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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: martine21 on 27 October 2016, 11:32:48 am
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So ive just had a client text me to make a booking, all sounded good, got him booking for tomorrow.
He proceeded to ask if i kiss which i replied i do as long good oral hygiene etc.
He then texts back 'oh good i do like a good kiss when we make love'
I cancelled him instantly. Why would they refer to any pay for sex service as making love? Its turned my stomach slightly, the only person i make love to is my partner!
Ew ew ew.
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Everyone has their own triggers, but if you're offering GFE then this is probably not a good one to have...
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I agree it's cringy but yes if you offer gfe I suppose that's what they think of it as, I hate it when they say the word play as in 'I love our playtime' yuk!
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I get what your saying but 'make love' ew, a number of other terms could be used.. have sex, shag, fuck..
No that one makes me cringe and implies its something so much more intimate than what it is. :/ x
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I agree it's cringy but yes if you offer gfe I suppose that's what they think of it as, I hate it when they say the word play as in 'I love our playtime' yuk!
Playtime is pretty bad, i hate it when say little girl when were fucking. 'Oh your a very dirty little girl arent you'.
Im 26, size 14 and 5ft 7.. im hardly a 'little girl'.
Ew some more. Lol x
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So long as a client doesn't overstep into my emotional space, or personal time I'm fine with that. Sometimes it's been the ones who don't use love words who've been the most difficult.
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I wouldn't have cancelled his booking, I would have rolled my eyes and give a little shake of the head at his naivety.
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I wouldn't have cancelled his booking, I would have rolled my eyes and give a little shake of the head at his naivety.
Same here I wouldn't have cancelled just for that. I think the problem is *some* men just don't seem to be able to grasp the fact that its just time/sex for cash...
I've just had one texting me saying how he doesn't ever pay for 'Amazing creatures which are women' that he usually wines dines and woos them *rolls eyes* I quickly explained that I don't advertise on dating sites its prostitution. So then he started saying "OK then I just want a GOOD LONG HARD FUCKING SESSION" and could he pay after that bothered me so I told him not to contact me again.
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I'd rather that than them saying I can't wait for you to cum all over my cock
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This whole job is about acting and playing a part based on the clients need, unless they are outright rude I'll do the job. I've had clients go on about how much of a connection we have and I smile and agree even though in my opinion we don't.
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This whole job is about acting and playing a part based on the clients need, unless they are outright rude I'll do the job. I've had clients go on about how much of a connection we have and I smile and agree even though in my opinion we don't.
Me too, but whilst I wouldn't have cancelled either it would have made me wince too (as would 'play', which is a word I associate with children and so makes me feel queasy when punters use it). I find it too hard to keep a straight face if they say it in person and have to change the subject.
See also 'date' instead of booking (boak) as well as my pet hate, talking about a/our 'meet' or asking to 'meet up'.
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It disgusts me. I had a client say during the booking "can you suck me some more before I make love to you?" I said "love?" He said yes it's more polite. "I said than what,saying fuck?' He said yes. I could have told him it's ok to say fuck but couldn't be bothered as thought it would have turned into a long conversation and his time was nearly up anyway. But heh, do you think they would tell their mates they are going to make love to a prostitute? I don't know, making love implies their is a mutual emotional connection and fondness. We both know I am not fond of you. Why kid yourself? Just enjoy the sex and shut up. Think of it as you may but please don't say it as it is so awkward. I don't care if you think I am your girlfriend but why verbalise it though. For fuck sake. It leaves me feeling queasy. I hate play also. This is not play for me, it's a job. You are a customer. I am providing you a service for a fee. ::) they will never open their eyes.
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Punters say all sorts of cringey things to me I just smile and nod, is it really worth losing the money over something that simple? I guess if you're rolling in money and have no end of booking requests it's easy to cancel because they said the wrong thing, have regulars who tell me they love me and that I'm the only girl they ever felt truly connected to etc etc and of course they talk about "making love" to me it's just words and if I tell them what they want to hear and act like I'm their girlfriend for the sake of the illusion then they keep coming back for more.
I say this stuff all the time about clients but I think it's true most of them are doing this because they want the illusion that they are attractive and they can date a beautiful girl, many of my clients are older guys who seem like they are trying to recapture something from their youth by having sex with a young student. Denying them the chance to feel special because you don't think of them as more than a customer is just wrong imo, I'm going down the road of feeling sympathy for clients here but I think like if I was working in a store or in some other job I wouldn't refuse to serve a customer because they told me I'm beautiful and they want to kiss me etc.
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When clients say this during the booking I just think about the money. And also see how they think making love in a escort setting is deluded in my opinion. But they are paying after all.
I can see how those with partners it can affect more. In one ear out of the other with me and that goes for most of the jumble from their mouths. Ok sexy you are amazing lol to the client.
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I am not keen on the making love thing either but would not have cancelled just because of that.
"Hooking up" I deplore, just another Americanism, but again it would not put me off agreeing to hook, er, meet up! ;)
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"Make love" is a phrase which makes me cringe in ANY scenario. If a client says it I just nod and smile and remind myself not to spoil their fantasy with my usual deluge of swear words.
If a partner said it to me I would laugh in their face (and have done in the past.) "Darling, shall we make love?" "LOL no but you can come upstairs and fuck me stupid instead."
The other really cringey one for me is "pleasure". As in "I will pleasure you with my big cock". It's like they read an erotic novel in the 70s and haven't updated their sex vocabulary since.
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I think it was more do with the whole sentence and what kind of booking it would of turned into.
'I do like to kiss as we make love' so i have a vision of someone with their full weight on top of me, fucking me at a snail pace, staring into my eyes and not letting me breathe for kissing me so much.
Whilst i describe my service as a rauncy GFE, it is borderline PSE and i like it like that, i like it to play out to what it is a PAID meeting with a stranger, not a great love affair.
Maybe it was harsh upon reflection, but there are some that wont see clients cos they use the words 'babe' or 'hun'.
Each to there own i guess x
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I think it was more do with the whole sentence and what kind of booking it would of turned into.
'I do like to kiss as we make love' so i have a vision of someone with their full weight on top of me, fucking me at a snail pace, staring into my eyes and not letting me breathe for kissing me so much.
Whilst i describe my service as a rauncy GFE, it is borderline PSE and i like it like that, i like it to play out to what it is a PAID meeting with a stranger, not a great love affair.
Maybe it was harsh upon reflection, but there are some that wont see clients cos they use the words 'babe' or 'hun'.
Each to there own i guess x
You are entitled to cancel any booking you want, I wouldn't have but I am not you and I've cancelled bookings for the over use of being called babe, others wouldn't x
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I think it was more do with the whole sentence and what kind of booking it would of turned into.
'I do like to kiss as we make love' so i have a vision of someone with their full weight on top of me, fucking me at a snail pace, staring into my eyes and not letting me breathe for kissing me so much.
Whilst i describe my service as a rauncy GFE, it is borderline PSE and i like it like that, i like it to play out to what it is a PAID meeting with a stranger, not a great love affair.
Maybe it was harsh upon reflection, but there are some that wont see clients cos they use the words 'babe' or 'hun'.
Each to there own i guess x
Each to their own indeed. I admit, if a client emails for a booking stating I can't wait to make love to you in our playtime. I wouldn't accept the booking to be honest. If they had already booked and said that I would want to cancel, but that all depends on how my savings is looking at the time. If I could do without that money I would pass. If not I would just roll my eyes and ignore him. Everyone is different and have that little thing that will deter us from seeing a client likewise some clients wouldn't book us if we called them Hun etc. if you felt as though you wouldn't be able to stomach the booking then you have every right to cancel.
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You are entitled to cancel any booking you want, I wouldn't have but I am not you and I've cancelled bookings for the over use of being called babe, others wouldn't x
Same. I've cancelled bookings for being called babe or sugar. Just paints that clingy type in my head who would propose marriage after the booking. ::) or would Want a gf bf relationship and text outside the booking and push for free dates :-X gag gag gag
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The other really cringey one for me is "pleasure". As in "I will pleasure you with my big cock". It's like they read an erotic novel in the 70s and haven't updated their sex vocabulary since.
The word 'pleasure' as a verb makes my stomach turn over. Just stop it.
Also, people who use the 'party' as a verb in any situation want setting on fire. I have a whole personal guide to acceptable use of the English language that only exists in my brain, but I suspect that so does everybody else. The problem would be that they're all different :).
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Same. I've cancelled bookings for being called babe or sugar. Just paints that clingy type in my head who would propose marriage after the booking. ::) or would Want a gf bf relationship and text outside the booking and push for free dates :-X gag gag gag
It gives me the impression that they are a flash Harry, I work in towie territory and hate the flash Essex boy types they spend most of the time boasting about their money and looking in the mirror.
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It disgusts me. I had a client say during the booking "can you suck me some more before I make love to you?" I said "love?" He said yes it's more polite. "I said than what,saying fuck?' He said yes. I could have told him it's ok to say fuck but couldn't be bothered as thought it would have turned into a long conversation and his time was nearly up anyway. But heh, do you think they would tell their mates they are going to make love to a prostitute? I don't know, making love implies their is a mutual emotional connection and fondness. We both know I am not fond of you. Why kid yourself? Just enjoy the sex and shut up. Think of it as you may but please don't say it as it is so awkward. I don't care if you think I am your girlfriend but why verbalise it though. For fuck sake. It leaves me feeling queasy. I hate play also. This is not play for me, it's a job. You are a customer. I am providing you a service for a fee. ::) they will never open their eyes.
I like this. :)
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I have a regular that comes out with some beautiful analogies sometimes! My favourite to date was: " Look you have a ponytail like me today. Aren't we like two ponies frolicking around in a grassy meadow"!
Er...yes of course we are :-\
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I have a regular that comes out with some beautiful analogies sometimes! My favourite to date was: " Look you have a ponytail like me today. Aren't we like two ponies frolicking around in a grassy meadow"!
Er...yes of course we are :-\
Omg that made me laugh :D
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I use "Loves to give and receive pleasure" as a hook line in my marketing...no one has ever commented on it being cringy but I suppose it is a bit lol
I hate the words 'Dildo' and 'anal beads' they make me cringe...Whenever any potential clients start saying those words puts me right off them haha. "Aye up love what dildo's you got?" " YUK! lol I'm not keen on saying 'sex toys' either but what else can they be called?!!
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"Pleasure" as a noun is fine. It's using it as a verb I object to.
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"Only you" "I bought you something" "not all men are psycho" I never even said it. I almost said, my punters are nice except some TWS and such. Almost. :-\
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They will use all sorts of terminology for it. Its when they want to pay you to have sex with some random stranger or some male escort and he wants to film it, wanting to do... urrrgggg sick stuff! I mean, some guys requests want you to go bareback with another random guy and all sorts of things from sloppy seconds to him eating it...
To me, things like that is cringey.
Oh! and one client I remember asked me, when we were in this swingers club with this dark room with loud music inside, if I wouldn't mind going in without a condom and coming out after another man has had his way with me, and THEN he wants to drink it...
You have to learn to switch off or else you will start to go insane. Blank it off, ignore it, keep your mind occupied with everyday things.
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They will use all sorts of terminology for it. Its when they want to pay you to have sex with some random stranger or some male escort and he wants to film it, wanting to do... urrrgggg sick stuff! I mean, some guys requests want you to go bareback with another random guy and all sorts of things from sloppy seconds to him eating it...
To me, things like that is cringey.
Oh! and one client I remember asked me, when we were in this swingers club with this dark room with loud music inside, if I wouldn't mind going in without a condom and coming out after another man has had his way with me, and THEN he wants to drink it...
You have to learn to switch off or else you will start to go insane. Blank it off, ignore it, keep your mind occupied with everyday things.
tbh you have made it clear on here you do bareback so when clients ask you to do bb with others im not sure why you are shocked....
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tbh you have made it clear on here you do bareback so when clients ask you to do bb with others im not sure why you are shocked....
I have my limits, its just, like in my previous message here, some things really get to you.
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I have a regular that comes out with some beautiful analogies sometimes! My favourite to date was: " Look you have a ponytail like me today. Aren't we like two ponies frolicking around in a grassy meadow"!
Er...yes of course we are :-\
My God that is hysterical could not stop laughing! I have had similar things said to me and I reach for the sick bucket - will dig out some old e mails and post them on here. Men are strange creatures indeed.
Actually, someone recently said to me that "men with ponytails are arse holes- you lift their pony tale up and underneath you see an arse hole"! x