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Title: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 03 September 2014, 05:35:17 pm
After reading so many complaints and frustrations on here from other ladies I figure with all your help there is a better way to dealing  and with any luck getting rid of some timewasters.
 Id been asked so many times by phone  what I wear what I will do and then they don't turn up.
Now telling them to email it all over to me I will send a reply in answer to all their questions. ::). gives me chance to ask and know their user name and not be subjected to further phone pestering, they may not bother by asking to book their appointment they don't  so we don't sit around dressed up for nothing. For those that  do book on line  but they must either pay a deposit as  ladies encourage or to call on arrival. Giving 5 mins timeframe, harsh but works.
Timewaster  changes of times of bookings then I cancel their booking saying I have a regular client confirming definite time as you don't seem to be able to. fully booked now.
  Direct chat  requests to timewasters we can try make money out of them(credits) by diverting them over to this service  as they seem to need to talk for ages and wank  but not book. 
  Requests months in advance from a timewaster Im just saying sir im only taking prebooked clients a week before. contact me nearer the time.
ladies please do add your words of wisdom.  ;)




Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Dani on 04 September 2014, 05:01:47 pm
If I asked everyone who booked me to pay a deposit I would be lucky to get any clients as most of mine are same day bookings

The best day to deal with a TW is to not give him what he wants.  A persistant texter gets told to ring me and then I ignore all texts after that.
One who wants to know what I will be wearing I just say lingerie and heels and refuse to discuss it further and tell him if he wants to know he will have to book and find out.
I don't list out what I offer on the phone, I will ask what they are looking for and then answer yes or no.  Any phone call lasting more than two minutes is always going to be a timewaster unless I am the one doing all the talking so I just say I have to go and hang up as if they haven't booked within two minutes they are not going to.  Two minutes does not sound long until you sit quietly doing nothing and watch your watch count down those two minutes and it is actually quite a long time

Don't give them what they want.  don't answer constant texts, keep phone calls polite but too the point.  ITs about getting a booking not talking about sex or what you are wearing or what you will do to them.

If you even get an inkling they are a timewaster just say you will take a preliminary booking but they need to call at x time to confirm.
They wont call as they have called so many escorts that day that they will forget which one they are supposed to call back

I advertise in the local paper as well so am used to men asking what I offer and I just say a GFE, if they don't know what that means I again ask what they are looking for and say yes or no.  That way I am not talking sexy tot hem at all.

Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Kay on 04 September 2014, 05:07:05 pm
I'd never ask for a deposit, but agree about getting rid of pest texters by telling them to email. The trouble is, a bizarrely high amount then say they don't have it/don't know how to use it! I always think a). but you can find escorts online?? and b). well, perhaps we wouldn't be a very good match then...

I will try and match clothing requests for 1h+ bookings, but not 30m ones.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: LiliVonShtupp on 04 September 2014, 10:16:20 pm
Ahh there will always be time wasters on aw sadly... I have made it clear on my profile any cancellation will result in neutral feedback. The problem is some wgs fear retaliation so mark a cancellation as positive.. we have got to stick together to weed out the time wasting tools ;) I will only speak to clients about the place or requests during phonecalls, you can tell if they start with the whole "what are you wearing" if they're wasters.

Don't put up with any shit. Any first time client that cancels on me, I block. You put your best foot forward, if that's your best foot then piss off lol.

Other than that, you just have to hone your time waster radar... its easy once you tune into the chat of waster x
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: BibiofLeeds on 05 September 2014, 11:41:03 am
No I never ask for a deposit I think it would be offputting to most people, also I take plenty of same day bookings.If they text I ask them to ring, I don't do text tennis. I don't get into what I am wearing and what I will do to them.I have a 3 question rule after that I refer them back to my profile or give them my website address and encourage them to have a read and get back in touch if they are interested.I have enough reviews and my profiles are clear enough so I don't need to be telling them how I will blow them or what sort of outfits I have etc.
For advance bookings I always get them to confirm on the day. We all get timewasters and no shows but you will normally feel it in your gut and it can be how they speak to you as well as the questions they may ask.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Fabulassie on 05 September 2014, 11:59:50 am
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: aliceinwanderland on 05 September 2014, 05:19:31 pm
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.

lol. This should be in a prossie's official guide to timewasters  ;D
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Caledonia on 05 September 2014, 07:17:25 pm
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.

The ones I love are the ones who actually sound normal but you can clearly hear the sound of them wanking.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: ParisB on 05 September 2014, 10:36:27 pm
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.

The ones I love are the ones who actually sound normal but you can clearly hear the sound of them wanking.


Just ask them time ( put them right off there stride ) something banal and boring lol
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: BibiofLeeds on 06 September 2014, 04:57:13 pm
I find the ones that speak quietly are generally knobheads and the ones that ask you how you are and then go er er er.I appreciate sometimes it is nerves but more often than not they turn out to be timewasters.To me a genuine punter has already had a look at your profile your pics the area you working in and your rates. He simply rings and says hello asks for the time he wants and gets on with it,he doesn't yap on about shite. At most he will just confirm that you do x y and z for blah blah rate thats it.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 13 September 2014, 09:41:46 pm
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.
this is so true ha !
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2014, 09:52:32 pm
I find the ones that speak quietly are generally knobheads and the ones that ask you how you are and then go er er er.I appreciate sometimes it is nerves but more often than not they turn out to be timewasters.To me a genuine punter has already had a look at your profile your pics the area you working in and your rates. He simply rings and says hello asks for the time he wants and gets on with it,he doesn't yap on about shite. At most he will just confirm that you do x y and z for blah blah rate thats it.

I had one today he phoned before but his voice was very quiet so asked him why. He said his wife was in the next room which sounds a lie. No husband in their right mind would arrange a punt so close to the wife. So asked him next time to speak clearly. That next call will determine his banning.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 14 September 2014, 08:15:37 am
Always feel free next time the known timewaster calls to supply him with local police station address and postcode and door number ;)
or a hotel you are not staying at plus room number ?!!
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Bluetits on 14 September 2014, 11:29:28 am
When you answer phone and they say quietly in a low voice 'hello' and nothing else.

I doubt if anyone?s noticed this and I only have recently as it doesn't happen very much but when they phone and say "hello I?ve seen your advertisement? are TWS. It arouses suspicion as most would say Ad or AW things like that and I think they are experienced TWs trying to sound well spoken to fool me. It?s not common but they?ve never been genuine. If anyone ever gets that and it?s been genuine then please let me know if you remember lol.

Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: curvygrace on 14 September 2014, 04:35:16 pm
The best day to deal with a TW is to not give him what he wants. 

 8) It took me a very long time to realise that as soon as you acknowledge that they are wasting your time/not turning up etc...they have won the game. Simply save/block/ignore/move on.

Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Alice G on 17 September 2014, 11:33:32 pm
On the phone, one sign of a time waster is a weird, slightly high-pitched voice. I mean sort of sleazy and purring or maybe a bit breathless and camp. I do not know why phone wankers talk like they're trying to seduce a Bond villain's cat, but I guess they think that's their "naughty voice." It's really weird and when I hear it my guard goes up immediately.

Next time I watch a Bond film, will watch out for the villain's cat - could not have put it better.
So funny - thank you for making me laugh so much!
And thank you to all the breathless, camp and weird timewasters for entertaining us!
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Fabulassie on 18 September 2014, 08:28:06 am
When I hear that voice... ("Helloooo.... is this Fahhbulahhsie?) I get very brisk and cheery, like an aerobics instructor. "YES THIS IS! How can I help you?!" and keep it up until they either stop talking like that or they ask the stupid thing they've called to ask me.
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 18 September 2014, 04:14:20 pm
The timewaster who tells you he might/will be late hes just letting you know in advance  after hes made the booking before asking for the postcode or (they don't even ask for postcode) address they too busy jerking off to your voice. to which I say when or if you get to this part of town call me ... they don't.. they cant they have cum and need to rest its all too much excitement for them  ::)
The timewaster who is late and hasn't called, if you were to call him hes stuck in traffic and was going to call and hasn't got cash out yet.. hes at home in doors  ::)
Timewaster always on voicemail when u call  hasnt turned up what a coincidence !
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Alice G on 19 September 2014, 01:04:48 am
What a bummer!
There was a Bond film on tonight and just switched over just as it finished, so no chance to keep an eye out for the villain's cat! Suppose will just have to wait for that timewaster's sleezy, purring phone call!
To be honest, I don't really get that many of them - so am suppose quite lucky! There are some normal ones out there too! x
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Fabulassie on 19 September 2014, 08:32:15 pm
I got one today! Made a booking and then didn't show! It worked out OK, though. Five minutes before start time I got a call from a lovely-sounding gentleman and I told him that I was pretty sure I could see him, if he could just wait 10 minutes... (5 mins with no call means they're blocked).
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: roxy666 on 22 September 2014, 12:57:46 pm
Ahhh, yes, those tossers!

It didn't take me long to learn about TWs and to set up some ground rules to avoid them.

Everyone is different and has an individual way to run their own business, but I have chosen not to display a contact number. I don't offer text or phone call services, so this isn't a problem.

But my ground rules are, once a booking has been agreed, then it needs to be made on the online system before any of my details are given out. This weeds out 95% of TWs as they want to avoid the negative feedback. I also find this helps weed out any potential dangerous clients, as making a booking on the online system leaves an internet paper trail, so helps keep me safe.

With emails, I religiously check for any previous messages and also the private notes section, real handy!

There's only been one time I was caught out, and that was last week. He had booked before, so had my number, but the booking never happened, can't remember why, it could of been me who cancelled. But he texted me for a booking request last week, and once things had been discussed and agreed, I asked him to book online, he said he couldn't get online, but I stood my ground, because I hadn't actually met him before, I wasn't going to put myself at risk and bend the rules for him. And good job I didn't! He very quickly became nasty, verbally abusive and started threatening to expose me!

He then claimed he had spoken to a shop assistant near me and claimed the police new about me and I'd get a visit. I laughed. I havnt broken the law in any way, and throughout all the abuse, I stayed calm, polite and professional in my replies. And as soon as I said, "if that's the case you will then get done for harassment" I didn't hear a single wink from him, surprise surprise!!!!  ::)

and he had been calling ME a time waster! Paaahahahaaaa, don't make me laugh! My profile is very clear about my terms on bookings!
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: ROXY 80 on 23 September 2014, 06:49:35 pm
I find best way to deal with them esp I find thy are always repeat tws so I store there number then next time thy call I say can you just hold the line I place phone on mute and see how long the suckers stay on line with out me speaking thy get fee up eventually although one guy did stay on line for 13 mins before he finally twigged on lol
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: ROXY 80 on 23 September 2014, 06:49:53 pm
I find best way to deal with them esp I find thy are always repeat tws so I store there number then next time thy call I say can you just hold the line I place phone on mute and see how long the suckers stay on line with out me speaking thy get fee up eventually although one guy did stay on line for 13 mins before he finally twigged on lol
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 23 September 2014, 08:19:59 pm
I find best way to deal with them esp I find thy are always repeat tws so I store there number then next time thy call I say can you just hold the line I place phone on mute and see how long the suckers stay on line with out me speaking thy get fee up eventually although one guy did stay on line for 13 mins before he finally twigged on lol
This is so true Roxy, I  was in Sainsbury's and let a tw hear the special deal announcements over the tannoy system maybe he wanked maybe not lol !!!
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: Erotic flower on 23 September 2014, 08:22:37 pm
I had upset a timewasters plan last night, he called to book me( unknown by him that my friend had been stood up by him twice and given me his number and name) I then text him back to cancel 5 mins later, he tried to re arrange for another time I then told him id let him know. ;)
Title: Re: An escorts guide to dealing with timewasters.
Post by: ROXY 80 on 24 September 2014, 12:14:42 am
I had upset a timewasters plan last night, he called to book me( unknown by him that my friend had been stood up by him twice and given me his number and name) I then text him back to cancel 5 mins later, he tried to re arrange for another time I then told him id let him know. ;)

Ha ha good for you I've been with diff girls and both of us have had booking for the same guy at the same time it aNnoys me thy got so much time on ther hands