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JulietteTV

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #15 on: 15 May 2012, 07:41:44 pm »

Sorry to hear about your experience today Juliette... I at least hope he had paid you first!!

Ive never had anything like this today, though when I first started out and was a bit naive I had a chap email me about a booking, (it was my second ever job) and wanted a face pic, blah blah, I said no, he said, what if I dont fancy you?....
So I let him come over and "see me first"
He walked in... and said... "sorry love, im not paying for that!"

Charming!

To be honest though, ive never been more relieved. He was late 60's, dirty looking with black teeth and STANK of fags. And it must have been bad, as im a smoker myself and rarely smell it on anyone!!!

I never do anything without taking the cash first so it wasnt really an issue, just strange that he felt the need to run off without saying anything!
I don't think I'd ever invite anyone come along just to have a look at me, too many would get off just on be able to do this to someone though some are rude enough to think they can waste your time turning up and then thinking better of it and leaving as if they owe you nothing (having spent the last hour getting everything ready, washing, doing makeup etc for them)...

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #16 on: 15 May 2012, 07:44:22 pm »

Strangely I had a young guy today do a runner 40 minutes in to a session, I'd suppose it was his embarassment at not cumming that had him wanting to 'go to the toilet' only to put his clothes on while there and leave without saying a word! I could see him running across the road back to his car!
I suppose its a mixture of embarassment and nerves, its not easy for some people to get intimate with a total stranger even when they think its what they want beforehand looking at your profile and pictures etc...Sometimes they feel a pressure to perform and maybe worry that they won't live up to some assumed sexual expectation even when there really isn't any.

That?s just bizarre! Do some men really find women that intimidating that they feel the only way out is by pulling stunts like this?

divine_madonna

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #17 on: 15 May 2012, 07:52:19 pm »
How long have you been in this job??
I think it just happens to every girl eventually,for a whole variety of reasons..
for about 2 years i got away with no one walking..
then had 2 in 1 day!!and now i have them every so often..
And it always happens when im feeling down :-[
But its even happened when ive felt great..
I had a guy a few weeks ago walk(lost another booking aswell! >:()
Then he text saying,i looked like someone he knew..so sometimes its not always a bad reflection on us.
But i always get down on myself when it happens and start thinking im not worthy!
But we shouldnt waste our energy..x x

Sadie, it often has very little to do with us and everything to do with them (unless you?re type of girl who puts fake/heavily airbrushed photos up or are dishonest in your profile in some other way? in which case it?s the chickens coming home to roost).  It?s hard to stay positive when you have to take a hit like that but try to think of all the other men you?ve met who thought you were so gorgeous they were prepared to cough up for it.  :)

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #18 on: 15 May 2012, 07:59:12 pm »

Strangely I had a young guy today do a runner 40 minutes in to a session, I'd suppose it was his embarassment at not cumming that had him wanting to 'go to the toilet' only to put his clothes on while there and leave without saying a word! I could see him running across the road back to his car!
I suppose its a mixture of embarassment and nerves, its not easy for some people to get intimate with a total stranger even when they think its what they want beforehand looking at your profile and pictures etc...Sometimes they feel a pressure to perform and maybe worry that they won't live up to some assumed sexual expectation even when there really isn't any.

That?s just bizarre! Do some men really find women that intimidating that they feel the only way out is by pulling stunts like this?

I'm actually a transvestite escort, which probably goes some way to explaining this sort of reaction! I think some of them tend to be wrestling with their desires somewhat and so its often a bit of a sexual dilemma in itself for them visiting me (as 'normally straight' guys often with girlfriends/wives etc) aside from the 'seeing an escort' excitement/nervousness.
For example this one started off with texting 'sorry you sounded very manly on the phone' while at the same time telling me 'u are lush tho' referring to my pics shortly after hanging up! Somehow he seemed to get around this psychological dilemma and come back to make an appointment but its a kind of a problem for a lot of them (and for me as I get a lot of timewasters)...
Most are usually comfortable enough to say 'sorry this isn't for me' and leave after paying me or if they want to end early polite enough to say they're happy with how things have gone but want to call it short.
You'd assume I was about to chain this guy up or something though! ;D



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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #19 on: 15 May 2012, 07:59:51 pm »
No definetly me in my pictures!!
dont even air brush..think guys prefer realistic photos..

The ones that walk out are always horrors anyhow ;D have you noticed that?
sod em!!

divine_madonna

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #20 on: 15 May 2012, 08:02:34 pm »
No definetly me in my pictures!!
dont even air brush..think guys prefer realistic photos..

The ones that walk out are always horrors anyhow ;D have you noticed that?
sod em!!

Well in that case they must just be raging homosexuals struggling to come to terms with their hidden sexuality! Lol
That?s what I would think anyway should a man walk out on me... ;)

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #21 on: 15 May 2012, 08:08:14 pm »
I will try next time!!
cus ive let them spoil my day before now.x x

Jan10

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #22 on: 15 May 2012, 08:49:36 pm »
I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Hello nice to meet you :)

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #23 on: 15 May 2012, 09:36:42 pm »
I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!

divine_madonna

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #24 on: 15 May 2012, 09:55:14 pm »
I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!

No, I doubt it. It?s great Jan has been fortunate in this regard but just because you?ve not been so lucky doesn?t mean it?s you.

Sometimes blokes don?t read profiles, get them mixed up, simply change their minds or are just timewasters who had no intention of going through with the meeting in the first place. Or shock horror one or two might not get turned on by you...soooo? Some men out there can?t see what the fuss is about Angelina Jolie. You can?t be everything to everyone.

It?s also (I think) to do with the turnover you have. If you only see a couple of clients a day/week/month any mishap is going to feel magnified to you. If you see loads, the odd blip here and there is nothing. On the other hand if you see tons then I would think there was more chance of walk outs as you?re seeing a higher volume of men and so the chance that you?re not going to click with one is going to be higher.

Anyway after all is said and done, why not concentrate on the positive experiences? The guys who thought you were perfect for them and just what they were looking for. I?m willing to bet the good guys far outweigh the bad experiences, why let a few assholes make you doubt yourself? 

You can?t always control how people behave towards you but what you can control is your own reaction to that behaviour. People can only irritate/piss you off/ affect your self esteem if you give them permission.

Wow I should look into giving inspirational talks my talents are wasted as a prostitute!!! lol ;D
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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #25 on: 15 May 2012, 11:12:37 pm »
I have been escorting since 2006 and fingers crossed I have never had a walker or a runner. I don't think it would bother me if I did as I can't be everyones cup of tea meaning my appearance or how I perform. We can't please everyone.
Thats made me feel worse!!ive had a good few..so it must be me!!

No its not you. I suspect its the sign of the times. Men think they are window shopping. They forget that if they had done their homework right in the first place they wouldn't have to be hurting someones feelings by walking out. Also it wouldn't suprise me if some of the walk outs are part of a plan. Never blame yourself for someones bad behaviour.
Hello nice to meet you :)

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #26 on: 15 May 2012, 11:19:56 pm »
Thanks girls ;)
im an insecure so and so sometimes..
I think i realise deep down and i was seeing a high volume of clients at one point(not anymore ;D)
so it was envitable..
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« Reply #27 on: 16 May 2012, 12:13:25 am »
I think it was nerves - I was so nervous on my first job that when I went to the loo to get changed I was seriously contemplating climbing out the bathroom window. Adrenaline does strange things to a brain...Hope everything picks up work wise, and Tuesday's over, so things can only get better!xx

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #28 on: 16 May 2012, 12:23:33 am »
Thanks Ella... just finished with an absolute hunk and as a "one a day" by rule kinda chick, i'm glad matey pissed off earlier or else i'd have blown off the total totty that graced my doorstep this evening...

Silver linings and all that!!!

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Re: "I don't think I can do this..."
« Reply #29 on: 16 May 2012, 01:12:07 am »
Aww jealous!!Though obviously delighted for you (but still jealous...) I seem to have stumbled across a hidden world of Hobbits in Oxford - seriously, teeny, teeny men - and hairy ;D