Quote from: Cat_BBW on 09 November 2012, 05:02:18 pm

Quote from: MissKylie on 09 November 2012, 04:51:43 pm

I refused to believe that at say 20stone you can still be healthy when you are medically obese and at risk of so many health problems.

Being obese isn't unhealthy. There is no reason why a fat person can't be healthy. I have discussed this with my GP, and various other specialists and doctors over the years, and they all agree: health and lifespan depends on lifestyle and genetics, not how tall, fat, pale or big-footed you are.

I am classed as middle aged now, so had to attend a "healthy heart" appointment recently, to check my risk of developing cardiovascular disease. After everything was checked (bloods, pressure, pulse etc) and my family history was taken, it's been calculated that I have a 0.25% chance of dropping dead of a heart attack or stroke.

There are lots of myths surrounding fatness, I can't dispel them all in one post.

This might be true BUT there are so many health problems linked with being overweight, diabetes, strokes, heart attacks, high blood presure, breathing problems, the list goes on. Just because YOU are healthy does not mean these things don't exist or are not realated to weight?

Quote from: MissKylie on 09 November 2012, 04:51:43 pm

What I find really funny is when guys say I want a girl size 6-8 girl but they don't seem to understand a size 10 woman could actually have a nicer even more toned figure than a size 6-8 due to mussel definition and height.

At the end of the day the majority of men will always prefer a slimmer women to an overweight one. Yes men like curves and an hour glass shape but very few actually like lots of fat. When it comes to being healthy as I said in my previous post I am about a size 16 and 13stone and I'm definitely not as healthy or fit as when I was slim. I refused to believe that at say 20stone you can still be healthy when you are medically obese and at risk of so many health problems. Sure you might be happy but I think a lot of people do kid themselves. Why do so many women lie about their dress sizes if they are happy? This is not an attack but my person opinion on it. I love food so much and am finding it very hard to shift the weight but I know I will.

Another guy I saw for an overnight made me laugh once. He was very skinny and he said I bet you can't guess what type of women I actually like? So I said I would probably guess more slim, he says no I like women with curves and an hour glass shape size 10-12 normally. I was thinking to myself but size 10-12 is slim durrrr! Then I see recent reverse booking from him asking for size 8-10 and he seems to think that's not actually skinny! In denial me thinks!

Yes there are men that like large/extra large ladies but unfortunately not as many that like slimmer ladies.

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I have no idea why women lie about their dress sizes any more than I can understand why they lie about their ages, but I would guess it's far more to do with personal insecurities than what men actually like. Health has nothing to do with it either - I had a very slim friend who ate virtually nothing but chips and breakfast cereal, drank nothing but Diet Coke and could barely walk up a flight of stairs. And she (not unsurprisingly) looked like

Totally agree with this. I never said being slim automatically = being healthy. There are many slim/skinny people who are extremely unhealthy but I still don't think being exteamly overweight is healthy either.

Quote from: amy on 09 November 2012, 05:19:18 pm

Quote from: MissKylie on 09 November 2012, 05:10:04 pm

This might be true BUT there are so many health problems linked with being overweight, diabetes, strokes, heart attacks, high blood presure, breathing problems, the list goes on. Just because YOU are healthy does not mean these things don't exist or are not realated to weight?

Kylie, people can be unhealthy no matter what they weigh. Some fat people are healthy and some are not. Some thin people are unhealthy, some are not - people who drink too much and/or smoke can probably be said to be generally unhealthy, and people at both extreme ends of the spectrum ditto but I don't see what point you're trying to make?

What does somebody's general health have to do with whether or not they are attractive to the opposite sex, and if the answer is nothing, why are you posting about it here?

Okay I was trying to make two points. One that being slim is more desirable rightly or wrongly. And two that after all the warnings about being overweight these days that I'm now being told everything I read about or have heard is wrong and it's actually okay to be morbidly obese abd health has nothing to do with it? Sorry it's not registering with me, but I didn't mean to cause a stir.

Okay I was trying to make two points. One that being slim is more desirable rightly or wrongly

And two that after all the warnings about being overweight these days that I'm now being told everything I read about or have heard is wrong and it's actually okay to be morbidly obese abd health has nothing to do with it? Sorry it's not registering with me, but I didn't mean to cause a stir.

i think this is bang out of order.

As a BBWWG, i know theres a "bigger" demand for skinner women. which means us BBWs have to work aloooot harder then all the slimmer girls, meaning we have to look "better".

Yes morbid obesity (I am classed as that) can be bad for your health.  Notice the word can.  so can being underweight. So can eating the wrong foods or drinking alcohol or smoking or doing no exercise.
Morbid obesity is not the cause of  illnesses like diabetes or heart disease but they do tend to go hand in hand as MOST NOT ALL morbidly obese people eat the wrong food, smoke and drink and do no exercise.
The point some are making is that not all morbidly obese people are lazy alcohol drinking, fag smoking junk food eating slobs.  Some actually eat healthy, dont drink or smoke and work out as often as possible.  These people are not at risk of these diseases anyore than anyone else.