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Anal accidents/douching and TMI :-)
« on: 29 May 2010, 03:45:32 am »
Have any of you ever had an 'accident' during or after anal sex?
It happened to me once and I was absolutely mortified!
Since then (which was months ago now) I've always been nervous of it happening again.

and while on the subject how do you feel about douching. I always douche before I leave if I know they want anal...but maybe that's what gave me the problem...after all it's similar to an enema lol

After my accident I said to the guy...Oh well shit happens!

At least he laughed! But OMG....the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me in my life i think!

Daisy xxx


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Re: Anal accidents/douching and TMI :-)
« Reply #1 on: 29 May 2010, 12:09:38 pm »
Have any of you ever had an 'accident' during or after anal sex?
It happened to me once and I was absolutely mortified!
Since then (which was months ago now) I've always been nervous of it happening again.

and while on the subject how do you feel about douching. I always douche before I leave if I know they want anal...but maybe that's what gave me the problem...after all it's similar to an enema lol

After my accident I said to the guy...Oh well shit happens!

At least he laughed! But OMG....the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me in my life i think!

Daisy xxx

Do your douche three times and at least half an hour before you leave/the booking starts - an hour if possible. Remember, it's not just a matter of getting the water in, it's also got to all come out again, and this isn't necessarily going to happen instantly.

I ask people to mention it when booking if they want anal, this being the main reason - it does sometimes get brought into proceedings once things have got going but fortunately I've never had problems (which considering the amount of food I put away is a miracle in itself  :D).

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« Reply #2 on: 29 May 2010, 06:52:25 pm »
but fortunately I've never had problems (which considering the amount of food I put away is a miracle in itself  :D).

Wow, that is unbelievable. Everyone who has done anal has at some point has had 'shit happen' LOL. But being that you follow the 3 times, and wait half-an- hour, there shouldn't be any problem.

I always try avoiding douching when necessary. Lets just do oral LOL.

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« Reply #3 on: 29 May 2010, 07:38:11 pm »
I'm so paranoid about this and its the main reason why I don't offer anal!
Just a few questions for those of you who do it regularly, do you always do an enema before? Is douche the equivalent of an enema? Generally, how do you avoid a mess?  ???

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« Reply #4 on: 29 May 2010, 10:07:43 pm »
Unless you want absolutely no poo at all, it is not that hard. There is usually only poo in your rectum when you're just about or actually having a poo. An enema should just clean out any small traces left from the last one. Because the walls of the rectum are thinner than the walls of the vagina, you need to be more careful with what you stick in it, including via enemas.

'The Guide to Anal Sex for Women' is very good. You can also point men who want to be fucked at it, and they often also find it less easy to buy than the '.. for Men' one.

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« Reply #5 on: 29 May 2010, 11:58:42 pm »
I usuually douche untill it runs clean...and yes usuually in the shower just before leaving...so now i know !

Thanks for all the replies.

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« Reply #6 on: 30 May 2010, 12:21:44 am »
Because the walls of the rectum are thinner than the walls of the vagina, you need to be more careful with what you stick in it, including via enemas.

Definitely. I got one of these - look out for ones with rounded ends and no sharp edges. And use lube.

'The Guide to Anal Sex for Women' is very good. You can also point men who want to be fucked at it, and they often also find it less easy to buy than the '.. for Men' one.

And here it is! Looks good too - thanks Richard  :).

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Anal douching
« Reply #7 on: 13 December 2011, 12:48:05 pm »
Hi all

Have resurrected an old thread as this is something I am trying to dabble with at the mo! 

I haven't done anal for ages but am looking into it again.  Funnily enough when I used to do it (sorry I know this sounds gross but I don't recall douching and don't recall any erm........... waste coming out!). 

However, I ventured down to Ann Summers and bought this first : -

http://www.annsummers.com/p/booty-bath-douche/07ototas1031014

Without being too graphic, I felt like I had so much wind when using it and it didn't seem to expel anything at all.  I went back to the shop and had a chat with an assistant who said perhaps I was pushing it in too far and to just put it in a little way only (?).

Nevertheless, I gave up on that and bought this instead:

http://www.annsummers.com/p/anal-douche/07anatas1030044

My thinking being that something more costly might do a better job!  Now looking at it, I am (naively!) a bit bewildered as I don't understand why it's got the dome shaped little lid that comes off?  I presume I take it off to insert the douche but having read Amy's last post on this subject, it seems that this one does have sharp edges as you take the dome bit off presumably to let the water in. 

Anyone used this?  Any help please.   

I do think some of it is nerves perhaps and if I relax then it will fall (or flow) into place.  It's not something I am offering workwise, just want to have some fun with in my personal life. 

Will pop back into the store to get advice but thought some of you might help more here!

Feel like a right twit!

Jen

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Re: Anal accidents/douching and TMI :-)
« Reply #8 on: 13 December 2011, 01:53:18 pm »
Have any of you ever had an 'accident' during or after anal sex?
It happened to me once and I was absolutely mortified!
Since then (which was months ago now) I've always been nervous of it happening again.

and while on the subject how do you feel about douching. I always douche before I leave if I know they want anal...but maybe that's what gave me the problem...after all it's similar to an enema lol

After my accident I said to the guy...Oh well shit happens!

At least he laughed! But OMG....the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me in my life i think!

Daisy xxx

Do your douche three times and at least half an hour before you leave/the booking starts - an hour if possible. Remember, it's not just a matter of getting the water in, it's also got to all come out again, and this isn't necessarily going to happen instantly.
I ask people to mention it when booking if they want anal, this being the main reason - it does sometimes get brought into proceedings once things have got going but fortunately I've never had problems (which considering the amount of food I put away is a miracle in itself  :D).


I provide anal and use duche with lube to clean up.I repeat it as many time as water will run clean.It's not two times,like I read on some anal related forum,nor 3.I could expect an accident If I wouldn't do it properly.
I purchased 1.5 container for enema,but I will try it when I won't be available.I had enema done in health clinic few years ago and I spend over 20 minutes sitting in the toilet.Every time I thought it's finished I still got something more coming out :(
I wouldn't like to feel any discomfort like that during an appointment.

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« Reply #9 on: 13 December 2011, 07:48:17 pm »
A chat about scat!
Far too much detail to follow  ;D

Unless you want absolutely no poo at all, it is not that hard.
Naaa!
It's about knowing your body.
I've only ever done anal (vagina on order...)
and in all the years of 'rectumational' sex, there's never been a spot of poo.

You get to know your body after a while.
I douche using a similar item to the last pic in the OP link.
(the cap is to prevent any damage to the sphincter area)

How to douche
Firstly, Open the window; you won't believe how bad you smell on the inside!   :-X

  • Water must be no more than 40 degrees, ie. not too hot. Basically a temperature you can comfortably keep you hand in the water {buy a thermometer} as you might accidentally put scalding water inside you and not immediately notice.
  • Use a bowl or bin as a reservoir. Put nozzle in water squeeze & release bulb, put douche upright, squeeze excess air out of douche, put back in reservoir and squeeze/release again, to top up.
  • Use sex lube on nozzle and in anus.
  • Gently put up bum, slowly squeeze.
  • Remove nozzle and hold water in bum.
  • If you experience any resistance or pain, STOP! back off and try again, SLOWLY. The rectum is easily damaged. So take your time and don't force anything.
  • Retain the water inside you, refill and repeat. With two lots of water in you, wait till you need to go.
Stay by loo as things happen fast. Expel water & poo. Repeat until clear.
You will need to douche anything from 5 to 15 times in each cycle
Also lie on left hand side while holding water in. This helps water flow
due to layout of our internal tubes. 
You will probably need to do two more cycles, as described above, over a 90 minute period
as the body seems to hold poo in three chambers.
This may not be anatomically correct as a description, but it is accurate in experience.
Baby wipes are good for a final internal clean up and last check to ensure you are good-to-go.
{I use baby wipes internally after every bowl movement partly coz I take jobs with 10 minutes notice but also because I have 'poo issues' I really loath the stuff}

Allow an hour afterwards for your body to settle down and relax.
You may get light headed. I think that's to do with the procedure temporarily altering concentration of electrolyte balance in blood.
Doing this is not an every day thing as you will be removing essential bacteria that you need internally for your health.

Thank you for your attention.
I trust this post didn't put you off dinner.  ::)


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Re: Anal accidents/douching and TMI :-)
« Reply #10 on: 13 December 2011, 09:29:09 pm »
Great details, Jodie! :) Questions/queries to follow...

:~ is douching just the same as 'colonic irrigation'?

Baby wipes are good for a final internal clean up and last check to ensure you are good-to-go.
{I use baby wipes internally after every bowl movement partly coz I take jobs with 10 minutes notice but also because I have 'poo issues' I really loath the stuff}

:~ how do you use wipes "internally"? Do you mean you poke one up with your finger to give the first couple of inches of back passage a wet wipe?
(I hear ya about the poo issues...maybe TMI coming up, but ever since when I was a teenager and I saw my mother's knickers - including sexy lacy ones! - in the dirty linen basket, with skidmarks and blobs of poo (literally! grape sized blobs!) stuck to the gusset, I've been determined not to have dirty knickers. I'm now at the age she was back then when I started noticing it, and I still can't work out why/how she could pass a blob of poo into her undies without noticing...??!)

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« Reply #11 on: 13 December 2011, 09:59:25 pm »
:~ is douching just the same as 'colonic irrigation'?
No. {I've never experienced it, though}
My understanding is a long tube is inserted up to 18 inches and large volumes of water inserted
then expelled repeatedly. A deeper clean, I guess.
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:~ how do you use wipes "internally"?
  Yep, you've got it.
I specifically use unscented baby wipes, as these will be the safest & least irritating thing to put up there. 
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Mums pooy knicks stuff...
No idea and yes TMI!  :P

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« Reply #12 on: 13 December 2011, 10:29:28 pm »
I dont offer anal professionally.
In my private life it happens every once in a while but always at my OHs request/instigation - and although he's very, very welcome to help himself the deal is that he has to deal with ALL the consequences himself (Including but not limited to laundry and/or listening to me whining the day after, even if I enjoyed it at the time :) )

It works for us - and apologies for the TMI :D

R xx

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« Reply #13 on: 13 December 2011, 11:27:17 pm »
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Mums pooy knicks stuff...
No idea and yes TMI!  :P

*cries with laughter* :D :D ;D ;D

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« Reply #14 on: 13 December 2011, 11:32:46 pm »
I dont offer anal professionally.
In my private life it happens every once in a while but always at my OHs request/instigation - and although he's very, very welcome to help himself the deal is that he has to deal with ALL the consequences himself (Including but not limited to laundry and/or listening to me whining the day after, even if I enjoyed it at the time :) )

It works for us - and apologies for the TMI :D

R xx

I used to enjoy regular anal sex with my ex, and never had any accidents, basically he would wash straight after (and it was no more than vag secretions, if a little darker), and I would sit on the loo and strain, and push as much man-juice out as I could, and that was it...no accidents, no mess, no laundry, no moaning the next day...

Does the physical side change as we get older? Are we more prone to accidents and mess the older we get?
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