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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: peaches_xx on 05 August 2020, 07:48:21 pm
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Don't know what else to do. Business is ruined.
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I did last week and I had a suicide attempt. Luckily I couldn’t go through with it. Things are really bad at the moment and it is hard. Today I’m touring and have had one client so far and so many Timewasters. It’s been like this consistently now. I think maybe it’s time to take a break for a couple months until this whole thing has gone over people’s head otherwise you’re just making a loss and sitting around all day and making yourself even more depressed.
But I know that’s easier said than done with some people’s financial situation. Head up darling hopefully all this shit will pass soon. If it gives you any peace of mind I and thousands of other girls are experiencing the same at the moment.
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Don't know what else to do. Business is ruined.
Well... drinking is definately not going to fix it :( Sorry don;t mean to be condescending but this lockdown and it's consequences has seem to have skyrocketed mental health issues (specially anxiety and depression) in everybody. Drinking is usually a sympton of one of those. Call your GP and ask for advise, I'm pretty he/she will lead you in the right direction. They have many resources for this type of issues. Lately I'm seeing a lot of depressed or anxious people around me who didn;t had this problem pre-lockdown.
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Well... drinking is definately not going to fix it :(
Exactly.
Would recommend getting some specific support, this is from someone who's been there, done it.
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Well... drinking is definately not going to fix it :( Sorry don;t mean to be condescending but this lockdown and it's consequences has seem to have skyrocketed mental health issues (specially anxiety and depression) in everybody. Drinking is usually a sympton of one of those. Call your GP and ask for advise, I'm pretty he/she will lead you in the right direction. They have many resources for this type of issues.
May also be local as well as online support too, know almost all have been operating throughout the restrictions.
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At the risk of sounding trite, this will hopefully just be a blip in your mood. Try and get outside, do some walking etc., and maybe think if there's some other way you could earn money, even if it's just a little job in a charity shop or something?
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At the risk of sounding trite, this will hopefully just be a blip in your mood. Try and get outside, do some walking etc., and maybe think if there's some other way you could earn money, even if it's just a little job in a charity shop or something?
That's a great idea, I'll make a lot of money in the charity shop.
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Drinking will make your problems a lot worse
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It is only managers who earn in charity shops. All the other staff are made up entirely of volunteers. The managers don't earn much either.
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Have you considered meditation? You may find that more beneficial.
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Peaches I don't know your financial situation so can't comment on that. But the way I see it is you can go one of two ways, up or down.
You're obviously an intelligent businesswoman since you have been running a business as an escort so you know that drinking is only hiding from the issues that worry you. And the longer it goes on the harder it will be to stop and see things clearly. Also bills and debts will rack up. You can stop it now though.
When I said up or down, the drinking will only take you down. Stepping back for a few days and assessing where you are and what you can do will start you on the up. There will be options but you need to look for them.
I am only saying this as someone who was in a LOT of debt a few years back and God do I wish I'd stopped and done something about it before it got to where it was. So I know how easy it is to ignore things and allow them to slide. The problem is then that they only get worse and it can take a very long time and an awful lot of worry and stress to sort out. Problems often seem insurmountable but they will always be easier to deal with the earlier you address them. I do know what I'm talking about.
So please get some help before things get any worse.
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+1.
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It is only managers who earn in charity shops. All the other staff are made up entirely of volunteers. The managers don't earn much either.
It was just an example of something to do to take the focus away from escorting not working, rather than replacing the money.
If escorting is dead and you need to earn, there are a few options:
1. Lower your rates
2. Expand your services/availability
3. Get a part-time civvy job
4. Give up completely and get a full-time civvy job
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It was just an example of something to do to take the focus away from escorting not working, rather than replacing the money.
If escorting is dead and you need to earn, there are a few options:
1. Lower your rates
2. Expand your services/availability
3. Get a part-time civvy job
4. Give up completely and get a full-time civvy job
5. Make & sell clips/photos, become a cammer/phone sex operator, join Only Fans/AVNStars/Frisk etc
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I did last week and I had a suicide attempt. Luckily I couldn’t go through with it. Things are really bad at the moment and it is hard. Today I’m touring and have had one client so far and so many Timewasters. It’s been like this consistently now. I think maybe it’s time to take a break for a couple months until this whole thing has gone over people’s head otherwise you’re just making a loss and sitting around all day and making yourself even more depressed.
But I know that’s easier said than done with some people’s financial situation. Head up darling hopefully all this shit will pass soon. If it gives you any peace of mind I and thousands of other girls are experiencing the same at the moment.
Sorry to hear that Sophine. I hope you are feeling better. Yes I have considered just giving up for the rest of the year for my mental health.
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5. Make & sell clips/photos, become a cammer/phone sex operator, join Only Fans/AVNStars/Frisk etc
Is Onlyfans profitable to the average Jane? Seems like there would be a lot of competition on there.
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Peaches I don't know your financial situation so can't comment on that. But the way I see it is you can go one of two ways, up or down.
You're obviously an intelligent businesswoman since you have been running a business as an escort so you know that drinking is only hiding from the issues that worry you. And the longer it goes on the harder it will be to stop and see things clearly. Also bills and debts will rack up. You can stop it now though.
When I said up or down, the drinking will only take you down. Stepping back for a few days and assessing where you are and what you can do will start you on the up. There will be options but you need to look for them.
I am only saying this as someone who was in a LOT of debt a few years back and God do I wish I'd stopped and done something about it before it got to where it was. So I know how easy it is to ignore things and allow them to slide. The problem is then that they only get worse and it can take a very long time and an awful lot of worry and stress to sort out. Problems often seem insurmountable but they will always be easier to deal with the earlier you address them. I do know what I'm talking about.
So please get some help before things get any worse.
Thanks, I appreciate your words of support
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Substance abuse is stealing happiness from your future. I am so sorry you are feeling down, but almost everyone is in the same boat, if not struggling financially, struggling with isolation, grief or Long Covid symptoms. My post viral symptoms are mild, but still life affecting. One of my close friends, who was a very fit gym bod, now has arthritis all over.
Please go get some help because no one finds help at the bottom of a bottle, just more pain, increased health problems and even less money.
It's not cool, you are not Jack Sparrow and my friend had to bury her alcoholic younger brother the other day, his liver finally gave out.
It is not something to mess with.
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Please don’t drink- it’ll make you very depressed.
Make a pot of tea instead and have a fag if you smoke, and read.
Do you like books? Do you have any interests or subjects you are passionate about?
Reading saved me from the misery- it transports you to a different world for a few hours.
I also get out walking in the country or driving to the coast and taking a book on the beach or walking.
Yesterday I visited a wildlife park and really enjoyed it, it does you good to get out in the fresh air.
I know it’s extremely hard right now, things are so bleak but they will get better at some point.
Many guys are stuck at home with no way of escape, probably going out of their minds too.
But no, drinking will just make you feel worse and rot your liver, so it’s just not worth it.
Sending you good wishes, and for all of us too! X
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The libraries are closed :(