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southern belle

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'Do you find me attractive?'
« on: 13 January 2013, 09:52:02 pm »
Have any of you girls been asked this by a client in the room? A guy asked me this recently, it caught me off guard and I sort of hesitated and said 'yeah' (I was lying). I am not sure what I was supposed to say! But saying 'yes' might have led him on, which was not my intention, I just felt too rude saying 'no'...how could I say 'no', really?

What is the correct thing to say in this situation??

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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #1 on: 13 January 2013, 09:59:27 pm »
I always say yes because I guess they are looking for some reassurance or a bit of an ego stroke. I might follow it up with 'You're so sweet/funny/cool/good in bed/whatever' if they weren't the best looking bloke in the world. I want my Clients to go away feeling good about themselves so they remember to come back :)

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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #2 on: 13 January 2013, 10:01:06 pm »
I've been asked that several times before and I've replied 'no you are not my type' at first I was like you not sure what to say but now I find if you are straight with them from the start hopefully you don't get any silly behaviour.
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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #3 on: 13 January 2013, 10:14:52 pm »
No client has EVER asked me this, not even the regulars...hmmmm

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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #4 on: 13 January 2013, 10:37:53 pm »
I have been asked this a few times but I never say yes as this leads to them thinking there could be more between you.  I normally reply I do not really fancy anyone but I do like the way you smile, make me laugh or any other good point they have.
Its true too as I do not fancy any man by their looks.  I tend to go for guys who mentally stimulate me and not on their looks at all.  After all looks fade and I could have ended up with a guy who bores me senseless instead of a man who keeps my mind working and I can have good debates with

I do have one persitant one who is likely to be stopped from visiting soon if he does not stop.  I have been seeing him for 3 years and recently saw on his notes (never read them before) a couple of people have said he started the same with them and then turned mad stalker and both girls said he told them if they could not be together they they would both die  Freaky as now he is starting to text me everyday and email me about how I need someone young like him in my life etc.  All this because when I 1st started seeing him I was still quite new and did not tell him I would rather peel my eyeballs off with a blunt knife than fancy him (I was new so just giggled when he asked)
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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #5 on: 14 January 2013, 12:21:22 pm »
I agree with Rooby on this one. We are in this business to make guys feel good and for the time they are with me I want them to feel like I only have eyes for them and that they are the most attractive client I have.
I must admit though that I am lucky with my regulars as I do find most of them attractive, its not all about looks!

Touch wood I haven't had a problem with any stalkery types x


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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #6 on: 14 January 2013, 05:43:54 pm »
I think it's an awful question, although I can't remember the last time I was asked it - I'm sure I must have been. I think there's a subtle difference between 'Do you find me attractive?' and 'Do you think I'm attractive?', which I don't really mind answering; it's rare that anybody has nothing lovely about them at all and I'm happy to big them up a bit in a general way.

The original question I would object to because it's deliberately personal, and I don't find any of my clients attractive in the way it means, assuming that's 'Are you attracted to me?' I don't find any of them repulsive either, I should say - it just doesn't cross my mind any more than it would to be attracted to a family member, no matter how handsome or charming he might be. You might as well ask me if I find my goldfish attractive (and they are all beautiful, but I don't fancy them :)).

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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #7 on: 14 January 2013, 09:59:12 pm »
I've been asked this before. My reply is normally something like "let me show you how attractive I think you are" then lean in for a massive snog.

If I get asked awkward questions I generally just use my female prowess to avoid them :D

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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #8 on: 15 January 2013, 09:11:57 am »
It is amazing how deaf I can become when questions like this are asked. And if they persist, I will ask, "how would you expect me, an escort to answer that?"  Returning things to their rightful palce. I think some gents take the 'gf'in GFE far too seriously.
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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #9 on: 16 January 2013, 06:50:31 pm »
I just lie:
"I'm gay and my girlfriend would be mortified if I found men attractive.
But I guess, that for a man, most people would find you hot"
  ::)

This nicely sidesteps the question and diverts their attention
towards my personal sex life with my (totally imaginary) girlfriend.  ;D
Which I'm equally happy to expand on.



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Re: 'Do you find me attractive?'
« Reply #10 on: 16 January 2013, 11:45:34 pm »
This is a tricky one, I'm not sure I've ever been asked this question EXACTLY, but certainly a variation of it...

It's quite an easy one to divert if you are a bubbly warm person...

I answer something along the lines of "do you know, the most attractive thing on any man is confidence and presence. I've been attracted to all kinds of men,never really had a type, which is why this job is perfect for me because I meet so many different types of people."

I think it makes them think they asked WHAT you find attractive, and if they still don't think their question that was asked was answered, I replied so happily and confidently, and also reminded them how many different types of people you do meet, they probably feel less inclined to ask the initial question again.

Sorry, I think I know what I mean there but just read it back and might sound like gobbledygook!