Author Topic: So I feel like a dirty old whore and nobody is going to ever want to date me (Read 5832 times)

The Bachelor · « **Reply #15 on:** 06 August 2012, 05:54:53 am »

Hey everyone thanks for the uplifting words. I'm just so paranoid about it all. Apparently it was a couple of people in the beginning whom outed me to my boyfriend (asking why the fuck he was hanging around me) that was part of the original reason why.

I wish I would find out they were talking noise. Oooo, I don't even want to say it. But its true, people just get all judgemental over anything anyway. They aren't even saints themselves and I told him that. The bar scene which we so often frequent and people chatter mouth is NOT heaven on earth itself. Those manky sluts and men out there doing far worse un-safe things than I do.

Karin · « **Reply #16 on:** 06 August 2012, 08:16:45 am »

Came across this quote toward the end of the last book I read. The ideal man should be able to grasp the following....

"Whatsoever thing from without entereth into the man, it cannot defile him; Because it entereth not into his heart".

The Bachelor · « **Reply #17 on:** 06 August 2012, 09:13:55 am »

Quote from: Ana30 on 05 August 2012, 01:02:40 pm

Blaine: The good men are only a few (let's say: 50%?), from that % you need to keep the ones that are willing to date a hooker (remove 2 thirds). So we're left with 18%.

Your dating pool gets reduced to an 18% of the male population then.

Now...I'm sure you're not going to be attracted to ALL OF THEM (and not ALL OF THEM are going to be attracted to you)...so we should chip another 2 thirds from that percentage. So you're left with....9%..

You only have chances with 9 % of the male population Blaine. I reccomend putting yourself on all the dating websites out there in order to reach to that 9%. If that doesn't work you can always get yourself a labrador. They don't come home drunk or leave the toilet lid up.

Good Lord those are some staggering numbers. It's hard to even fathom them. I just ignore (not you, but the reality) and just keep saying to myself plenty of fish in the sea.

Lets also factor in my age and the fact I am ethnic and go for a certain type of men who don't always go after my 'type'...narrows me down to maybe, 0.0000000005% chance of finding relationship material LOL. Might as well just...ugh, I won't say it. All the recent shootings going on in America I don't want to wish any harm on myself.

curvygrace · « **Reply #18 on:** 06 August 2012, 10:01:24 am »

those statistics seem about right $:-\$

dunno about dating sites, guys 1- might get funny that your stringing them along? or 2- go 'oh yes, good free sex!'

i started getting along well with a regular and after a few dates (and shags...for free!) he told me he could never go out with me coz im a hooker. great, thanks for scamming me into giving you free sex, twat!

River · « **Reply #19 on:** 13 August 2012, 05:26:45 pm »

I've not read the whole thread; here is my take.
Many of the women on here are in long term relationships
and their partners were aware prior to the start of relationships
or they were involved in the decision process for their partner starting escorting.

Two options.
My fav is the first.
1. Be open about escorting around your social group.
Any potential suitor (or stepping back, potential friend) will know your job
in advance of any consideration by them of a) Being your friend or
b) Romancing you.
In effect, all the head-work for them is done in advance
and you don't get to know anything about it, nor the angst overflow

2. Don't tell them for a while. At least 3 dates. This way they get to know you
without the escort consideration slanting things.
Then when you tell them they can have a considered decision.

I see you dated for quite a while before saying.
I'd suggest you don't beat yourself up; it was not to be.
One thing I would say is that you may like to consider telling future dates earlier.
This way neither of you will have made too big an emotional investment,
in the relationship. It will take the pressure off and may make a possible 'No'
into a possible 'Yes'.

When you are in a long term relationship and you fancy being single, don't blame me!

sarahyorks · « **Reply #20 on:** 13 August 2012, 07:49:21 pm »

I think it takes a real man to be with an escort. To not feel threatened or jealous etc of your work. Plus they see the real YOU not the facade that is the escort and that is always a massive bonus.

I've been with my bf for four years now and he fully knows what I do, we operate an ask no questions policy. I like the fact I don't have to dress up and make myself look like a living doll for him and things like him not minding I haven't shaved my legs etc. when in escorting world that can lead to bad reviews etc.

Lexi · « **Reply #21 on:** 13 August 2012, 11:18:35 pm »

Apologies if this has already been mentioned but I've just been thinking about this and telling the guy early on before anything too serious happens, what if you're worried about them telling other people? Its something that would definitely cross my mind if I was planning on telling someone who'd I'd recently met but would want to tell. On the one hand you want to save on emotional stress by doing it early and if they decide they don't want to take things furtber that's fair enough. But on the other hand I'd like to keep it reasonably secret! I'm really do date now but would think long and hard about the decision for this reason, does anyone else feel the same way about that?

sarahyorks · « **Reply #22 on:** 13 August 2012, 11:42:40 pm »

I've never even thought about that Lexi, my ex found out what I now do but I don't think he's even blabbed. Surely if things didn't go well people would just think the guy is bitter as it didn't work out.

Kimmy · « **Reply #23 on:** 16 August 2012, 05:41:12 pm »

Quote from: Blaine on 04 August 2012, 11:12:27 pm

Just had a discussion with (guy I thought we were going to be boyfriends for the past 4 months) about my profession. This is part of the reason apparently he doesn't want to get involved with me.

Long story short, most guys wouldn't want to date a hooker and I should be upfront with guys right away about what I do rather than wait a whole month like I did with him to say anything? Why should I say something on the 2nd date and not even sure if it will get past that point?

I'm just so angry. Fucking Americans are so conservative out here. I'm having fantasies of becoming a foreign exchange student and getting the hell on from here!

this isnt true, i met my boyfriend when he was a virgin and i was escorting at the time and he has known the whole time

i recently quit and although i know he is happier he still loved me, is not a freak and even stayed by me when his friends and family knew (although theyve always been nice to me too)

not all guys are overtly bothered although a lot will be if you were still working, if he liked you enough he'd see past it and would probably just want you to quit to be with him, he wouldnt be thinking you were below being with him because of the job

Kimmy · « **Reply #24 on:** 16 August 2012, 05:47:11 pm »

Quote from: Coty on 05 August 2012, 12:35:48 am

Quote from: curvygrace on 04 August 2012, 11:43:38 pm
i fear that no decent guy would associate themselves with a sex / ex sex worker.

im gettting the ole 'ooh hows the love life' questions from old friends, family etc and it highlights that maybe i am starting to feel a bit spinster-y! $:-\$

I have to disagree. I've had two boyfriends while doing this job and they've both been very decent. And it was me that ended both relationships not the other way round.

Having said that I've also had men say that kind of thing to me too. You'll never get a man now. No one else would have you. etc etc. But I'm old and really like being single so it doesn't phase me. But they're are a few decent men out there....maybe one in a million lol

Hugs anyway Blaine...move on, he's not the one for you. XXX

i agree iv had men say that and I just think christ, you dont know the lads I know in civvie life who do actually want to date me (one of my friends whos male adores me, and always tells me so but i just dont like him in that way and am already in love)

my boyfriend now worships me and does everything for me and i love him so much for everything he has put up with

its nonsense that no man would ever want you, there was a conversation on a message board about whether a man would marry an ex hooker and although some people said they wouldnt more said they would (although that was ex hooker and not current hooker)

lady c · « **Reply #25 on:** 17 August 2012, 07:23:02 pm »

this is my dilemma right now, have not been working lately as juggling the little one with the odd client is not working so will get back after the holidays. I got to know someone a while ago and went on a few dates i felt not ready for a relationship so told him so. now he is back on the scene and i said i would be his gf and see how it goes but slowly. He is lovely generous and i know will treat me lovely the sex well i was not impressed he did not seem to have any rythem at all he is a big man stocky and the one thing he did that has been brought up on here is spitting on the privates (yuk) what the hell do i do now see how it goes or tell him i escort part time and see then what happens. I will only ever work part time a few a month twice a week or so and wont stop. My feelings are unclear think i might have made a mistake going back out with him but he is smitten..This is a good topic to bring up..as for blaine i don,t know the answer as i am now in that position..x

casey_kisses · « **Reply #26 on:** 17 August 2012, 09:05:24 pm »

Quote from: ladychannel on 17 August 2012, 07:23:02 pm

this is my dilemma right now, have not been working lately as juggling the little one with the odd client is not working so will get back after the holidays. I got to know someone a while ago and went on a few dates i felt not ready for a relationship so told him so. now he is back on the scene and i said i would be his gf and see how it goes but slowly. He is lovely generous and i know will treat me lovely the sex well i was not impressed he did not seem to have any rythem at all he is a big man stocky and the one thing he did that has been brought up on here is spitting on the privates (yuk) what the hell do i do now see how it goes or tell him i escort part time and see then what happens. I will only ever work part time a few a month twice a week or so and wont stop. My feelings are unclear think i might have made a mistake going back out with him but he is smitten..This is a good topic to bring up..as for blaine i don,t know the answer as i am now in that position..x

You need to do the best thing for you. If you are unsure now, and things get worse for you, he'll get more attached and then you will just hurt him more. Best to be honest about how you feel towards him whatever you decide (whether you want to continue/ or end the relationship) then at least he knows where he stands. Plus try and teach him a thing or two in the sack if you decide to stay with him

xx

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