It's also about nerves from previous negative experiences. I see quite a few of them and they seem to open up to me. We spend time chatting and a common theme stems from bad experiences with civvy girls who laugh at size or shape, talk about ex-lovers who rocked their world, laugh and take the piss if the guy cums quickly which of course sometimes they do cos they are really turned on and/or they haven't fucked for ages.
For others it is a lack of experience, often linked with a lack of confidence around females.
I'm finding myself doing more sex therapy with some guys, not that I am complaining haha. It's a win/win they have their confidence built, sometimes they manage to cum in the early days and I get regulars who are happy to go with the flow and not at all demanding.
Now older guys, a lot of porn is watched. A couple of my regs always watch porn before I arrive and have it on in the background when I'm there. Ask them what they have done that week, and it's did a bit of shopping, some maybe been bookies, a couple of pubs mentioned, seen family at the weekend, saw a couple of mates but mainly watched porn and wanked because what else is there to do.