Quote from: LithyBony on 13 December 2013, 07:55:21 am

My apologies but.... I think that's the childish way of telling someone you have a problem with their actions. I can not see this tit for tat approach ending well and probably just build up a lot of resentment between the two girls. IMHO

Its just how I would handle a selfish girl who isn't even vaguely interested when I speak to her nicely about the problem. Listen, Im me, I do things how I do things. Don't apologise in advance of an insult, whats the point. If you are that sorry don't say it lol. I don't happen to believe its childish, I do believe in give as good as you get though if someone is being outright selfish and completely disregarding how her actions are affecting her flatmate even when she spoke to her about it what would you suggest the OP do?? Ask nicely till the cows come home? Put up with being tired every day?

Perhaps if the selfish girl was on the end of her own treatment it would make her think twice, unfortunately there is no talking so some people no matter how hard you try, they only understand the same treatment back x

I never insulted you. I simply disagreed with what you said and I apologised in advance for disagreeing to soften the blow and let you know that I was not just being a b!tch.

Secondly is it not slightly hypocritical to say "Im me, I do things how I do things" and then turn around and say ". Don't apologise in advance of an insult, whats the point. If you are that sorry don't say it lol.". The same I can do whatever I want attitude you have... does that not extend to everyone else?

Anyway. This is not about me nor you. The OP herself was uncomfortable with the tit for tat method of solving the problem with her flatmate. So you are suggesting that someone should act out of character and  potentially make things worst just to get their own back. I got the idea the OP was trying to find peace and not declare war.
And... It could also be that the flatmate is not fully aware of how her actions are impacting on the OP. I believe the OP is skilled enough to communicate her disdain for her flatmate's actions and even solve the problem without getting in the pig pen and rolling around in the mud with her.

I am not going to expand any further but if you can see the bigger picture when it comes to people who believe in dishing out their own version of tit for tatting and an eye for an eye... you will see that it's not always justice.

Quote from: Chloe Kisses on 13 December 2013, 11:08:56 pm

Quote from: LithyBony on 13 December 2013, 07:55:21 am

My apologies but.... I think that's the childish way of telling someone you have a problem with their actions. I can not see this tit for tat approach ending well and probably just build up a lot of resentment between the two girls. IMHO

Its just how I would handle a selfish girl who isn't even vaguely interested when I speak to her nicely about the problem. Listen, Im me, I do things how I do things. Don't apologise in advance of an insult, whats the point. If you are that sorry don't say it lol. I don't happen to believe its childish, I do believe in give as good as you get though if someone is being outright selfish and completely disregarding how her actions are affecting her flatmate even when she spoke to her about it what would you suggest the OP do?? Ask nicely till the cows come home? Put up with being tired every day?

Perhaps if the selfish girl was on the end of her own treatment it would make her think twice, unfortunately there is no talking so some people no matter how hard you try, they only understand the same treatment back x

I never insulted you. I simply disagreed with what you said and I apologised in advance for disagreeing to soften the blow and let you know that I was not just being a b!tch.

Secondly is it not slightly hypocritical to say "Im me, I do things how I do things" and then turn around and say ". Don't apologise in advance of an insult, whats the point. If you are that sorry don't say it lol.". The same I can do whatever I want attitude you have... does that not extend to everyone else?

Anyway. This is not about me nor you. The OP herself was uncomfortable with the tit for tat method of solving the problem with her flatmate. So you are suggesting that someone should act out of character and  potentially make things worst just to get their own back. I got the idea the OP was trying to find peace and not declare war.
And... It could also be that the flatmate is not fully aware of how her actions are impacting on the OP. I believe the OP is skilled enough to communicate her disdain for her flatmate's actions and even solve the problem without getting in the pig pen and rolling around in the mud with her.

I am not going to expand any further but if you can see the bigger picture when it comes to people who believe in dishing out their own version of tit for tatting and an eye for an eye... you will see that it's not always justice.

You didn't insult me? mmm "childish" ? Right, not insulting at all.

Is there a bigger picture, gosh, never would have guessed. Sorry for the sarcasm but honestly. We are talking about slamming a door  back at someone for goodness sake not "rolling around in a pig pen", I was hardly espousing the kicking off of world war 3 or ushering in a new cold war.

If you honestly have not come across people who don't give a fig about others even when the consequences others have to suffer because of their actions has a negative affect on the innocent party then I am happy for you, you have lived a charmed life surrounded by lovely people. I have met several people over the years who barged on through life with absolutely zero self awareness or understanding of how their selfish little actions  affected others lives, even when it was pointed out to them very nicely several times. Eventually someone usually taught them a lesson by treating them the same way they treated others. This works for some people, don't ask me why.

If my flatmate told me I had kept her up during the night being loud I would be mortified and highly apologetic. The OP told her flat mate and gave the impression that the flat mate didn't seem to take on board her issue.

By the way I agree, you can post what you wish, as can I x

Can we get back on topic please! Please take any issues you may have with one another to PM.

As far as what the OP has said it is probably wisest (although not always easiest) to keep her head down, be polite yet firm, and to get on with her own work rather than exacerbating the situation by 'acting up' like the other worker did. If someone isn't great to share with and can be a little unpredictable then it's probably best to add fuel to the fire, the OP's said she's focused on working hard rather than scoring points or dealing with aggro.

Now back on topic, thank you  

Be happy too xxx

Apologies in advance to Daisy, Amy, Ian and other mods/admin but I had to say this...

@Chloe Kisses and @Lilty Boney

That was the most eloquent disagreement I have ever witnessed! It was like poetry how it ebbed and flowed! Glad you both agreed to disagree when you did but what a way with words you both have.

I think for this reason I would never rent out with another girl unless I know her incredibly well. Even work separately for the day, I would only ever do duos in one apartment.