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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Ieaio on 12 November 2017, 09:08:28 pm
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What do you tell them to keep the peace but avoid them asking for free dates. Say you have a boyfriend yes, watch them squirm at what you just did together. Say you are single you have to awkwardly shut down their optimism that you really do want to be their girlfriend rather than the girlfriend experience. It's an awkward question but happens every week without fail. I've experimented with my answer and settled on 'I don't do monogamy ' which is true but cutting out the 8 year relationship part out to save the peace ::)
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I'm no longer in a relationship but if clients ask I tell them I have a boyfriend, I had all sorts of hassle before when I would say I was single and I would have to awkwardly come up with a reason why I wouldn't date them, telling them I'm in a relationship is just maybe a bit more flattering to them, as though if I didn't I would consider them ::)
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I tell the truth, at the moment I have a husband. If someone asks me out, which they do I explain I don't mix business with pleasure and no thank you.
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I tell them I have a number of them. As well as girlfriends, play dates, friends with benefits, stalkers, pen pals. Whatever it takes to fill up the time. I stopped half way through a blow job once when someone decided to ask me with my mouth full of cock if I was married and had kids. I stopped, sat there and explained to him that personal questions were not permitted (let alone at such an awkward time!) but if he wanted to hear everything there is to know about me during his time I?m happy to brew myself a cup of tea and tell him all about my probably not real life story.
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"Why are you asking?" does the trick for me. Usually they have a cuckold or SPH fetish.
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I tell them I have a number of them. As well as girlfriends, play dates, friends with benefits, stalkers, pen pals. Whatever it takes to fill up the time. I stopped half way through a blow job once when someone decided to ask me with my mouth full of cock if I was married and had kids. I stopped, sat there and explained to him that personal questions were not permitted (let alone at such an awkward time!) but if he wanted to hear everything there is to know about me during his time I?m happy to brew myself a cup of tea and tell him all about my probably not real life story.
Imagine if we did that, stopped half way through a blow and asked them are they married with children. Unbelievable! If I am asked or it is hinted at that they want more than just the booking I sometimes say I will think about it, then I don't. Oddly not many have got back to me to find my answer, maybe they kind of know they are in the wrong.
A man I met last month who had not been to see me since getting married 4 years ago told me I still looked great and was just as good as he remembered. That was nice I thought and then he came out with "I should have married you instead" !!! Wanker.
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Imagine if we did that, stopped half way through a blow and asked them are they married with children. Unbelievable! If I am asked or it is hinted at that they want more than just the booking I sometimes say I will think about it, then I don't. Oddly not many have got back to me to find my answer, maybe they kind of know they are in the wrong.
A man I met last month who had not been to see me since getting married 4 years ago told me I still looked great and was just as good as he remembered. That was nice I thought and then he came out with "I should have married you instead" !!! Wanker.
Yes I've been asked "Do you have a boyfriend" whilst on top cowgirl, mid stroke, and during blow jobs.
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I'm getting asked this A LOT lately! No & I don't want one is what I tell them. All this BS they spout after asking
"oh but your so good looking, it's a shame your single,
wtf has that got to do with anything? Made the mistake of telling one about a guy I was FWB with so he thinks he could ask me for dinner. The red flags were there for neediness from the outset though so I misjudged that one a bit. Annoying thing is he didn't get my sms reply later when I let rip about him asking for freebies. He's now filtered to my spam folder.
Some of them need the titivation though & it can be hard to gauge.
What is "SPH fetish" VC?
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I just say I'm seeing someone. Nothing annoys me more than when a client wants to stop paying me for bookings and wants to do dinner/cinema instead. As soon as I get a request like that I just block them even if they have been a long standing regular as it's not worth the hassle and awkwardness
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I often go with "its complicated, laugh. How about you?married? Long term, loved up?" Seems to shut most down who dont want to tell me everything with a full lifetime bio.
If they push I tell them I'm married. Which i was at one stage and seems to work rather well at escaping the "but your so attractive....." or "i bet you got loads of guys...... " comments
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I had said I was no longer in a relationship and enjoying escorting didn't want to get involved with anyone at the moment .
Got many empty promisies for drinks and dinner but i didnt hear from them so don't take the clients
Seriously at all just tell them nowadays that I don't have time too busy .
I probably wouldn't manage a relationship and escorting at same time knowing my luck I'd get caught out !
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I often go with "its complicated, laugh. How about you?married? Long term, loved up?" Seems to shut most down who dont want to tell me everything with a full lifetime bio.
If they push I tell them I'm married. Which i was at one stage and seems to work rather well at escaping the "but your so attractive....." or "i bet you got loads of guys...... " comments
I do the same , but the sheer shock that you are married is astonishing , especially as they have just paid and are married also quite often.
I really think some truly believe it's a bit of 'pin' money !
I love the ones who actually say "how's business" and I can say "ok or good" and ask about theirs too .
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I tell them the truth, that I am polyamorous ;D
Makes them feel happy about f*cking me, but the reality that even if I was interested in them romantically they would have to share my affections, ruins the "girlfriend" dream.
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I used to answer honestly but from now on I think I'm going to have to be firmer and straight up say 'sorry that question is too personal'.
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Initially I was just honest and told them I was single but then got loads of date requests. Now I say I'm seeing someone to avoid the hassle.
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I just tell them the truth if they are asking in a conversational way which is I am in a long term relationship.If they ask in a really in your face way or while I am going about servicing them (yes have also had it mid bj or mid shag and I think it is really inappropriate)then I tell them my personal life is just that.
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What is "SPH fetish" VC?
Small penis humilation.
I've found them asking me if I have a boyfriend often leads to them saying "Does he have a big dick?" and they want me to say "Oooh yeah it's massive, after he's fucked me I can barely feel your pathetic little noodle" etc etc. (My BF actually has an average sized cock, which is perfect for me as I'm not fond of big dicks.)
The other one is "Does he know what you do?" because they like the idea of cheating on both our parts, but I refuse to play along with that. I say "Oh yes he does and he loves that I get fucked by other men and that he gets for free what you have to pay for!"
Even before I started seeing current BF I was telling clients that I had one. Definitely puts off the guys who are likely to get over-attached.
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I think I'm going to have to be firmer and straight up say 'sorry that question is too personal'.
I'd also say, 'I don't discuss anything personal". If someone starts a boring rubbish on his latest "shag" when the time is up, I'd also say, "that's your personal life and I don't discuss anything personal". End of. Anyone who wants to "get personal", I start to get cautious. I give them the cold shoulder, to say "we are not friends". Decent punters never cross that line.
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Generally I also say ?that?s a personal question? and if they don?t get that, tough. I mean it?s such a cheek, like asking how much you earn or how many clients you see a day, it?s none of their bloody business.
Sometimes tho if I?m in a wierd mood and just fancy a laugh I make something up, and then watch their face, without fail they will believe you.
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I don't know what to say , I'm seeing a woman who is a civvie at the minute I told a client and he says oh wow you could invite her for a threesome no thanks . I think I will just keep schtum and be evasive in future.
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Another one is 'No I don't have the time, as between work and my private life, I have too much going on'. I've found this one quite successful as it shuts them up as and stops the stupid follow-on questions.
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I don't know what to say , I'm seeing a woman who is a civvie at the minute I told a client and he says oh wow you could invite her for a threesome no thanks . I think I will just keep schtum and be evasive in future.
I don't tell them about my personal life for this specific reason, like I want my private life to be part of their fantasies ::)
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"Sorry but I dont discuss my personal life with strangers"
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I always tell them I have a boyfriend - a) For an added level of protection - it lets them know I have a guy on my side who's going to be mad if they step out of line in anyway. b) I don't want people thinking I'm available. c) the majority of my clients find it a turn on - it indicates I'm a 'slut' in the truest sense of the word and they're fucking someone's girlfriend... what's not to like? ;)
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The WORST thing is when they say that if I'd like to date them they wouldn't mind me carrying on working, so long as they got their go at tne end of the day ...... I've heard that more times than I can count.....gross
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Of course, they, (some unthinking, vacuous guys) would say that as they are "sluts" themselves. They think they can have you and still punt as before or stick their dick in any hole(s) whenever an opportunity presents itself. Yes, that's gross. This could be a mere fantasy when seeing an escort. However, I have heard the same (and he was a desperate case), luckily not very often these days.
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Although I have been asked this loads of times and its annoying and awkward, there was one guy I did have thoughts of saying yes to.
Such a lovely guy, good looking and great in bed but love his company too.
He sees me a few times a month so would miss the money but also not in the right frame of mind for a boyfriend right now.
So decided to keep him as a client but give him extra privileges too such as extra time and not charging extras.
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My usual answer is "no, and I?m not looking for one. it?s so nice to be free to do whatever I want!" and I put a big smile on. That usually stops them from asking me out. I am actually married but I just don't feel like being judged by customers, so I never mention it.
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I used to answer this truthfully but not anymore.
I found when I said I was attached the punter usually gets very patronising asking 'what do they think about you doing this?' or 'Do they know?'
Very irritating.
I couldn't give a toss about their personal life so I wish they would but out of mine
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I used to answer honestly but from now on I think I'm going to have to be firmer and straight up say 'sorry that question is too personal'.
This is what I do.
Unless I?m in a mischievous mood and then I just lie, or tell the truth, whatever I want to really.
What I don?t do is let the client dictate what I say or make me feel uncomfortable
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I used to be honest as well but that just seemed to encourage them to pester me for a relationship or to take me out as friends etc despite saying I wasn't interested countless times. Now I just say I'm in a relationship and if they ask if my partner knows what I do I tell them yep he loves it! Shuts them up.
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and if they ask if my partner knows what I do I tell them yep he loves it! Shuts them up.
Hahaha :-) that's a good one lol I will be saying that in future lol
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My wedding ring usually shuts down the requests for dates, but not asking to hang out as "friends"
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I like the line. 'Yes I do and we do this together also if you fancied double teaming me? He can go for hours. They quite often freak, and sometimes it's before it's got us Bookings. If they ask me and make me feel uneasy though and get personal and there's any doubts that they do have bad intentions I tell them he's a cage fighter and we get horny over my job and it's a good shut down and they tend to stop taking the piss. I have definitely found that pretending I'm single leads to clients getting overly friendly and needy and whiny and some of the shit they spew finds me wanting to vomit.
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This is a good topic I have always said no I dont as I do not have one but I find on cam especially they prefer to hear your single puts them off if they think you have a bf I have always found but then I get stalkers lol and get asked if they can take me out one guy I saw called his self the escort charmer as he felt he could always get a date for free off them lol not me
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I used to answer this truthfully but not anymore.
I found when I said I was attached the punter usually gets very patronising asking 'what do they think about you doing this?' or 'Do they know?'
Very irritating.
I couldn't give a toss about their personal life so I wish they would but out of mine
I say yes of course they know , he's a businessman too so understands this is obviously work and v different as we ( meaning punter) both know this isn't real is it , it's just fun and I'm a business woman and I like to run my business properly which includes making people feel special , it's my job .
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Small penis humilation.
I've found them asking me if I have a boyfriend often leads to them saying "Does he have a big dick?" and they want me to say "Oooh yeah it's massive, after he's fucked me I can barely feel your pathetic little noodle" etc etc. (My BF actually has an average sized cock, which is perfect for me as I'm not fond of big dicks.)
The other one is "Does he know what you do?" because they like the idea of cheating on both our parts, but I refuse to play along with that. I say "Oh yes he does and he loves that I get fucked by other men and that he gets for free what you have to pay for!"
Even before I started seeing current BF I was telling clients that I had one. Definitely puts off the guys who are likely to get over-attached.
That's an interesting take on it. They normally ask first I've found but so many have an issue with asking for what they really want. I'll ask 'em outright next time if they want this. I like dull vanilla clients haha
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I just say I'm seeing someone. Nothing annoys me more than when a client wants to stop paying me for bookings and wants to do dinner/cinema instead. As soon as I get a request like that I just block them even if they have been a long standing regular as it's not worth the hassle and awkwardness
This made me laugh out loud. My husband met me whilst I was working in an privehuis (brothel) in the Netherlands and it took a year of weekly bookings before he convinced me to go on a date with him and it was two years before I had sex with him for free!