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KimberlyC

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #15 on: 16 July 2014, 10:48:30 am »
It can be awkward to have more money than your friends. And I think maybe we'll feel a bit guilty about that so try to make up for it. Then, there can be for some people an element of wanting people to like them. Even being a bit ashamed of their money, as if they don't deserve it because they feel like it's "dirty money."

On the other side, there's certainly plenty of people who think that it's dirty money, that we don't deserve it, and that we should be expected to share it with everyone.

But, yeah - being a prossie is open to anyone. I don't really have this problem with any of my friends but if anyone ever implied that I have so much that I ought to share, I'd probably tell them to go suck a bag of dicks. Then, they too can be all rich and glamorous. ::)

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #16 on: 16 July 2014, 11:35:42 am »
It's definitely one way we find out who our friends really are  ::)  Be thankful they showed you their asses now, so you don't have to spend any more time (or money) on them.  ;)

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #17 on: 16 July 2014, 01:22:50 pm »
I had two 'best friends' one knew about my job and the other one didnt. The one who did was completely fine with it and it never seemed to be a problem, i'd buy meals out and lots of drinks on a night out etc as I felt bad because she was a uni student, I also spent lots of money when I would go visit her at Uni and would end up footing a lot of the bills for nights out with her and uni pals, not that she ever directly asked I just felt I should as I was in a better position.. Anyway, one day our other best friend found out about me and completely cut me off (bothered me at first but now i couldnt give a f**). Obviously she followed suit and we havent spoken since. Since it all happening both have spent their time spreading the gossip round about me being a 'prossie' and how bad it is blah blah. Take my advice, never ever be generous with the money you earn doing this job. The only people that now benefit from my hard earned money is me and people like my mum, family etc who I can take out and buy nice gifts for at christmas and birthdays etc ... x
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martine21

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #18 on: 16 July 2014, 02:34:04 pm »
Ah you're all right ladies.

I've followed through and made my feelings very clear to my 'best' friend. She's aware and has acknowledged she's been taking the mick, and from now on, I will pay for myself and only myself.

I hate being tight but this has been a lesson learned!

Tbf I'm looking forward to actually saving the money!

Thanks again girlies xx

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #19 on: 21 July 2014, 10:28:09 am »
I had someone steal from me yes. Also a friend of mine at the start took advantage, but then realised how hard i worked for my money when she got into the job too & soon payed me back :).

Think of someone you know who is LOADED. Do you feel envious & in some strange way entitled to some money if they cared for you, it's a weird feeling & most realize we're certainly not entitled to anyones money but it doesn't stop that annoying feeling sometimes. They clearly think you are richer than you are. You work hard for that money, so do with it what you will :)

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #20 on: 21 July 2014, 03:39:25 pm »
I told a friend I might do some camming to help top up my earnings whilst business was a bit slow. He asked if there was a way he could watch for free! Cheeky shit.
We're women, it's what we do. I just get paid for it.

Green Carnation

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #21 on: 21 July 2014, 10:07:03 pm »
I kid you not, my friend who's also and escort expects me to pay for her when we meet. Not anything extravagant, but can't remember last time she paid for her shittyccino or wine when we meet up. I'm a complete softie and never rise the subject. She never has 'change', 'forgot' to pay money in blah blah. I'm getting so tired of her ;(

kinkyboots

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #22 on: 22 July 2014, 12:24:01 am »

I'm super secretive about what i do so i haven't had that problem with friends in the past but i did have it with an ex boyfriend. The lazy so and so refused to get off his arse and find a job thinking he could just sponge off me for the foreseeable. When confronted about it he would throw a paddy and say something along the lines of "Why should i work somewhere like a factory for a minimum wage when you are getting the amount you are getting for hardly nothing" the cheeky get. Suffice to say he's gone now. If i ever have any future friends try the same lark they will find themselves in the same pile, what a bloody cheek these people have.

Some people outside the industry really do have a clouded judgement if they think what we do is just easy money. Sure the money is good and can be earned relatively quickly but it's certainly not easy, that's for sure. Like mentioned above, the vacancy of being a prossie is open to just about anybody so if they want 'fast money' that badly then they could all too easily make their own AW add and graft for it themselves. 

They should be ashamed of themselves tbh, there's no dignity in being "take take take" and people like that will find themselves without many true friends in the long run  :)

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Re: 'Friends' taking advantage
« Reply #23 on: 27 July 2014, 08:11:25 pm »
I have a problem in that I constantly offer, especially since most of my friends are broke students. So I get everything, take them out for cocktails and meals out and then realise how much I've spent without realising :/ they don't use me, they're constantly saying I don't have to etc, I just like treating them... only thing is it makes me as broke as they are :P