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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Betty on 15 May 2012, 03:54:40 pm
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Hmmm, its been a bloody slow 2 weeks and with rent day looming, i'm panicking!!!
Anyway, this week i've had 3 bookings from a guy on AW but as I state, I dont accept booking requests without an email first, so I have ignored them.
Today, the chap emails me....
"can I book an appointment for today please?"
So we exchange emails, arrange a time... and I call him to see him in.
And in he comes...
The bloke comes in and looks a bit nervous/sketchy,, so I say, would you like to come in and have a little chat and a drink first....
So, I see him in, he looks like hes about to cry....
And I say, "are you okay babe?"
And he starts rubbing his eyes, like he really is going to cry and says... "I dont think I can do this."
So, i'm like, "okay, is it because your nervous, or is there anything I can do? Or is it a physical thing?"
And he says...
"I need to go, I really really cant do this.... I'm sorry, I just cant."
And literally goes running out of the door....
WTF?!
I thought I looked quite nice in a short-ish summery dress and sandals, hair and make up done... but maybe I wasnt his cup of tea?!
I'm so confused...
This has never happened to me before!!!
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He panicked and ran. He'll probably be kicking himself later!
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Yep, I would bet a very large pile of money that it's him, not you. There would be a small side bet that he doesn't have feedback from other escorts for 'in person' bookings.
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He had 1 feedback from someone who only offers massage and HR but that was over a year ago.. he babbled something about never having done this before he said he really cant and ran out of the door...
I would feel sorry for him... If I wasnt so skint!! ;)
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I've had a few runners myself, but they haven't been as honest as yours, usually its the 'my wallet's in the car' trick before dashing off.
I think a lot of them find it impossible to be honest about how they feel.
Strangely I had a young guy today do a runner 40 minutes in to a session, I'd suppose it was his embarassment at not cumming that had him wanting to 'go to the toilet' only to put his clothes on while there and leave without saying a word! I could see him running across the road back to his car!
I suppose its a mixture of embarassment and nerves, its not easy for some people to get intimate with a total stranger even when they think its what they want beforehand looking at your profile and pictures etc...Sometimes they feel a pressure to perform and maybe worry that they won't live up to some assumed sexual expectation even when there really isn't any.
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OMG Juliette! You're kidding.....he actually felt the need to try and sneak out? That's bizarre! I can just imagine him running across the road still doing his buttons up! Hahaha! Imagine if he then found he'd left something behind.....do you reckon he'd have come back for it? lol. x x x x
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OMG Juliette! You're kidding.....he actually felt the need to try and sneak out? That's bizarre! I can just imagine him running across the road still doing his buttons up! Hahaha! Imagine if he then found he'd left something behind.....do you reckon he'd have come back for it? lol. x x x x
Well he was quite young, I get the feeling that he just didn't know how to 'end it' or what to say the oral was going on for ages he didn't seem overly aroused and I think was perhaps a little embarassed as he had wanted to put a condom on and go anal but he just wasn't getting there .
It looked as if he couldn't get away quickly enough when I saw him rushing to his car reversing out and pulling away!
I thought it was odd as we seemed to be doing okay up until then and he had seemed very turned on by the whole thing.
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This guy today was quite young, 32 I think his profile said.... I still cant quite believe it!!! ???
Sorry to hear about your experience today Juliette... I at least hope he had paid you first!!
Ive never had anything like this today, though when I first started out and was a bit naive I had a chap email me about a booking, (it was my second ever job) and wanted a face pic, blah blah, I said no, he said, what if I dont fancy you?....
So I let him come over and "see me first"
He walked in... and said... "sorry love, im not paying for that!"
Charming!
To be honest though, ive never been more relieved. He was late 60's, dirty looking with black teeth and STANK of fags. And it must have been bad, as im a smoker myself and rarely smell it on anyone!!!
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So I let him come over and "see me first"
He walked in... and said... "sorry love, im not paying for that!"
Charming!
What an utter w*****! I understand that in the great scheme of things it?s nigh on impossible that every man you will ever come across will find you attractive (and vice versa) but seriously why do some people think it?s ok to be so rude about it?
I?m thinking he was Brad Pitt himself so you must have been heartbroken by his rejection ::)
Just thank god you?re not unfortunate enough to know this slime ball in real life ? can you imagine the poor sods who have to refer to him as dad, hubby, brother, friend? Ewwwwww :-X
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Hahaha!! Totally Danae.... what a total tosser.
I cant believe I ever agreed to see him at all in hindsight but I didnt have a clue what I was doing when I started and what was/wasnt acceptable.
I actually emailed him after he left and asked him what was wrong with me... << What a tool I was....
These buggars would just get a block and a bloody rant on here these days,,, ;D
Still, you live and you learn!!
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How long have you been in this job??
I think it just happens to every girl eventually,for a whole variety of reasons..
for about 2 years i got away with no one walking..
then had 2 in 1 day!!and now i have them every so often..
And it always happens when im feeling down :-[
But its even happened when ive felt great..
I had a guy a few weeks ago walk(lost another booking aswell! >:()
Then he text saying,i looked like someone he knew..so sometimes its not always a bad reflection on us.
But i always get down on myself when it happens and start thinking im not worthy!
But we shouldnt waste our energy..x x
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I've been doing it for about 14 months, though only full time for about 7.....
Oh well, like someone said a few days ago.. you win some you lose some!!!
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We all make mistakes, it?s one of the best ways of learning. When you fuck up at something and suffer in some way as a result of that mistake, the likelihood is that you think very long and hard next time. It?s so much more effective than being told by someone else or reading about it in some book.
When I first started, one of my very first few outcalls turned out to be a prank (my fault, too trusting and didn?t do the proper checks). I ended up in front of an Ann Summers store in Bromley at midnight. Very funny!
You have to laugh I suppose...
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Hahahhahahahahahahahha!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Sorry Danae, that it happened to you... but I must admit that post had me in stitches... x
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Glad I cheered you up! Lol x :D
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Sorry to hear about your experience today Juliette... I at least hope he had paid you first!!
Ive never had anything like this today, though when I first started out and was a bit naive I had a chap email me about a booking, (it was my second ever job) and wanted a face pic, blah blah, I said no, he said, what if I dont fancy you?....
So I let him come over and "see me first"
He walked in... and said... "sorry love, im not paying for that!"
Charming!
To be honest though, ive never been more relieved. He was late 60's, dirty looking with black teeth and STANK of fags. And it must have been bad, as im a smoker myself and rarely smell it on anyone!!!
I never do anything without taking the cash first so it wasnt really an issue, just strange that he felt the need to run off without saying anything!
I don't think I'd ever invite anyone come along just to have a look at me, too many would get off just on be able to do this to someone though some are rude enough to think they can waste your time turning up and then thinking better of it and leaving as if they owe you nothing (having spent the last hour getting everything ready, washing, doing makeup etc for them)...
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Strangely I had a young guy today do a runner 40 minutes in to a session, I'd suppose it was his embarassment at not cumming that had him wanting to 'go to the toilet' only to put his clothes on while there and leave without saying a word! I could see him running across the road back to his car!
I suppose its a mixture of embarassment and nerves, its not easy for some people to get intimate with a total stranger even when they think its what they want beforehand looking at your profile and pictures etc...Sometimes they feel a pressure to perform and maybe worry that they won't live up to some assumed sexual expectation even when there really isn't any.
That?s just bizarre! Do some men really find women that intimidating that they feel the only way out is by pulling stunts like this?
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How long have you been in this job??
I think it just happens to every girl eventually,for a whole variety of reasons..
for about 2 years i got away with no one walking..
then had 2 in 1 day!!and now i have them every so often..
And it always happens when im feeling down :-[
But its even happened when ive felt great..
I had a guy a few weeks ago walk(lost another booking aswell! >:()
Then he text saying,i looked like someone he knew..so sometimes its not always a bad reflection on us.
But i always get down on myself when it happens and start thinking im not worthy!
But we shouldnt waste our energy..x x
Sadie, it often has very little to do with us and everything to do with them (unless you?re type of girl who puts fake/heavily airbrushed photos up or are dishonest in your profile in some other way? in which case it?s the chickens coming home to roost). It?s hard to stay positive when you have to take a hit like that but try to think of all the other men you?ve met who thought you were so gorgeous they were prepared to cough up for it. :)
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Strangely I had a young guy today do a runner 40 minutes in to a session, I'd suppose it was his embarassment at not cumming that had him wanting to 'go to the toilet' only to put his clothes on while there and leave without saying a word! I could see him running across the road back to his car!
I suppose its a mixture of embarassment and nerves, its not easy for some people to get intimate with a total stranger even when they think its what they want beforehand looking at your profile and pictures etc...Sometimes they feel a pressure to perform and maybe worry that they won't live up to some assumed sexual expectation even when there really isn't any.
That?s just bizarre! Do some men really find women that intimidating that they feel the only way out is by pulling stunts like this?
I'm actually a transvestite escort, which probably goes some way to explaining this sort of reaction! I think some of them tend to be wrestling with their desires somewhat and so its often a bit of a sexual dilemma in itself for them visiting me (as 'normally straight' guys often with girlfriends/wives etc) aside from the 'seeing an escort' excitement/nervousness.
For example this one started off with texting 'sorry you sounded very manly on the phone' while at the same time telling me 'u are lush tho' referring to my pics shortly after hanging up! Somehow he seemed to get around this psychological dilemma and come back to make an appointment but its a kind of a problem for a lot of them (and for me as I get a lot of timewasters)...
Most are usually comfortable enough to say 'sorry this isn't for me' and leave after paying me or if they want to end early polite enough to say they're happy with how things have gone but want to call it short.
You'd assume I was about to chain this guy up or something though! ;D
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No definetly me in my pictures!!
dont even air brush..think guys prefer realistic photos..
The ones that walk out are always horrors anyhow ;D have you noticed that?
sod em!!
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No definetly me in my pictures!!
dont even air brush..think guys prefer realistic photos..
The ones that walk out are always horrors anyhow ;D have you noticed that?
sod em!!
Well in that case they must just be raging homosexuals struggling to come to terms with their hidden sexuality! Lol
That?s what I would think anyway should a man walk out on me... ;)
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I will try next time!!
cus ive let them spoil my day before now.x x
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I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
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I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!
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I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!
No, I doubt it. It?s great Jan has been fortunate in this regard but just because you?ve not been so lucky doesn?t mean it?s you.
Sometimes blokes don?t read profiles, get them mixed up, simply change their minds or are just timewasters who had no intention of going through with the meeting in the first place. Or shock horror one or two might not get turned on by you...soooo? Some men out there can?t see what the fuss is about Angelina Jolie. You can?t be everything to everyone.
It?s also (I think) to do with the turnover you have. If you only see a couple of clients a day/week/month any mishap is going to feel magnified to you. If you see loads, the odd blip here and there is nothing. On the other hand if you see tons then I would think there was more chance of walk outs as you?re seeing a higher volume of men and so the chance that you?re not going to click with one is going to be higher.
Anyway after all is said and done, why not concentrate on the positive experiences? The guys who thought you were perfect for them and just what they were looking for. I?m willing to bet the good guys far outweigh the bad experiences, why let a few assholes make you doubt yourself?
You can?t always control how people behave towards you but what you can control is your own reaction to that behaviour. People can only irritate/piss you off/ affect your self esteem if you give them permission.
Wow I should look into giving inspirational talks my talents are wasted as a prostitute!!! lol ;D
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I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!
No its not you. I suspect its the sign of the times. Men think they are window shopping. They forget that if they had done their homework right in the first place they wouldn't have to be hurting someones feelings by walking out. Also it wouldn't suprise me if some of the walk outs are part of a plan. Never blame yourself for someones bad behaviour.
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Thanks girls ;)
im an insecure so and so sometimes..
I think i realise deep down and i was seeing a high volume of clients at one point(not anymore ;D)
so it was envitable..
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I think it was nerves - I was so nervous on my first job that when I went to the loo to get changed I was seriously contemplating climbing out the bathroom window. Adrenaline does strange things to a brain...Hope everything picks up work wise, and Tuesday's over, so things can only get better!xx
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Thanks Ella... just finished with an absolute hunk and as a "one a day" by rule kinda chick, i'm glad matey pissed off earlier or else i'd have blown off the total totty that graced my doorstep this evening...
Silver linings and all that!!!
xxx
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Aww jealous!!Though obviously delighted for you (but still jealous...) I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D
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Hahhahahahhaha.... I have had a fair few hobbits lately and even went on a non paid date with one 2 weeks ago (but thats another story)... If your interested in hearing about it i'll give you my AW name and you can read my blog!!!
We should write a book on our experiences.. you know, a sequel to Belle De Jour... I'm thinking.... "Chapter One.... The Hairy Hobbits."
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I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D
That made me L.O.L
Is that why you want to ditch your profile to escape the Hobbits?! ;D
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Seems a good enough reason to me Danae!! xx
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Ha I wish, I'm 5'8 I can take on a hobbit or two! :D
I'm editing this - I mean I can take them on in a fight, not for a creepy Tolkien Themed Threesome....
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hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!! This thread has proper made me Lol.. I posted hoping someone would cheer me up and you lot sure have!!!
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
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Aww jealous!!Though obviously delighted for you (but still jealous...) I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D
lmao
Nothing wrong with hobbits! Would prefer a few Aragorns though!
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What on earth are Aragorns Coty?!! x
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Aww jealous!!Though obviously delighted for you (but still jealous...) I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D
lmao
Nothing wrong with hobbits! Would prefer a few Aragorns though!
I seem to attract the "Gandalf" type most of the time... (Not complaining or anything, but...) ;D
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Hahahhaha!!!
We really could make a Labyrinth sequel i'm sure with all of our experiences....
Now to find a leading man who could do David Bowie's role....
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What on earth are Aragorns Coty?!! x
http://tinyurl.com/dxv3kmt
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Thats more like it!! ;)
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Aww jealous!!Though obviously delighted for you (but still jealous...) I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D
Don't knock it, this could become your speciality!!!! There's probably a group of Lord of the Rings super fans that meet up - could be loads of business!
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brilliant thread!
iv had someone do a runner on me literally mid thrust! no cumming or anything, i think he put he boxers on with condom still on! lol
also had many 'forgot my wallet' guys.
had a very cute and embarrassed young 'un asking for a 'massage' (yeh lol - you mean hand job right?) well it turns out he genuinely thought i was a massuese so when i pointed out his hard on and took my bra off he literally ran out with clothes in hand!
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Haha, im pleased I started this thread as its nice and reassuring to know its not just me!!!
Dorry to hear of your experiences CG!! xxx
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We all make mistakes, it?s one of the best ways of learning. When you fuck up at something and suffer in some way as a result of that mistake, the likelihood is that you think very long and hard next time. It?s so much more effective than being told by someone else or reading about it in some book.
When I first started, one of my very first few outcalls turned out to be a prank (my fault, too trusting and didn?t do the proper checks). I ended up in front of an Ann Summers store in Bromley at midnight. Very funny!
You have to laugh I suppose...
LMAO......that sounds like a sketch from a comedy show to me!!
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ooooh yeah, knocking on the wrong door - iv done that.
i even knocked on wrong door in wrong hotel! double doooo'hhh!!
so embarrassing!
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ooooh yeah, knocking on the wrong door - iv done that.
i even knocked on wrong door in wrong hotel! double doooo'hhh!!
so embarrassing!
Oh God...me too! There were two travel lodges almost next to each other. So actually I did get the right room number, just in the wrong hotel!
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It's him babe, not you. Some guys panic :-\
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A genuine virgin visited me once, and was nervous to the point of literally shaking. He was the cutest and most innocent young man I've ever encountered. After a 5-minute chat he decided against it, looked at me and said: 'can I just give you a hug and go?'. Still makes me go 'awwww' when I think about it :)