i used to see the guy reguarly

then i didnt see him for a while,which is normal

all men want to try the new girls its human nature

after all they dont own us we dont own them

anyway i noticed in his feedback hes been visiting ladies offering bbk

when he knows my opinion on this and i will nt see anyone if they have visited a lady offering this

anyway after a month of not seeing him he got in contact last night asking to see me again

you can guess what my reply was

i was then told im a hipocrit as its ok for me to see other clients but no ok for him to see other escorts!!

im sorry but i wouldnt care otherwise its the fact the ladies hes seeing are offering bbk
and i will not risk mine and my clients health seeing him

after all pride and my health mean more to me than his money

am i right girls??


_{Edit by Emily: Removed all-caps from title. Let's keep the forum shout-free.}

  i do not know the clients history and will not ever do bareback, they have to wear a condom, and if they dont like it they dont visit me!

You could tell him you're happy to see him again provided he gets a health check.

I find the more I don't want to see a guy, the more he wants to see me.

If you're not letting them have sex with you without condoms, I honestly can't see what the problem is.... sorry. x

That was my thought process as well, though I guess we're all entitled to have standards.

my problem is seeing him after he has done bareback
i think theres more of a chance him getting an sti off an escort than his wife, dont you think ?

No, I don't think. That's just the kind of misguided thinking that has no place in anyone's mind who is genuinely conscious about their sexual health! Let's say he was married. His wife could have been a right slapper in her day and never used condoms with any partners (which is MUCH more likely with non sex working people - to not take proper care of their sexual health and safety) - then she could have it! And thus he could have it. But if you're going to use a condom, then you are protecting yourself aren't you?

The whole point re STIs is that ANYONE can have them. Looking at a bloke's cock/face or how he speaks and trying to guess as to whether he has HIV or not for example, is totally impossible! We have to assume, surely, that everyone has an STI and act accordingly to protect ourselves! Condoms are the only way, two at a time, if you're very worried. But you can't assume people coming to you only go to escorts and only do sex with condoms - that would just be daft surely?? I'm just not understanding really.

The condom splitting and someone with a disease infecting us is, I guess, a risk of our work - all we can do is our best to ensure it doesn't happen and seek immediate assessment and treatment if it does. But to assume that a client who only sees no bareback allowed escorts is less likely to have an sti than a man who sees bareback escorts, is just plain daft. Anyone can have a disease, that's the whole point.

I don't see what this has to do with standards though?? Sorry - maybe I'm having an off day but surely standards are to do with holding your own health dear and taking proper precautions against STIs..... hey ho, not on here to argue with anyone I just don't understand the need to send him away when all that has to be done is continuing as before, using condoms. using two if you're that worried. The original poster may have several existing clients whom she doesn't know are seeing other escorts and that they're having bareback with them - the point is, we can't know, all we can do is protect.

If there was an inference that I don't take my sexual health as a priority, I an assure you I do. I will do this by going on the assumption that anyone and everyone who comes to me might have an STI. That's why I too won't be doing bareback or owo or touching their asses with my bare fingers. No flippin' way!

If girls are offering bareback (and presumably carrying it out) then she is more at risk than his wife.

The chances of you catching an STI go up as your number of sexual partners and numbers of sex sessions go up.

It's very rare for someone to catch HIV from an occasional shag, or chlamydia from protected sex.

If a condoms splits however, it's not so hard to catch chlamydia or gonorrhoea from an infected client.

What Emily said, with the added thought that just because it's ticked in her 'likes' list doesn't mean a) she actually does it or b) that if she does, he did it with her.

But those are irrelevant: you have a stated boundary that you won't see someone who does what he chose to do. Begging or not, 'next!'