Author Topic: 'Do you have a boyfriend' The painfully loaded question (Read 5523 times)

BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #15 on:** 13 November 2017, 04:37:48 pm »

I just tell them the truth if they are asking in a conversational way which is I am in a long term relationship.If they ask in a really in your face way or while I am going about servicing them (yes have also had it mid bj or mid shag and I think it is really inappropriate)then I tell them my personal life is just that.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #16 on:** 13 November 2017, 06:08:17 pm »

Quote from: Chatterly on 13 November 2017, 07:40:16 am

What is "SPH fetish" VC?

Small penis humilation.

I've found them asking me if I have a boyfriend often leads to them saying "Does he have a big dick?" and they want me to say "Oooh yeah it's massive, after he's fucked me I can barely feel your pathetic little noodle" etc etc. (My BF actually has an average sized cock, which is perfect for me as I'm not fond of big dicks.)

The other one is "Does he know what you do?" because they like the idea of cheating on both our parts, but I refuse to play along with that. I say "Oh yes he does and he loves that I get fucked by other men and that he gets for free what you have to pay for!"

Even before I started seeing current BF I was telling clients that I had one. Definitely puts off the guys who are likely to get over-attached.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #17 on:** 13 November 2017, 06:29:39 pm »

Quote from: Lucie268 on 13 November 2017, 03:19:59 pm

I think I'm going to have to be firmer and straight up say 'sorry that question is too personal'.

I'd also say, 'I don't discuss anything personal". If someone starts a boring rubbish on his latest "shag" when the time is up, I'd also say, "that's your personal life and I don't discuss anything personal". End of. Anyone who wants to "get personal", I start to get cautious. I give them the cold shoulder, to say "we are not friends". Decent punters never cross that line.

SimplySinful · « **Reply #18 on:** 13 November 2017, 07:20:36 pm »

Generally I also say ?that?s a personal question? and if they don?t get that, tough. I mean it?s such a cheek, like asking how much you earn or how many clients you see a day, it?s none of their bloody business.

Sometimes tho if I?m in a wierd mood and just fancy a laugh I make something up, and then watch their face, without fail they will believe you.

Lillys0 · « **Reply #19 on:** 13 November 2017, 10:27:44 pm »

I don't know what to say , I'm seeing a woman who is a civvie at the minute I told a client and he says oh wow you could invite her for a threesome no thanks . I think I will just keep schtum and be evasive in future.

Mariah · « **Reply #20 on:** 13 November 2017, 11:47:18 pm »

Another one is 'No I don't have the time, as between work and my private life, I have too much going on'. I've found this one quite successful as it shuts them up as and stops the stupid follow-on questions.

RR · « **Reply #21 on:** 14 November 2017, 01:32:21 am »

Quote from: Lillys0 on 13 November 2017, 10:27:44 pm

I don't know what to say , I'm seeing a woman who is a civvie at the minute I told a client and he says oh wow you could invite her for a threesome no thanks . I think I will just keep schtum and be evasive in future.

I don't tell them about my personal life for this specific reason, like I want my private life to be part of their fantasies

Gracious · « **Reply #22 on:** 14 November 2017, 05:05:17 am »

"Sorry but I dont discuss my personal life with strangers"

londonfox · « **Reply #23 on:** 15 November 2017, 09:42:24 am »

I always tell them I have a boyfriend - a) For an added level of protection - it lets them know I have a guy on my side who's going to be mad if they step out of line in anyway. b) I don't want people thinking I'm available. c) the majority of my clients find it a turn on - it indicates I'm a 'slut' in the truest sense of the word and they're fucking someone's girlfriend... what's not to like?

TheLittleMatchGirl · « **Reply #24 on:** 16 November 2017, 06:10:04 am »

The WORST thing is when they say that if I'd like to date them they wouldn't mind me carrying on working, so long as they got their go at tne end of the day ...... I've heard that more times than I can count.....gross

sweetmilf · « **Reply #25 on:** 16 November 2017, 08:42:59 am »

Of course, they, (some unthinking, vacuous guys) would say that as they are "sluts" themselves. They think they can have you and still punt as before or stick their dick in any hole(s) whenever an opportunity presents itself. Yes, that's gross. This could be a mere fantasy when seeing an escort. However, I have heard the same (and he was a desperate case), luckily not very often these days.

Jessiegirl · « **Reply #26 on:** 16 November 2017, 03:18:15 pm »

Although I have been asked this loads of times and its annoying and awkward, there was one guy I did have thoughts of saying yes to.
Such a lovely guy, good looking and great in bed but love his company too.
He sees me a few times a month so would miss the money but also not in the right frame of mind for a boyfriend right now.
So decided to keep him as a client but give him extra privileges too such as extra time and not charging extras.

ban.shee · « **Reply #27 on:** 16 November 2017, 03:23:47 pm »

My usual answer is "no, and I?m not looking for one. it?s so nice to be free to do whatever I want!" and I put a big smile on. That usually stops them from asking me out. I am actually married but I just don't feel like being judged by customers, so I never mention it.

Sarastar1 · « **Reply #28 on:** 17 November 2017, 05:31:28 pm »

I used to answer this truthfully but not anymore.
I found when I said I was attached the punter usually gets very patronising asking 'what do they think about you doing this?' or 'Do they know?'
Very irritating.
I couldn't give a toss about their personal life so I wish they would but out of mine

SimplySinful · « **Reply #29 on:** 17 November 2017, 05:35:53 pm »

Quote from: Lucie268 on 13 November 2017, 03:19:59 pm

I used to answer honestly but from now on I think I'm going to have to be firmer and straight up say 'sorry that question is too personal'.

This is what I do.

Unless I?m in a mischievous mood and then I just lie, or tell the truth, whatever I want to really.

What I don?t do is let the client dictate what I say or make me feel uncomfortable

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