Out of everyone I see it's rarer than a blue moon for me to be attracted to them. Some of my clients I have a definite soft spot for but not in that way.

So, basically I've seen this guy 3 times and I really do like him. He's just such a nice, genuine softie with a gorgeous body. Not that I find physical looks that attractive, it's what's in their head that counts 

Anyway, I feel a bit sad as I'm never going to see him again. He was here on a two week work thing and lives 8 hours away and often travels a lot with work. He'll be overseas next week. He says he will see me if he's ever in my area again, but that's very doubtful.

Help! He's the only client who've I've actually wanted. What do I do? I was surprised he saw me 3 times to be honest,  I must have cost him a fortune! 

In general I would say stay away from any relationship with a client, do you know if he is single? Even if he says he is, it's more than likely he has a family. Have you talked to him much to get to know the real man? We and clients often put on a punting personality?

If you really want to see him again and feel you know a little about the real person, talk to him, maybe meet for a coffee, could you meet somewhere half way between where you live. Maybe go for a coffee and make it clear you are meting for a get to know you chat and no sex will be on offer. Maybe even take it off the menu for a few dates if things do porgress, this will make it clear if he wants you for sex (sorry to be blunt) or wanting to get to know you.

Thank you for your input  In our bookings, he talked openly about himself and also asked me general questions, although not in a nosey/prying sense. I felt utterly at ease with him. He was genuinely nervous about the first meeting and was ever so sweet. I think he would have just talked to me for the entire booking if I didn't initiate things. He's a year younger than me - there was no mention of a family other than siblings and parents, although I'm not so naive to think that just because he didn't mention them they are not there.

I think I'm a pretty good judge of character and what struck me the most was how genuine and sweet he seemed to be.

I've been doing this job now for nearly 3.5 years and I have come across a lot of people who say things to gauge a reaction, so the genuine ones do seem to stand out more.

Always assume it's not going to happen, things can only improve from that.

Very wise words!

Bucket of cold water over the whole situation
he has chosen to pay for sex whilst here temporarily because it's a fuck sight easier and less time wastier than using gumtree. You  are a bonus free spin.

If I have a crush on someone I want them to want me for sex? 

 

How do you deal with it, I'm not really sure. But remember we are all human beings with feelings, at some point it's possible that we click with a client in a way beyond a 'business' relationship. We're not robots after all and even though we 'go through the motions' with many clients and perhaps most clients are not people we might choose to fuck, why not enjoy it when you do really get along with someone?

Gypsy I think it's perfectly normal to like someone in that way, why not? Not all clients are twats lol! 

Thank you. It's just strange as I hardly ever get on so well with a man my age.

I had a major crush on a client once. He was much younger than me and looked like a young Paterson Joseph, who I've had the hots for since he was in Casualty in the 90s!

I saw him twice and then he left the country

I've a fair few good looking, fit as butchers dog clients sailing through with sweet personalities who I want to abuse in every nasty-nice way. I try not to show any special attraction. It might be visible though, as I've been told I have no poker face, but I do my best.

Ooh VC, Paterson Joseph, he was dead funny on Peepshow!

I used to silently ask myself if I had to choose any clients to go on a date with who would it be? Two or three came to mind as possibilities as I found them quite attractive facially and had fit bodies. One though was nearer my own age and looked good for his middle years.

After a few more meetings I decided yes he was one I might say yes to if we met in civvy life.

Until the next booking and he bored the pants off me with an after sex conversation about his job. He was the boss and he was not happy with his 3 employees. He droned on in a painful to listen to way.  Ok man I thought you can shut up now, I don't need to hear any more.  I also realised that in about 15 bookings he had barely ever cracked a smile.

Back to the drawing board    In fact I don't think I will bother.  Keep clients exactly where they belong, paying and leaving after a nice hour or so.