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Title: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Kendra Glasgow on 20 December 2015, 09:50:21 pm
So I had a couple of calls late last nite so sent a text asking that they call during my working hours and to refer to my profile then I get another call from them so I asked them not to call again.

Then tonight get the same number call me (again out of hours) and I missed the call but this time the wife texts me from this guys phone saying that she wants to know who I am and if I am a business.

Normally I would ignore but I got back to this person after missing their call so I was kinda on the spot.

The best thing I could come up with was that it must have been a wrong number, she said she wants answers and wants the truth.

I said it's either a wrong number or you really need to ask your husband as I don't recognise this number. I'm hardly going to give my name and details out to a random person that I do not know and I said that if it makes you feel any better....I haven't had a boyfriend in 4 years (the truth lol) so if your husbands cheating on you, he ain't doing it with me (also the truth) then I said goodbye and blocked the number.

I know it's not our responsibility to cover their tracks for them nor is it us who's deceiving anyone so we shouldn't feel bad but fucking hell, I feel awful. When I do this job, I tell myself it is just a job and I don't think of their wives but when you get the wives on the phone hurting....it's just horrible.

xx

Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Shewolf on 20 December 2015, 09:59:43 pm
I think you responded well to that one. Horrible situation x
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Kendra Glasgow on 20 December 2015, 10:06:14 pm
Thanks sweetie pie, I hope so but I know that no matter what I say....she's gonna have serious doubts. Even if I just ignored her after getting back to her/him, that too would have had her spidey senses going x
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Mirror on 21 December 2015, 08:07:14 am
The other thing to remember is that you really have no way of knowing that it was his wife. A bit like when after sending daft or abusive texts and calls, some then claim it was their mated playing with their phone, can they now please have a booking.?
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: annabellexoxo on 21 December 2015, 11:46:33 am
I think you did well.  I really dislike it when the wife takes on another woman but does not do anything to her 'dear hubby' as he is innocent, whether is in this business or in real life.  Is not like you run after him begging him to meet you.

The wife should have a conversation with him first and foremost.
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: BibiofLeeds on 21 December 2015, 12:51:40 pm
The other thing to remember is that you really have no way of knowing that it was his wife. A bit like when after sending daft or abusive texts and calls, some then claim it was their mated playing with their phone, can they now please have a booking.?
I have had this several times and then aload of abuse via email on both occaisions I didn't quite believe it was someones actual wife and I wouldn't know which bloke they were referring to anyway.I suspected another wg was playing silly games and trying to scare me.
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Guiltypleasure on 30 January 2016, 11:59:22 am
Oh I got this but only via text over Christmas, got a happy Christmas text and sent one back, next minute my phone rings and a woman saying you just text my bloke saying happy Christmas cutie, I said oh wrong number sorry ....then she text next day telling me her life story , how long they'd been together etc and they were now not together if I could help her at all could I please , she sounded desperate....( he sent an apologetic text and also a'story') so I basically text her back said I'd blocked his number he can get his business stuff sorted with another company and that I was happily married with a whole load of Grandchildren and that because I'm older I tend to call everyone cutie etc even my old mans friends in front of him and give them kisses and cuddles on top  blah blah.......she sent a message back to say thanks v much and how kind I was !!!!
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: trashbaby on 30 January 2016, 12:18:27 pm
So sorry this happened. You handled it really well.

It is just a job yes, and if we thought about the wives too much most of us wouldn't be able to do it at all. Just remember you haven't done anything wrong, it's HIS marriage and HIS choice to cheat.

I once had a long-term relationship with a married man in my personal life, and when she eventually busted him all hell broke loose.  I sat and watched their lives fall apart, and my own too.  I felt absolutely terrible, the guilt was unbelievable.  But even in that situation, when there was actual feelings involved, it was still ~his problem~.  He had broken her heart, and mine, in such a tragic and awful way.

It's just work.  You haven't done anything wrong.
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Guiltypleasure on 30 January 2016, 12:35:08 pm
Hi Poppy I don't really worry about the wives at all ....I see it as a totally ,well thought out solution to a minor problem in a marriage, maybe I should say major prob but anyway lots of guys choose to have an inpersonal 'arrangement' just to get there 'fix' rather than have an affair that could/would cause emotional trauma , break up , divorce etc...... Most of the guys I see love their wives and lifestyle dearly but still need the naughty ness that sometimes disappears in marriages......then there are the ones that want to be whipped or caned sworn at etc ( probably something they never mention to their wives) ....I see it as an informed choice by the guy to save his marriage and families feelings by having incognito sex once every now and again .......ooooh dear this is starting to sound dodgy but I know what I mean...lol xxx I lot of the guys I see say there's no way on earth he'd get a blow job at home lol !!!!
Title: Re: Aw yuck, I just had someone's wife on the phone!
Post by: Wailing Banshee on 30 January 2016, 03:31:15 pm
I just know I'm going to jinx myself here, but in  the 6ish years I have been doing this a wife/partner has never called me, but I think you handled it well. I think saying the least amount possible the best course of action for any wife calling scenario- both because we don't need the added stress of it and because, as Bibi says we really have no idea if it is genuine.

It is their relationship, their issue, their problem to deal with, not ours. Heartless but you have to not think about it.