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"Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« on: 12 December 2016, 10:31:09 pm »
Hi Ladies going to have a bit of a moan!

I am an escort but I offer domination as one of my services, and without blowing my own trumpet, I'm bloody good! I know this because I have built up so many clients and they love my own " erotic" brand of Domination. I have recently been in contact with a Professional Dom who has been working for over 20 years and has a good reputation. But I am disappointed to find out that she has been bad mouthing my unique methods along side another escort in my area offering Domination services who also has her own unique brand of Domination. We have both been branded "just escorts with a whip" And apparently, me personally, will never amount to anything then just an escort.

 Before I knew of her "bad mouthing" to another Pro Dom. we sat over a coffee and had a chat and it turns out that she is not very busy these days and after comparing stories and numbers we both soon realised both me and the other young lady were now seeing HER clients on a regular basis. I have been slated by so called "professional" Doms for bringing in more eroticism into my sessions and our saying some pretty catty and unprofessional things about me. Do you know what I think? I think its time they hung up there paddles and put on there slippers! Gone are they days when domination was about whipping and spanking. The sex industry is expanding and there is so much more we can explore sexually. These bitter women need to move on. I will never give up either escorting or Domination as I have a passion for both. And just because I choose to to Dominate different to the old, boring and samey way they do, doesn't mean I'm not a Dominatrix. In fact I am very much a Dominatrix, there old and my new clients told me so!

I also found the "amount to nothing more then escort" comments a bit rich to be honest. Considering both of these ladies were once prostitues themselves. And insulting WGs was the final straw for me before I lost my rag and told them what I thought of them. Both these ladies are so quiet they are renting out there equipped premises to make money, not through providing a domination service. I'm so angry and disappointed that two grown women I had respect for have behaved so childish!

Have any of you ladies offering similer  services had any experience with bitter old has beens criticising your work?

Sorry for the rant, I'm just so disappointed xxxx

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Re: "Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« Reply #1 on: 12 December 2016, 10:43:08 pm »
Hi Ladies going to have a bit of a moan!

I am an escort but I offer domination as one of my services, and without blowing my own trumpet, I'm bloody good! I know this because I have built up so many clients and they love my own " erotic" brand of Domination. I have recently been in contact with a Professional Dom who has been working for over 20 years and has a good reputation. But I am disappointed to find out that she has been bad mouthing my unique methods along side another escort in my area offering Domination services who also has her own unique brand of Domination. We have both been branded "just escorts with a whip" And apparently, me personally, will never amount to anything then just an escort.

 Before I knew of her "bad mouthing" to another Pro Dom. we sat over a coffee and had a chat and it turns out that she is not very busy these days and after comparing stories and numbers we both soon realised both me and the other young lady were now seeing HER clients on a regular basis. I have been slated by so called "professional" Doms for bringing in more eroticism into my sessions and our saying some pretty catty and unprofessional things about me. Do you know what I think? I think its time they hung up there paddles and put on there slippers! Gone are they days when domination was about whipping and spanking. The sex industry is expanding and there is so much more we can explore sexually. These bitter women need to move on. I will never give up either escorting or Domination as I have a passion for both. And just because I choose to to Dominate different to the old, boring and samey way they do, doesn't mean I'm not a Dominatrix. In fact I am very much a Dominatrix, there old and my new clients told me so!

I also found the "amount to nothing more then escort" comments a bit rich to be honest. Considering both of these ladies were once prostitues themselves. And insulting WGs was the final straw for me before I lost my rag and told them what I thought of them. Both these ladies are so quiet they are renting out there equipped premises to make money, not through providing a domination service. I'm so angry and disappointed that two grown women I had respect for have behaved so childish!

Have any of you ladies offering similer  services had any experience with bitter old has beens criticising your work?

Sorry for the rant, I'm just so disappointed xxxx
Sorry to hear this but its good old fashioned jealousy at its worst & unfortuneately this is part & parcel of the job & its exactly why I stopped working in parlours; it was such a hostile environment & I could no longer handle it & I was getting headaches EVERY single shift with the stress of it all, even girls I regarded as Friends would turn & I myself started turning into a bit of a bitch & I hated myself for it. Put it down to experience & see the jealousy as something flattering (I know its hard) and don't speak to this girl again. More experienced SW's can get very very jealous of new 'meat' on the block if you get me? Bitches, women at their worst.

Keep your chin up xx
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« Reply #2 on: 12 December 2016, 10:53:39 pm »
And also girls that were once 'top dogs' can no longer accept that they won't be topdogs forever.

I started working in a sauna when I was 24 & the topdog at the time was 38 & such a lovely, bubbly happy woman making ?400 on a 6 hour shift 4 times a week & she had a cupboard full of regular clients who were more loyal to her than their own wives & I never once heard her badmouth ANY girl, well fast forward 10 years later & she's far from the busiest & omg she used to put me in a negative place even just talking to her, she'd bitch about every girl & even girls at age 18-20 & I thought this was particularly bad because she had a daughter at this age; imagine bitching about an 18 year old girl being 'crap in the room', my god not many 18 year olds are very experienced at sex with men they are attracted too let alone paying clients who are mostly way too old & unattractive for them!! Disgusting for a woman of 48 to be putting them down, anyway she is now a bitter, negative bitch who needs to accept that her days are numbered in the sauna. Don't get me wrong I think she can still make cash but not in saunas; she has worked there for 25+ years & has been with 95% of them & tbh in this particular sauna there isn't alot of business for women aged 40+. Sad but true. I hope I never end up a bitter auld hooker!! lol
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« Reply #3 on: 12 December 2016, 11:16:51 pm »
This sort of stuff drives me mad.

I once watched a twitter exchange where this frightfully unattractive Dom (sorry I know)  tore another escort/Dom (prettier and not as hardcore) down and claimed she was just a silly escort "with a whip". She acted like her definition of domination was what everyone in the world should follow. It was so stupid.

It's pure jealousy. Don't listen to her. Just continue doing what you're doing. I mean you are getting all her clients.
I have no idea why there is this prevailing attitude among domantrixes that there's this weird brand of "real domination" and lots of people can't compare to them because they're  "real doms" etc and that it takes lots of learning/God divined powers to become a real Dom.  It comes off as a bunch of crap that they say to reassure themselves that they're "special snowflakes".

I had one girl tell me and her clients I'm not a true submissive if I like to dominate sometimes ::) I'm watheever it is I want to be. They should worry about their own businesses.


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« Reply #4 on: 12 December 2016, 11:24:01 pm »
Just think 'insecure people trying to put themselves on top of the destructive and pointless sex work hierarchy', and ignore it.
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« Reply #5 on: 12 December 2016, 11:27:26 pm »
This sort of stuff drives me mad.

I once watched a twitter exchange where this frightfully unattractive Dom (sorry I know)  tore another escort/Dom (prettier and not as hardcore) down and claimed she was just a silly escort "with a whip". She acted like her definition of domination was what everyone in the world should follow. It was so stupid.

It's pure jealousy. Don't listen to her. Just continue doing what you're doing. I mean you are getting all her clients.
I have no idea why there is this prevailing attitude among domantrixes that there's this weird brand of "real domination" and lots of people can't compare to them because they're  "real doms" etc and that it takes lots of learning/God divined powers to become a real Dom.  It comes off as a bunch of crap that they say to reassure themselves that they're "special snowflakes".

I had one girl tell me and her clients I'm not a true submissive if I like to dominate sometimes ::) I'm watheever it is I want to be. They should worry about their own businesses.
Its really pathetic and deep down these sorts of women are unhappy in their own skin & have deep insecurity issues and you just have to keep remembering that hun. I could go on+on for pages about bitching between SW's but I'm not going to. Its very unprofessional to talk about other girls to clients but you get some clients that love all that competition between girls, I think bitchy fishwifey men are far more horrid than fishwifey woman.
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Re: "Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« Reply #6 on: 12 December 2016, 11:46:46 pm »
A Dom once told me the difference between an escort with a whip and a true dom is escorts also offer sexual service  to punters and doms don't. There's nothing wrong with being an escort with a whip if that's what one is.
I've spanked, whipped, slapped, ball busted, electrified, cock twisted, spat on, tied up, tortured, walked on with my stilettos, humiliated and sissified punters for many years but I wouldn't call myself a dominatrix as I also offer a sexual service.

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Re: "Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« Reply #7 on: 13 December 2016, 12:09:57 am »
A Dom once told me the difference between an escort with a whip and a true dom is escorts also offer sexual service  to punters and doms don't. There's nothing wrong with being an escort with a whip if that's what one is.
I've spanked, whipped, slapped, ball busted, electrified, cock twisted, spat on, tied up, tortured, walked on with my stilettos, humiliated and sissified punters for many years but I wouldn't call myself a dominatrix as I also offer a sexual service.

I think the difference is one is a "text book" dominatrix the other is a one who sees fit to do as she wants! I do what I want with the submissive gentlemen that I see and with my slaves, because I AM a truly dominant woman and I really enjoy what I do and how my sessions go. And that includes sex if I feel like it. Do you honestly believe women who stick to a " no sex" rule are truly independent and dominant women. Doesn't that defeat the object?

my clients say they are bored of the way these so called " Pro Doms " work its to clinical and text book. They all do the same thing!

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« Reply #8 on: 13 December 2016, 12:23:29 am »
I think the difference is one is a "text book" dominatrix the other is a one who sees fit to do as she wants! I do what I want with the submissive gentlemen that I see and with my slaves, because I AM a truly dominant woman and I really enjoy what I do and how my sessions go. And that includes sex if I feel like it. Do you honestly believe women who stick to a " no sex" rule are truly independent and dominant women. Doesn't that defeat the object?

my clients say they are bored of the way these so called " Pro Doms " work its to clinical and text book. They all do the same thing!
Its up to you how you work and what you offer but there is a line between being a pro dominatrix vs an escort who offers a domination service.
I wouldn't let it affect you if your punters are happy that's the main thing.

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Re: "Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« Reply #9 on: 13 December 2016, 02:15:47 am »
my clients say they are bored of the way these so called " Pro Doms " work its to clinical and text book. They all do the same thing!

You're sort of falling into the same trap saying that sort of thing though, aren't you? (I don't mean that as bitchily as it sounds, but I do find the arguing about BDSM definitions, whorearchies etc. a bit tedious...)

My policy is always do what I want to do and see the clients I want to see. I don't have any real-life interactions with other SPs, and don't intend to.
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« Reply #10 on: 13 December 2016, 02:48:28 pm »
I have never understood why some pro-dommes look down their noses at escorts that also offer sex with domination services.  Why cant an escort who also offers domination call themselves a professional dominatrix. I really dislike it when some sex workers think themselves better than others.

I think these people get jealous of ladies that are more popular/more successful than them, and have I been the victim of it myself with bitchy comments on why I am so busy.  Instead of looking at themselves and figuring out why they are not busy, they just decide to blame others.  This is why I keep myself to myself these days, I hate the drama of it all.

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« Reply #11 on: 13 December 2016, 06:47:30 pm »
I have never understood why some pro-dommes look down their noses at escorts that also offer sex with domination services.  Why cant an escort who also offers domination call themselves a professional dominatrix. I really dislike it when some sex workers think themselves better than others.

I think these people get jealous of ladies that are more popular/more successful than them, and have I been the victim of it myself with bitchy comments on why I am so busy.  Instead of looking at themselves and figuring out why they are not busy, they just decide to blame others.  This is why I keep myself to myself these days, I hate the drama of it all.
I agree, there is so much snobbery in the Domme scene. I have encountered it myself because I offer facesitting and hand relief. To the op, distance yourself from this lady and do your own thing.
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« Reply #12 on: 13 December 2016, 06:52:40 pm »
There is a market for everyone and some guys want the 'Old fashioned' Dominatrix, no touching etc, this is why I never get professionally involved with any other girls,

I think talking with her ex clients is a mistake, you know how some punters love a gossip and if they book her again could badmouth you. X
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« Reply #13 on: 13 December 2016, 11:13:17 pm »
There is a market for everyone and some guys want the 'Old fashioned' Dominatrix, no touching etc, this is why I never get professionally involved with any other girls,

I think talking with her ex clients is a mistake, you know how some punters love a gossip and if they book her again could badmouth you. X

This is my philosophy on things I tend to just try to avoid client gossip and other girls being catty as best I can it's just toxic behaviour and why I feel like it's best to avoid getting too close to any other prostitutes because once they know you personally they could gossip anywhere and use it against you when petty jealousy takes over. Even then you can't avoid it sometimes when somebody else figures out they aren't getting the business they used to because their regulars have moved on to the hot new talent in town.

Don't let jealous girls and their attention seeking, drama loving clients suck you into a fight. 

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Re: "Escort with a whip" and putting noses out of joints!
« Reply #14 on: 14 December 2016, 11:32:57 pm »
I get it all the time - I can not possible offer domination work as I am an Escort.  What a load of bollocks!!  11 years BDSM experience the ability to hold space, commitment to the wheel of consent and practice conscious BDSM and because I offer sexual services within the domination realm then i am not a domme.  The best I heard was that Escorts cannot domme because they leave marks - ahem really....

The best I had was a after a really powerful demo in a club demonstrating the power of impact play the resident domme got the biggest hump on and was damn right rude to some of our friends and slagged us off all night to anyone who would listen.. Of course this is the act of a professional domme (not)!!  To hold space you must hold self respect and command respect getting pissed and been down right nasty really did not look good.

I just don't take any notice I know what I am capable of if your clients love it and you love it keep doing it, who cares about someone else narrow minded thoughts and bitchy behaviour.   

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