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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: curvygrace on 11 December 2013, 12:29:03 am
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uh oh. i guess it was inevitable!
a nervous newbie has been emailing me and then says in a very polite manner that he knows me in real life!
ah shit...
basically after a bit of back and forth and without saying any names i guess who he is too. he is not too far from home, in fact, my fb profile pic is one that he took.
so, anyway, he wants to see me still!
do i? dont i?
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Blimey not sure I would. Kind of weird knowing someone in a personal way and escort too....I wouldn't let the two cross....although if he is just an acquaintance and wont ask for discount then maybe....I'm rubbish at this sort of advice! I'm so risk averse.
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Its a tricky one, I defo wouldn't do it for obvious reasons but if he's spiteful, he may expose you in some way so I aint the best to give advice on this either, sorry xx
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Ooooh I dunno. I suppose you need to follow your instincts on this one
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He sounds creepy even if he said it in a polite manner. I wouldn't have responded to his emails as that is just feeding the fire. I guess you were curious. I would just tell him the situation makes you feel uncomfortable. But the more you contact him, the more personal stuff he has from you. Anyways depends on how you feel about working with people you know :-\
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I've had a couple of guys who know me ask me to service them as a client when they discovered what I do.
It feels a bit odd, and the first time it happened I had to think about it for a while. The main worry is that they might talk about details to other people. If that's a concern I wouldn't have anything to do with them on that score. But if they just want an introduction to it, why not.
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Depends on the relationship, for some reason guys don't realise how trying to work out who we are, did they see us in the corner shop the other day, were we the woman at the bus stop is one of the creepiest thing they can do. If they know us and it's a problem then best way is to be discrete and just not book. If I see a client in real life, which is unusual I just carry on as normal simple as. If guys I tell in my personal life try and book it's a no-no and guaranteed to have me running for the hills. That doesn't however mean paths cross with clients at a later date, at which point as already said I behave like a normal, sensible adult.
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If he is married he won't reveal.
If he is single perhaps more likely to?
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No way would I see someone who approached me in that manner, I think its really creepy and has too much potential to go wrong. I would tell him politely that you don't see people you know/acquaintances. I keep my work and personal life totally separate.
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If you feel comfortable with it- Do it. Then you have something on him in return so his way less likely to blab incase you do.
If you don't do it you risk peeing him off while he knows your secret...
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I had someone texting me a little like that but I realized after he was worried that I would recognize him -after- the booking but he still sounded a bit doge to me, just the fact him mentioning something about recognizing sent off alarm bells.
Its not really worth it, there is always the next client.
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If you don't do it you risk peeing him off while he knows your secret...
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Fuck that!
No one should have to compromise their privacy/peaceful state of mind for the sake of possibly pissing someone off?
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If he is married he won't reveal.
If he is single perhaps more likely to?
Not my experience, I've come across singletons who'd never dream of being indiscrete, and married men who are either oblivious, don't care or couldn't give a stuff.
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OK, he knows, and you now know he knows. Does he know that you know?
It comes down to how comfortable you feel about seeing him.
Uncomfortable: 'I'm sorry, but it'd be too weird'.
Fine: 'I nearly didn't do this - telling an escort you know them like that can be very off-putting - but let's try it'.
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Thanks for all the input.
He is not creepy in the slightest and actually one of the most unassuming and sweetest guys iv ever met.
He has a whole family and local reputation to look after so is trust worthy, no issues really.
I feel a touch embarrassed but not uncomfortable. He is very keen and wants to see me next week. I will report back!
I know it sounds weird but as my real life self esteem is so low i find it odd how he can know me as myself in jeans and no make up and still want me sexually! Thats the bit i cant accept! I cringe when i see punters out and about coz they are 'peeking behind the curtain' so to speak.