yes you do live and learn, and then use your experiences with every day life...
but my reply has always been, even with the lap dancing days " how is a date going to pay my bills??" then I reply saying once I have made my bills then "ill contact you" once i have a day off like most normal people do on their days off work.
by then i just want to see family and friends more then a "client" who is never ever going to put us into the "wife" category of life.
been their, done that, got the t-shirt and court case to show for it.