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Harlow

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Are we age honest?
« on: 22 May 2010, 02:55:44 am »
Hello all,

I was just wondering if it is fairly common to be just a little out on the truth when it comes telling a client your age.
As I'm talking about honesty I had better be honest & say I lie a little! The reason being though is I genuinely get mistaken for being younger then I am. So when a client asks my age I tell him the usual age I get mistaken for.
However when I have been pondering on adultwork like the nosey cow I am, I have noticed that girls my real age seem to have more hits & ratings then girls younger, & obviously it now has made me wonder if lying is worth it?

Should we come out of our age closets? Anyone care to share?

Thanks Harlow x

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #1 on: 22 May 2010, 03:38:47 am »
So when a client asks my age I tell him the usual age I get mistaken for.
Thanks Harlow x

I like the approach!  ;D

I think the problem is that clients are aware that we are usually saying few years less, so I am afraid when I say my true age, in their minds it will be +5.

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #2 on: 22 May 2010, 08:29:37 am »
Don't most clients have a 'range' if age is important to them, anyway? I can't imagine a client saying, "She MUST be 27! Not 26 or 28!" unless you're looking at the teen thing in which case it's only legal to be a working teen for a brief two years so I'm sure it's not unusual for that age 19 to get extended for a couple of years!

I think age-based stereotypes are about the most redundant, though, so I can't imagine ever being arsed to lie about mine to try and get more clients. If a guy is looking for a teen because he assumes it'll be like one of those Wet & Wild whatever Hot Teen Sex pornos then he might be disappointed with a real teen but end up more satisfied being slightly misled by a very accomplished 25-year-old. If he's looking for a MILF or a cougar (where do these ridiculous terms for 'Women I Would Like To Put My Penis In: Grouped By Age' come from?!) then again, he's looking for someone to fit a stereotype and frankly, fitting into stereotypes is hard work with little reward!

Considering threads such as the one about clients who come but don't stay after looking at you, some guys do maybe get a bit carried away on the Adultwork searches being able to hunt through piles of hot babez and filter them and group them by arbitrary physical features, but if they're going to be super-judgemental about a woman's physical characteristics and obsess about finding that perfect Blond/Brunette Tan/Bronze/Dark/Fair Teen/MILF (delete as applicable) then they might miss out on something much better.

All that was a very long way of saying... I don't think anyone should lie about their age! Say you're 107 if that's what you are and if some silly little man sends you a rude email on Adultwork about it, or a client makes a snide remark, just be glad you'll never be as lame as them. Also: Women already spend way too much time worrying about their appearance and all this means is that cosmetics & beauty industries make a bazillion pounds a year. Don't be giving them your hard-earn escorting wages, too! Especially as you (all women) happen to be beautiful already. :)
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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #3 on: 22 May 2010, 08:58:55 am »
I don't lie about my age although a few websites have carried old details without updating. I do look/can appear in my mid 20s but have found some older guys say they wouldn't see anyone under say 30. I do often get experienced 'punters' adding on 5 years before they have met me and obviously they get a massive surprise when they do meet me. Would rather that than be told or asked if I am actually older than I say!

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #4 on: 22 May 2010, 09:24:04 am »
Don't lie and just put 20.
But most of my clients automatically assume I'm a few years older. Then when I show up they're suprised and it goes around the lines of: "Oh, you do look very young, you really are 20 then?"  ::)
I have thought about sticking to nineteen for a while longer though, since I used to get quite a few clients who especially wanted the whole teen deal. But ultimately I don't think it makes a huge difference, and its easier to be honest.

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #5 on: 22 May 2010, 09:49:09 am »
I tell the truth, though most people (in life in general) think I'm younger than 21 so I could probably pretend... but I don't feel younger if you get me, I don't want to act like a giggly 19 year old to fit with the story I'd be telling.
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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #6 on: 22 May 2010, 11:05:33 am »
I must confess i lie about my age,i say I'm 27 when actually I'm 31! :o

Thing is the agency i work at consists mainly of girls in their early to mid 20s and that's the age range the clients are looking for. Ive actually had clients say to me a woman over 30 is 'old' (don't even get me started on how much it pisses me off). I just think that if i said i was 31 they would expect a girl who looks and acts older than i actually do. Ive never had anyone contest the age i say i am so i must be doing alright.
One of my friends at the agency says she is 24 and she actually 32,now that's impressive (all the clients have believed her so far)
And at least I'm honest about my dress size,theres girls at my agency stating they are a size 10 who are actually 2 dress sizes bigger. I personally think that's sillier than fibbing about your age. If you look around that age you say you are the clients wont contest it but if your a lot curvier than you say you are then they notice straight away and your leaving yourself open to all sorts of client related unpleasantness.

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #7 on: 22 May 2010, 12:39:36 pm »
I think some younger escorts will be pleasantly surprised when they hit 30. I see it as the optimum age for an escort. For the nicer clients rather than the complete tossers!
You can still get the younger ones who like MILF, also the older ones who dont like the idea of shagging a lady younger than thier daughter. I once lied and said I was older than advertised for that reason. The relief on his face was brilliant! And ive seen him quite a few times.
Anyway theres always light diffusing foundation if you start to notice fine lines.
So enjoy your youth, god knows it doesnt last but its not the end of the world to be a woman of a "certain age."
There was a lady on Adultwork last year who was advertising at age 70. So theres hope for us all!  :P
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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #8 on: 22 May 2010, 03:37:58 pm »
Well I'm 51 and I confess I sometimes say am 50! If anyone's wondering if I get much work at my ripe old age, I can assure you that I do ok. I'd probably get more if I was 15 years younger, but am not, so why worry? I'm certainly not going to lie about it and start investing in botox injections. I didn't start in the business till I was 47 and I love the idea that I subvert all the stereotypes about women only being sexually attractive when they're young.

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #9 on: 22 May 2010, 08:54:44 pm »
I think some younger escorts will be pleasantly surprised when they hit 30. I see it as the optimum age for an escort.

lol, I wondered about that. In fact, looking around I was surprised that the majority of guy escorts out there are 25-35. Im just 22 LOL. At one point I thought after 30, escorting is a bit 'out of league' and I wouldn't want to be depending on a man for money by that time...But, I havent too much thought about that and also the fact that some people prefer someone from that age bracket.

30 may be the optimum age, but the younger 20s are the PRIME time! You're new, horny on a daily basis...and I've been having sex for less than a decade still  :D

Harlow

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #10 on: 22 May 2010, 11:45:31 pm »
Hi,

I'm all with Simone & Cindy on this one. I am actually 30 but I get ID for alcohol every time, I do think my height has alot to do with it as I'm 5ft nothing! I have been a 25yr old escort for the last five years now lol.
I think I will advertise myself at 27-28 from now on though, a happy medium. I have to say age is the only thing I do lie about, I love the fact my clients say how relieved they are that I was honest in my description. So with saying that they must believe I'm 25! I do tell my regulars eventually my real age & I do always get a surprised response. I wouldn't say I've ever acted up the the age thing as I always state I am a mature 25 year old, so I can be my professional self. I think if you have a website & you show your face I think if they like what they see they wont fuss to much about the stated age.

Harlow x

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #11 on: 24 May 2010, 02:45:55 am »
The problem I have with age honesty is that there's a great difference between what age you're actually in - and what age too many men think you're in.

Example: they look at someone and see a pretty girl. They automatically assume she must be in her 20ies. Well if they first heard that she was 35, then chances are they might not even have looked at her. Because God forbid, if same desirable woman happens to be 10 years older than they first imagined.  ::)

I believe it's easy to be age honest when you're still in your 20ies. That's when you are in your most desirable massmarket appeal (as far as most agencies, parlours, strip clubs etc go) so you've got nothing to loose by being honest. Well, things aren't as easy say 10 years down the line, when too many agencies and parlours only seem to list "young girls" and may not even meet you for an interview. Not unless you blurt out "I'm in my late 20ies" - and still look it.

In fact the whole "girlification" of women makes me nauseous. The whole: men v/s "girls". As opposed to men v/s women. It's there in broadcasting: where mature female TV presenters get replaced by younger "girls". It's in most women's mag articles, especially when the topic is dating and fully grown women get addressed as "girls" looking for "men". It's there when 30 something actresses/pop stars etc are branded as "girls", whereas their male counterparts are addressed as "men". It's every time an older model/actress/celeb gets her wrinkles/cellulite/mid riff scrutinised. It's in many, many sectors of employment but I suspect it's at worst in fashion, entertainment and sex industry.

It's insulting, degrading, infantile, demeaning and belittleling to women, IMHO. It's as if it's OK for a man to grow up and become a man, but for a woman to grow up and... Remain a girl.

And in our business I think it manifests itself by how many more men prefer "young girls" as opposed to women their own age. I find those men deeply immature. Why else do they desire 20 year old escorts, when they themselves are old enough to be their dads? (Not to say grand dads...) I think if we were emotionally equally developed (meaning many more male clients were less dumb), then high class agencies would be filled with 50 year old ladies. Since vast majority of clients (give and take young lads and seniors) - are themselves middleaged men.

I am not against men looking for sex (or relationships) with people of various ages. But I'm sick and tired of men rejecting women their own age, or men regarding women of certain age as "past it".  >:(  

Therefore, I never hold it against any escort who feels the need to lie about her age. Yes, it's sad and we shouldn't have to do it. But then, it's sad that we have to live in such age fascist culture, and be amongst so many immature men/agencies/parlours/strip clubs etc.

Personally, I decided not to state any age or statistics on my web site or directories. Well, who needs numbers when you have pictures to look at? Use your eyes, not your d!ck (as Violette said)  ;)

I'm not sure if it's a good or a bad idea. I don't know whether I loose lots of clients or whether my pictures and over all presentation will win them over. I also don't know how large percentage of them only search by age criteria in directories. I will simply have to see.

But the main thing is - I'm not lying. ;D
« Last Edit: 24 May 2010, 04:11:30 am by SnakeLady »
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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #12 on: 24 May 2010, 04:05:13 am »
I didn't start in the business till I was 47 and I love the idea that I subvert all the stereotypes about women only being sexually attractive when they're young.

Way to go!
 
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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #13 on: 24 May 2010, 09:10:05 am »
Exactly!

In the last couple of weeks I've had the fortune to attend a couple of socials arranged by some regional forums I frequent. Chaps at both events said they were surprised as they'd imagined me as much older, due to my posting style.

I think it's a compliment.  :-\

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Re: Are we age honest?
« Reply #14 on: 25 May 2010, 03:40:33 am »
I'm 51 and proud of it, and I've been amazed on AW how many men want a more mature and large lady. So i would never lie!