well iv been looking at aw and other website and im shocked how many will do bareback
i dont understand why would girls will do it some charge extra 20 or 30 some dont charge any more
sorry if any one reading this that does bb im not beening nasty but once you get aids theres no going back no cure just a slow painful death saying all that most that do bb are fully booked the money rolling in and just about paying bills but hey i no whats right and whats not NO one should do bb an escort or not who agrees

i agree with you each to there own we all got to live with what we do

hi thanks for thoughts,glad to hear what you have to say

I agree with Jem.  I feel really strongly about bb and can't get my head round why people would risk their health/lives like that.  I just can't bring myself to say 'each to their own' with this kind of thing, even though I'm very open-minded and  non-judgmental.  I'm aware of all the arguments like well they could be out shagging a girl they meet in a club unprotected......but that doesn't wash with me I'm afraid.

I've refused quite a few punters on AW if they have been with a girl who does bb.  It says it on my profile but they still ask.  No matter how much I need the money I will never go with a punter who has been with the bb girls in my area (or any area of course).  I've read some of the feedback on the bareback girls in my area and its gross!!!

I've refused quite a few punters on AW if they have been with a girl who does bb.  It says it on my profile but they still ask.  No matter how much I need the money I will never go with a punter who has been with the bb girls in my area (or any area of course).  I've read some of the feedback on the bareback girls in my area and its gross!!

What about punters who do bareback with their wives, girlfriends or mistresses? What about clients who get "just this once" bareback from their favourite otherwise-safe prossie in exchange for being a loyal customer?

There's no way to know where a client's penis has been so it's best to always assume he's done some incredibly risky bareback at some point and act accordingly (eg being extremely liberal with the condoms). And unfortunately, sitting about being judgemental about other people doesn't make you less likely to catch something off someone should you make just one mistake, so whether or not it's wrong, it's entirely pointless.

BB in a monogamous relationship has
NO CONNECTION AT ALL
with a person seeking BB with a sex provider.

By saying "wife, mistress or girlfriend" I was kind of implying non-monogamy outside of paid sexual contact. The only time I've had unprotected sex was while in a monogamous long-term (well, a year!) relationship and even that was long before I started working; I would never do so now. I also think it's strange to say bareback outside of paid sex has no connection with bareback within paid sex - it's not like a client who does bareback is very likely to only do it in one or other situation, is it? What about drunken random shags? Casual sex sites?

Being judgemental about other  potential customers sexual behaviour, allows us to make a risk assessment
This helps keeps us safe.

Of course. We should judge that every sexual encounter has a potential risk and act accordingly, using condoms 100% of the time and trying to make wise decisions about OWO based on our personal risk assessments.

I meant that judging other people as "wrong in the head" or whatever doesn't keep us safer. Of course I feel it would be wrong for me to have any unprotected sex at all at the moment, but you have to base your risk assessments on the fact that other people will do it with somebody, most likely, and get on with your own business sensibly.

Oh so I should agree to see a punter who has feedback from one or more of the girls who do bb and say to myself "Oh never mind I'm sure he has unprotected sex with his wife/gf/mistress anyway so it'll be fine"  Sorry Emily but I can't agree with you on this one.  If a guy does bb with a prossie  then the risk is multiplied ten fold.

I've heard all the excuses about bareback.  Of course our punters have unprotected sex with their wives and girlfriends, therefore they are putting their wives and girlfriends at risk if they have just had bb sex with a prossie who may have had bb sex with 3 other people that day or however many.  Its incredibly selfish.  But as long as the supply is there there will always be the demand I suppose.  Its such a shame that some girls feel they should offer this to stay ahead of the competition and have this mentality of "it will never happen to me" .

So I am perfectly entitled to my opinion and will not be made to feel like I'm a terrible person  because of this opinion.  I certainly do not "sit around being judgemental about other people" in general but like I said its something I do feel strongly about and that will never change and for the record  because I do not have unprotected sex and do not see punters who see  girls who do bb  I AM less likely to catch something thank you very much.

Cherrylips, you and everybody else of course have the right to turn away or accept any client for whatever reason you choose, and your motives for doing so are nobody's business but your own. Some ladies will not see men purely because of their age or ethnic origin and no matter how hateful and ignorant I find that type 0f prejudice I also accept that it is not for me to tell people how they should conduct their business, and I'm sure that's what Emily meant. I would ask that you stop posting vaguely formed 'statistics' unless you can substantiate them with evidence, please - 'multiplied tenfold' according to whom, and when? Who were the sample group studied, and how many of them were there?

Every time this old chestnut pops up I post a vaguely different version of the same thing as below:

I'm more interested in who you suggest we appoint to decide and police what adult women can and cannot do with their bodies, and what (legal) services we should be permitted (or not) to offer? Why stop at bareback? Plenty of people disapprove of hardsports/scat, BDSM and even OWO - shall we ban them as well?

It is up to the individual to decide what legal services he or she wants to offer or avail her/himself of, and to glibly state that because someone is prepared to provide or perform acts that we personally disapprove of must automatically be 'desperate' or 'exploited' is not only patronising, but disingenuous in the extreme.

People can offer whatever they like, provided they are within the law. There are enough folk out there who think we and our clients are all filthy scum - we don't need to start looking down our noses at each other too. And for the purposes of clarity, 1322 out of a total of 14221 female escorts [on AW at the time] currently advertising is slightly under nine and a half percent, which even without allowing for the sizeable chunk of those which will be fake, still means that over ninety percent of advertisers not offering it. Personally, I worry far more about the people who insist that they would never do such a thing, and then offer it anyway ( 'oh, it's just with a couple of regulars I've known for ages' seems to be a common one - the mind boggles).

Speaking for myself, I assume all clients do bareback with somebody, whether it's other prossies, one night stands or the missus and decide on my services accordingly. I suspect that we're the lowest risk group of the lot.

After several tries, I still haven't had any sort of answer to the first question. I don't do bareback or even OWO but from a hypothetical point of view, if I decided I was going to offer unprotected everything in every orifice for 50p, nobody, but NOBODY is going to tell me I can't. Who gets to decide for us what we are allowed to do with our own bodies and for what reason? Do we ban all unprotected sex between people who are not in a monogamous relationship, or just that where money has changed hands? How would this be enforced?

All we can do is take responsibility for our own sexual health, calculate the risks we are prepared to take (or not) including filtering which clients we are prepared to see and act appropriately. It's also worth remembering that the world does not revolve around Adultwork, and the man who may have twenty lovely feedbacks from butter-wouldn't-melt ladies who wouldn't knock out a handjob without body armour could have spent the previous evening with his regular who doesn't advertise on there, but both advertises bb and does it with anyone who asks. I would recommend that ladies worry less about what other people are doing and concern themselves solely with self preservation. The two things are not the same.

well i must say it was good to read every one thougths on this matter
as many of you said every one to there own choice
we all have to live with it and be able to sleep at night