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Emma_GFE

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Just finished work
« on: 03 June 2012, 01:53:34 am »
First day back after 10 days, felt so nervous and stressed.
Really don't know if I can carry on escorting, I think the time off work has given me time to think.

I don't want to end my relationship for escorting, neither do i want to give up escorting for my relationship. I think if I tell the truth I WILL loose my boyfriend. One of those messy situations that can be hard to make the right decision. And you can only make one decision and you cant have both things. Just wish it wasn't so hard to pick :( xxx

casey_kisses

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #1 on: 03 June 2012, 02:25:18 am »
I gave up escorting for my relationship. Worst mistake I ever made. I can honestly say I would never ever do it again. Relationships come and go, but earning a living, especially if you enjoy it, provides stability and independence.

Depends how old you are though. If you want to settle down and start a family then it might be worth it... but if you are young, I think it's a bit pointless. IMHO of course.

If I get into another relationship, I will lie about it. But honestly I don't see that happening for another few years, can't be bothered with the hassle.

Disclaimer: I am coming from a pretty bitter post-break up view point.

Good luck making your decision.
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figa98

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #2 on: 03 June 2012, 03:06:40 am »
Very very very very very difficult choice BUT

There are no right or wrongs.

Cheesy advice but follow you heart and gut feeling,with or without him you must do what you feel is right for you x


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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #3 on: 03 June 2012, 09:42:25 am »
I've always been totally upfront and honest about my job before even getting into a relationship, sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesnt. I've never had a problem meeting men who are ok with the job, though I had to end my previous relationship as although he said he was ok with it, I noticed a big change in his mood whenever he knew Id worked, it just couldn't go on.

Like Casey, I could never give this up for a relationship. I tried it for just 2 weeks in the previous relationship and I became such a miserable bitch, I resented him even though he hadn't asked me to stop.  :-\
..Some would say I am selling my body but I know I am selling so much more than that..

Lady_Lust_XXX

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #4 on: 03 June 2012, 10:12:28 am »
SOME femmes CAN work and have a relationship.   I wouldn't/couldn't be one of them.

There ARE some guys who don't mind/accept their partners working - personally I can't understand it - but then I don't need to - but IT DOES HAPPEN.

Personally, because I am of the older generation, I do not have the big decision to make - do I want a relationship and a family - for I had been through the marriage, children, divorce stages before I even started escorting.

I don't envy anyone who has to make the choice - it is a BIG ONE - and when you get used to making the money - well the money that we made years ago - perhaps not so much now - it is difficult to give it up.

I think we get used to having money in our purses and in our bank accounts and no debt and that is a hard one to give up and personally I don't think I would give it up for anyone - I KNOW I wouldnt give it up for anyone, but that is just me.

Every femme is different and every partner is different so every individual decision is different.

I think when we have had a number of days off then it is difficult to go back to work - I know I find it that way anyway and that is why I only ever take a weeks holiday abroad so that I can jump back into work when I return home.

Good Luck whatever you choose Emma.  My thoughts are with you.
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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #5 on: 03 June 2012, 10:19:10 am »
Surely it's easier to tell a man nothing. Not just about this job either.
I'm glad I got all the Cynthia Payne books before the prices rocked to sky high.

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #6 on: 03 June 2012, 10:57:47 am »
I am with the two ladies above on this one....

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #7 on: 03 June 2012, 02:45:34 pm »
Professionally as an escort to another escort  i would say tell him nothing  especially if you want to carry on seeing him
but i would say that at some point he will find out  ( 9 times out of 10 they always do either by you slipping up or someone telling him or his mate seeing  you on adultwork ect )
   
Personally as a women  i cant lie i cant deal with the stress and im to honest  so i would tell him as i did with my other half 

its a shit or get of the pot kind of thing  neither of which is nice

Emma_GFE

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #8 on: 03 June 2012, 06:12:12 pm »
I think it would destroy him if I told him but I panic he will find out and know that at some point he will.

Its such good money but nothing beats a cuddle and a kiss and going out for dinner with someone you love. We have become really close recently and he is very close to my family now and part of the furniture (making it very difficult to work at the moment). He doesn't have a stable family and no one really cares about him. I know how much it means to him. I know I cant just do what makes him happy though as it isn't fair on me but I feel really selfish if I make the decision.
AHH my head is all over the place.

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #9 on: 03 June 2012, 08:24:22 pm »
For me I believe honesty is the best policy, if you cannot speak the truth and be accepted for who you are and what you do then let him walk.  He will find out any way the truth always has a way of raising its ugly head even if takes along time and you will be constantly looking over your shoulder.

Whatever you decide - good luck

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Re: Just finished work
« Reply #10 on: 03 June 2012, 09:25:32 pm »
I think you have to carefully consider every scenario. Yes being honest would mean a lot less pressure. But if he didn't accept it, and got angry about it, is he the type of person to use that information against you? The same question applies if the relationship goes sour.

If you carry on and don't tell him, you'll feel guilty- unless you can compartmentalise really well, but will regardless worry if he will find out. And then if he does you will be in the scenario above anyway.  When I started going out with my ex I quit my job. I never told him I had escorted. There was always that nagging in the back of my mind telling me not to give him that sort of power over me. And now I thank my lucky stars that I listened to that voice in the back of my head. In hindsight the fact that I didn't trust him enough to tell him was the first of many red flags.

If you leave escorting for him, and the relationship goes wrong, you will probably regret it. Not to mention, I for one took for granted the freedom that escorting gave me. My world got so much smaller once I quit escorting for him- everything was affected; my travel plans, my career plans etc. Because I simply could not afford to do those things anymore. I missed escorting a lot.

BUT part of my decision was made because I was suffering awful burnout from living my double life.

It depends on what you want right now out of your life. Do you want independence/ options open or do you want to settle down and have a family?

I guess what my point is, is that if this person isn't the person you see spending the rest of your life with/ someone you completely trust, then the relationship is not worth your job.

If it's a new relationship and you are still in the honeymoon period it can be hard to detach away from how nice it is to have hugs and kisses etc, but eventually you will take those for granted, much as you may take the money and security for escorting for granted now.

I believe that you should do what will make you happy- but make sure this isn't just your happiness this week, or 3 months time, but for your long term happiness. Because at the end of the day life is unpredictable and you need to make yourself happy and fulfilled, because no other person can make you truly happy. It's that whole 'love yourself thing'.

If you want to have a natter you can PM me.

You'll work it out chick  :)

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