Author Topic: 3 Tips for staying sane in this job (Read 9391 times)

Rosa · « **Reply #15 on:** 24 April 2014, 09:30:06 am »

I agree re AW feedback which can be completely misleading.

I simply apply usual rules to any form of contact.

If a man comes across as civil, polite, organised, can read my profile and make and confirm a booking time, then I'm happy to see him.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #16 on:** 24 April 2014, 09:45:45 am »

Maybe aw feedback warrants it's own thread? If I had a client who had booked via aw and he was unhygienic or something trivial I would be reluctant to mention it in his feedback, mainly because I would be worried about receiving bad comments in retaliation, so yes aw feedback is misleading, I have had a couple of long term cancellers book through aw and I have just deleted the booking instead of getting into a slanging match with the client,

Wife4rent · « **Reply #17 on:** 24 April 2014, 10:35:34 am »

Quote from: Nia Hope on 24 April 2014, 09:45:45 am

Maybe aw feedback warrants it's own thread? If I had a client who had booked via aw and he was unhygienic or something trivial I would be reluctant to mention it in his feedback, mainly because I would be worried about receiving bad comments in retaliation, so yes aw feedback is misleading, I have had a couple of long term cancellers book through aw and I have just deleted the booking instead of getting into a slanging match with the client,

The problem with deleting the booking is that they can still leave you feedback and you have no right of reply. I leave all my bookings just in case a person decides to write a bad comment.

Sarah x x x

amy · « **Reply #18 on:** 24 April 2014, 11:13:17 am »

I agree - AW feedback has been done to death elsewhere.

Back on topic, my top tip would be to decide when you're working/not working and stick to it. Don't be the person who takes their work phone when they're out with friends and then fecks off halfway through things because some random punter has called - it's not just going to affect your mental health if you feel you're 'on call' all the time, it's rude, and you'll (deservedly) end up with no friends.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #19 on:** 24 April 2014, 11:23:23 am »

Quote from: Wife4rent on 24 April 2014, 10:35:34 am

Quote from: Nia Hope on 24 April 2014, 09:45:45 am
Maybe aw feedback warrants it's own thread? If I had a client who had booked via aw and he was unhygienic or something trivial I would be reluctant to mention it in his feedback, mainly because I would be worried about receiving bad comments in retaliation, so yes aw feedback is misleading, I have had a couple of long term cancellers book through aw and I have just deleted the booking instead of getting into a slanging match with the client,

The problem with deleting the booking is that they can still leave you feedback and you have no right of reply. I leave all my bookings just in case a person decides to write a bad comment.

Sarah x x x

Really? I thought if I deleted it before I confirmed it they couldn't leave any comments?

amy · « **Reply #20 on:** 24 April 2014, 11:26:45 am »

No, they can leave a comment but it'll be 'Feedback Only'.

Back on topic now, please. If anybody wants to carry this on, just start a thread in the Adultwork section

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pandora · « **Reply #21 on:** 24 April 2014, 12:26:40 pm »

Never cancel a social event/meeting for a booking.

If you do, they wont turn up and you will be doubly pissed off!

This one really keeps you sane, When I started, I cancelled stuff like going to the cinema, meeting mates because I needed to chase the cash. 9/10 times they were TW so not only did I not get the cash, I didn't see my mates AND had to keep coming up with umpteen last minute excuses for cancelling that pissed my mates off.

These days I am available 7 days a week 9am-10pm BUT ONLY if I am around when they book. So if I miss some bone fide bookings so be it.

Hotblondie · « **Reply #22 on:** 24 April 2014, 12:43:05 pm »

Im same as Pandora, my life and mental health comes first, so I try to fit clients into my schedule, not my schedule after them

Wife4rent · « **Reply #23 on:** 24 April 2014, 11:31:07 pm »

Quote from: hotblondie28 on 24 April 2014, 12:43:05 pm

Im same as Pandora, my life and mental health comes first, so I try to fit clients into my schedule, not my schedule after them

That is what I love about hotel work, for 24 hrs I am there to meet & greet, the aim for me is to take as much as I can and then go home....

When I had my own flat I used to get guys telling me how they had called round to see me but I was not in, this was not good and I had to tell them that I did not actually live there.

At home I am free to relax without anybody calling, that is very important to me.

Sarah x x x

Hotblondie · « **Reply #24 on:** 25 April 2014, 01:36:28 am »

for me its easy, I have no issues working from home and ignoring calls if I dont want to answer or answer if I want to.

if I would rent another place just for work, it would mean for me that I would have to work more to pay for 2 flats, which is not good for my mental and phisical health and I couldnt do it.

Im here to stay so I take it slowly, after my own rithm

mssa · « **Reply #25 on:** 25 April 2014, 09:33:34 am »

Quote from: Wife4rent on 24 April 2014, 11:31:07 pm

When I had my own flat I used to get guys telling me how they had called round to see me but I was not in, this was not good and I had to tell them that I did not actually live there.

That sounds absolutely terrifying

PoshTotty · « **Reply #26 on:** 25 April 2014, 08:01:34 pm »

Don't worry yourself with what other ladies are doing/not doing and what they're charging. Just decide what you're happy offering and how much you want for it and stick to it.

(From a counsellor who gave me a wake-up call about my mental well-being) Don't have your work phone on 24/7. Even if it doesn't ring you're still, even subconsciously, in work mode. Decide on your working hours - bearing in mind that taking calls and checking emails counts as working - and be strict with starting and stopping at a certain time.

If you work from home try and separate your work rooms from the rest of the house if you can. It's important to be able to switch off completely which is hard if clients share your lounge, bathroom and bedroom. The only room I share with them is my bathroom (but I don't offer shared baths or showers so it's OK); the rest of my home is off limits, so once they leave I can close the boudoir door and I'm "me" again.

Julia1985 · « **Reply #27 on:** 26 April 2014, 05:48:32 pm »

Difficult to limit to just 3 but for me I would say:

1. Speak to all prospective clients before you accept a booking and if your gut instinct is that it doesn't feel right then make your excuses.

2. If you have a booking and you don't feel comfortable with the client / don't enjoy the meet then don't take another booking from them.

3. Put money aside in the good times or have another income source so you can afford to be picky about who you see. The worst thing is feeling pressured to having to take bookings just to pay the rent.

ScarletWoman · « **Reply #28 on:** 26 April 2014, 06:20:43 pm »

1. If someone irritates you when they first contact you, or you find something a bit odd, don't make the booking. Guaranteed they either won't turn up or, you will hate them.

2. Draw the line of professionalism and never ever cross it. Don't trust a client, and, be friendly but not friends. Don't ever make them believe you could be real life friends or lovers.

3. If possible, don't make yourself work if you don't feel like it, Take time out whenever you need it, and have another source of regular income so you aren't reliant on sex work.

amy · « **Reply #29 on:** 30 April 2014, 05:11:50 pm »

Quote from: Amber_Chelt on 26 April 2014, 06:20:43 pm

1. If someone irritates you when they first contact you, or you find something a bit odd, don't make the booking. Guaranteed they either won't turn up or, you will hate them.

Definitely. I think that just about every really unpleasant booking I've ever had could be explained away by my ignoring of the above.

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