call me anything they like as long as they pay me ;D
Yeah any names at all I'm happy with, the only really filthy disgusting word I can't tolerate is the mention of 'refund' ;D
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Yeah any names at all I'm happy with, the only really filthy disgusting word I can't tolerate is the mention of 'refund' ;D
What's a refund, lol? That word is missing from my Oxford English Dictionary. 8)
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What's a refund, lol? That word is missing from my Oxford English Dictionary. 8)
;D ;D ;D
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I actually like it but then I'm a sub.
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Am I the only one who as an adult woman does not enjoy being called a 'good girl'? I've found a lot of my clients during a booking will say it and I find it demeaning and patronising - it almost makes my skin crawl.
Other pet-names and 'terms of endearment' don't get to me at all but this one really irritates me?
Am I right to let clients know it makes me uncomfortable or should I just grow a thicker skin?
It makes my skin crawl too...in fact anything like that does.
I'm staying in a hotel just now and I had 2 glasses in my room so this morning to be helpful I took them down to the bar, the barmaid said 'oh you and your diet coke'.....also as a 30-something year old grown ass woman I find remarks like this really annoying. I'm not a child and don't need to be spoken down to.
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It bothers people, really?
I was called a good girl today when i helped an old lady pick up the contents of her purse in Morrisons. find it a little odd when clients call me that but does it bother me not at all. Also i find it strange when i get compared to their daughters or get told i remind them of their daughter, well OK
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It bothers people, really?
I was called a good girl today when i helped an old lady pick up the contents of her purse in Morrisons. find it a little odd when clients call me that but does it bother me not at all. Also i find it strange when i get compared to their daughters or get told i remind them of their daughter, well OK
It just depends who it's coming from. When it's from someone I like, sexual context or not I really like it. But from an old man I've just met, blech.
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They can call me anything they like as long as they pay me ;D
Me too they are compensating with my fee for talking like that to me. If it makes them horny to cum quicker sure thing. Then after I can do other things.
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I do not like to be called a "good girl" because I am a "bad girl". ;)
More seriously, I am able to deal with small irritants like this. :)
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I had this the other night and it always makes me think they have paedo fantasies. Maybe that's just me - I don't feel patronized, it just creeps me out. Yuk!
Exactly that , I have one guy who does it he's really nice and good fun but when he's trying to get me going he says " good girl" repeatedly ! And I wonder if he's done it all his life ? I can't bear it but like I said he's generally a 'good guy' so I ignore ...I could say obviously regular, clean and it's his time so I try to ignore , he's safe, discreet and has lots of plus points so I think ..oh well it's not a big deal really in his case .
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Funnily enough I just had a client call me this a few times Good girl the first time was over text then during the booking he was very horny so just smiled at him playing around with more horny things. He was very attractive too he enjoyed so am happy.
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For a start I'll be 50 in a few months' time, so anyone who calls me a girl is a dick!
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Ha ha well I'm older than that so I feel a right Pratt lol !
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I blame Robin Thicke
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I use to have a client who used to tell me his wife was a "good girl", meaning: She played by the rules, took care of his kid, did the cooking part and turned a blind eye on his philandering despite him neglecting her sex. He was good in bed but quite an asshol- so I got rid of him, since them anyone calling me "good girl" is not seeing me again as it reminds me of this guys wife. It just gives me the chills, it sounds sooo patriarchal and patronizing.
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I once tore a strip off a guy calling me a "good girl" in my civvy job. He was senior to me but I didn't give a shit. I told him we don't employ children so infantilizing terms like this are completely inappropriate. And how would he like it if next time he came over and said "Hey I've arranged a meeting next week about the progress on the XYZ project" I replied "Well done, good boy" in front of all my direct reports?
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I once tore a strip off a guy calling me a "good girl" in my civvy job. He was senior to me but I didn't give a shit. I told him we don't employ children so infantilizing terms like this are completely inappropriate. And how would he like it if next time he came over and said "Hey I've arranged a meeting next week about the progress on the XYZ project" I replied "Well done, good boy" in front of all my direct reports?
That's similar to transactional analysis and it worked , a bit different/ harder to do when they're trying to get you to orgasm ...I'd really rather not kill the moment and just get on with it lmao x
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That's similar to transactional analysis and it worked , a bit different/ harder to do when they're trying to get you to orgasm ...I'd really rather not kill the moment and just get on with it lmao x
The irony is, I would totally have shagged him, and would put my money on him being submissive in bed ;D ;D ;D
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I get called this and tbh i dont really mind it. There are a lot of things worse to be called. :o
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I like the word 'girl' it makes me feel young when people call me it... I refer to my mum as 'one of the girls' when we have a family get together and she's nearly 80 ;D Clients saying 'good girl' to me just means I'm doing the right things that he likes, at least I know I'm on the right track then. I don't feel patronised or anything like that. Its better than the ones who give no feedback during the booking ie; when I'm not sure if they are enjoying themselves or not.
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I get called this and tbh i dont really mind it. There are a lot of things worse to be called. :o
A while ago I had a client keep degrading me calling me a black bitch. I would end the booking if this happens again with no refund. And tell him where to go honestly with all the proffessional out of the window.
Luckily most of the clients who come are resectful and never want to spank my bottom hard even when encouraged. That I can deal with.
So belongs no degrading talk or rasict blurs am okay. I dont mind being called a horny bitch though , that is how far it goes.
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That's truly shocking MD. What a nasty man!
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That's horrible MD :(
I had a customer a while ago on tour who asked me to call him a "dirty black cunt" during the booking, I was a bit taken aback as he hadn't said anything about this when booking and although I do verbal humiliation I feel really uncomfortable with racial abuse. I did as he asked but afterwards I felt terrible, as if I had degraded myself instead of him ???
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I used to ignore but now I wouldn't it just shows the lack of respect. I realised this behaviour is sick even if they are paying me. I don't need to be racist to get going. I don't see the ones I don't like the sound of don't get past the phone stage. If only you knew what crap I had put up with from the odd balls.
This why I am super stricter with the strange ones at present. But yet the respectful clients get all of me making them happy.
If it doesn't feel right I don't do it am not going to suffer.
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That's horrible MD :(
I had a customer a while ago on tour who asked me to call him a "dirty black cunt" during the booking, I was a bit taken aback as he hadn't said anything about this when booking and although I do verbal humiliation I feel really uncomfortable with racial abuse. I did as he asked but afterwards I felt terrible, as if I had degraded myself instead of him ???
The client asked for this so he was happy but if it makes you feel uncomfortable I guess you will know what to do next time. Xx
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That's truly shocking MD. What a nasty man!
Yes it makes you think about how they ended up like that. But this was along time ago, just the clients could say worse post sparked me about certain times.
I am over it in a different place now having other things to do and have many clients who respect me and want to come back. So am focusing more on that. :)
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I sometimes do mild domination and some of my clients will ask me to wear latex or pvc outfits, but it is a niche service/request only for my regulars. My usp is gfe - I wouldn't mind being called a good girl. If I didn't I would let him know I don't like such token endearments straight away.
I can't see how being called good is on the same level as being called a bitch, but we are all different and that's not a bad thing at all.
God help the client that ever calls me a bitch; but I guess it's different strokes for different folks.
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It's normally followed by a pat on the head & scratch behind the ears like how you'd pet a dog.
I usually take the piss when they do that or call them naughty boy several times
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I can't see how being called good is on the same level as being called a bitch, but we are all different and that's not a bad thing at all.
I actually don't mind being called a bitch :D I've always described myself as a bitch anyway and would rather that than "good girl"!
I had a client yesterday who called me "good girl" as I was sucking his cock. I mentally rolled my eyes but kept going, then a couple seconds later I gagged. He immediately dropped to the floor (I was kneeling) and said "Oh god, sorry, are you okay?!" I was like Dude, I'm fine ;D
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He immediately dropped to the floor (I was kneeling) and said "Oh god, sorry, are you okay?!" I was like Dude, I'm fine ;D
Priceless!!! ;D ;D ;D
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I think its not the actual words its the way its said, I don't like the word 'whore' but don't mind clients calling me it in bookings when its said in a fun light hearted way.
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Priceless!!! ;D ;D ;D
Hilarious! That did put a smile on my face as I haven't heard the word 'dude' used in ages! I love it, its so 90's - like totally radical man lol
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Hilarious! That did put a smile on my face as I haven't heard the word 'dude' used in ages! I love it, its so 90's - like totally radical man lol
I use it all the time and I know it dates me :D
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Makes my skin crawl.
The type of men that say it are generally utter losers with no real power, that have these faux fifty-shades-of-grey fantasies. The only like to cease the opportunity to feel dominant, manipulative and like they are above you.
Whenever someone says it to me I say back in a patronising tone that I am not their little girl.
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Makes my skin crawl.
The type of men that say it are generally utter losers with no real power, that have these faux fifty-shades-of-grey fantasies. The only like to cease the opportunity to feel dominant, manipulative and like they are above you
This is EXACTLY it.
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I use it all the time and I know it dates me :D
I didn't know it was an "old" word. First time i heard it was actually from a client and i found it really cute so I use it myself sometimes:)
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I've been called a good girl a few times. While flattering in its own way I'm not five or pet dog! I've been called a cheeky mare too. Which Ealing comedy did he pull this from?
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Mainly good girl they call me which is good because they're horny and cum quicker. I just play along as is harmless I think and they are happy. It's a win win profiting and more than likely he returns.
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Next cretin to call me this gets there Dick ripped off. It's school holidays and it's slow but I won't lower my standards because it's a bit quiet. Wankers. I look on some forums at the way they talk about us girls and giggle thinking if only they knew what we all laugh at about them ;D sometimes this happens I do picture myself seriously hurting them.
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I've never been called a good girl :'( :'( ;D
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I DESPISE this. With a passion. To the point that I would not take another booking with that person again.
I am not there to obey these people, I'm my own person, not a dog or a child and I'm in charge of what's going on.
Each to their own though!
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I DESPISE this. With a passion. To the point that I would not take another booking with that person again.
I am not there to obey these people, I'm my own person, not a dog or a child and I'm in charge of what's going on.
Each to their own though!
spot on!!
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Next cretin to call me this gets there Dick ripped off. It's school holidays and it's slow but I won't lower my standards because it's a bit quiet. Wankers. I look on some forums at the way they talk about us girls and giggle thinking if only they knew what we all laugh at about them ;D sometimes this happens I do picture myself seriously hurting them.
They read these forums too so they do know
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Can we stay on topic, please? It's been a long day and I've just spotted to my joy that the screening thread in Q&A has been bumped back up to the top, so I'm guessing it isn't going to get any shorter.
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Back on topic...honestly I put my 2 pence in as I really cant see how being called a good girl by a client who is paying for his time can be an awful thing. If a paying client over steps his/her boundaries in any situation and you feel uncomfortable then let them know and stop it.
Maybe its because I'm a Londoner ;) I could care less about being called a girl during a booking. I know that the common usage for those in this profession is 'working girl'. Fuck it there's worse you could be called. I don't believe many clients use that phrase often anyway.
So on back on point - my reference to not being called a bitch is because I refuse to accept that being called a bitch is normal or acceptable in normal circumstances? What is normal in this context? A mutual agreed civil situation. If that what's agreed and your being paid to be degraded then fine but just because a client pays for a session doesn't mean that they can push boundaries if you don't feel comfortable.
Is it ok to call a client a good boy?
I'm thinking about the less experienced who may read this and misconstrue being called a good girl ??? for being a bigger issue than what I surmise what was the OP's initial query?
So for any newbies reading this thread if you don't like or want to be called a good girl during your booking then say you don't like it - nip it in the bud.
In my experience its a rare occurrence but don't let any client push your boundaries in any way. Be brave stand up for your self and take no shit from anyone. Unless it agreed lol.
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I've never been called a good girl :'( :'( ;D
I seem to get this *all* *the* *time*. I guess it's down to the clientele I cater for...
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I have it written on my profile that I do not see clients who Want naughty girl style bookings and I do not dress as a schoolgirl. Anyone that asks this of me is blocked. I had a guy asking how old I was when I started touching myself and if I had younger sisters. He is also blocked. I am also particular with whom I see for example I won't see anyone over the age of 60. It eliminates the guysvthat call themselves dirty old men and that for me really does not make me feel good so I cannot entertain it. I hate being called a good girl I find it cringy and it creeps me out. I am very open minded but some things I draw a line at. My mental health and wellbeing is more important than any money.
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Back on topic...honestly I put my 2 pence in as I really cant see how being called a good girl by a client who is paying for his time can be an awful thing. If a paying client over steps his/her boundaries in any situation and you feel uncomfortable then let them know and stop it.
Maybe its because I'm a Londoner ;) I could care less about being called a girl during a booking. I know that the common usage for those in this profession is 'working girl'. Fuck it there's worse you could be called. I don't believe many clients use that phrase often anyway.
So on back on point - my reference to not being called a bitch is because I refuse to accept that being called a bitch is normal or acceptable in normal circumstances? What is normal in this context? A mutual agreed civil situation. If that what's agreed and your being paid to be degraded then fine but just because a client pays for a session doesn't mean that they can push boundaries if you don't feel comfortable.
Is it ok to call a client a good boy?
I'm thinking about the less experienced who may read this and misconstrue being called a good girl ??? for being a bigger issue than what I surmise what was the OP's initial query?
So for any newbies reading this thread if you don't like or want to be called a good girl during your booking then say you don't like it - nip it in the bud.
In my experience its a rare occurrence but don't let any client push your boundaries in any way. Be brave stand up for your self and take no shit from anyone. Unless it agreed lol.
The term is used to assert authority, control, seniority or approval of someone "less" than you.
When did you last hear someone say good girl and how?
To a child? Their offspring? To a cat?
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To be honest I get get paid to suck and fuck. As long as I'm paid and I'm not being disrespected he can say what ever makes him feel good/come quicker. Being called a good girl isn't disrespectful to me.
I am in control in all my bookings hence why don't I tolerate rudeness or disrespect. I'm not worried about perceived male/female power struggles during a paid sexual encounter? I just want the money honey! 😎
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I heard this from time to time...
For me... I didn't think too much about it.
Let it pass, then they will pass it too.