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Sarita

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"Discretion is a must." Grrr
« on: 02 June 2013, 12:18:18 pm »
I know this has been discussed before but I don't think there's anything that annoys me more than being told DISCRETION IS A MUST in a request for a booking.
Just got an email asking me for an outcall at the end of the month and he put this in capital letters and it's pissed me right off.
I replied, asking him to point out exactly what it was on my aw profile/website that could possibly  indicate that I wouldn't be discreet and he says he's sorry and he 'didn't mean it like that'.

I really don't get it. If you're paranoid about an escort visiting you at home, why not do an incall?

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #1 on: 02 June 2013, 01:19:39 pm »
I know this has been discussed before but I don't think there's anything that annoys me more than being told DISCRETION IS A MUST in a request for a booking.
Just got an email asking me for an outcall at the end of the month and he put this in capital letters and it's pissed me right off.
I replied, asking him to point out exactly what it was on my aw profile/website that could possibly  indicate that I wouldn't be discreet and he says he's sorry and he 'didn't mean it like that'.

I really don't get it. If you're paranoid about an escort visiting you at home, why not do an incall?


Some people are paranoid and don't think about things lets say we would about the whole thing. Bearing in mind he might have had a bad experience prior.

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #2 on: 02 June 2013, 01:54:12 pm »
Hi

I have had a few regs commenting that ladies have turned up to their house or hotel looking obvious. So maybe they have a vision of that happening, or they have had a bad experience.

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #3 on: 02 June 2013, 02:18:15 pm »
I have been told of a few offputting outcall indiscretions due to the working girl (not the same girl BTW lol ), these are just a few off the top of my head:

1 - Her friend roared up to the address in a BMW with rap music blaring and parked right outside, when she was walking to the door her friend then shouted to her "hope he`s a sexy one" and laughed as she drove off.

2 - Girl turned up drunk/high and started crying hysterically in the conservatory because her boyf had cheated on her days before.

3 - Girl got questioned by a neighbour one afternoon as she was waiting for taxi outside their home because she swearing loudly on the phone in front of neighbours children ( preschool age ).

4 - After the lady left she told the taxi driver ( who picked her up from the end of clients road ) all about how she had a great time with this guy she met and hoped it would become something more.......the taxi driver realised he knew the client and his wife through the details she shared about him and his house.

Some people really do not think lol.

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« Reply #4 on: 02 June 2013, 02:26:22 pm »
I think we have all heard horror stories of indiscreet girls and I could add a number about indiscreet clients too.

Someone telling me 'discretion is a MUST' would get things off to a very bad start with me, not just what was being said, but the tone of it.

Now if anyone asks me is I'm discreet I just say 'Well I am, but discretion is a two way thing' after which the guy if he is at all reasonable will mutter 'of course of course' and thats the end of the matter.

And I do mainly incalls too.......
« Last Edit: 02 June 2013, 02:35:06 pm by Nameless »

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #5 on: 02 June 2013, 02:41:38 pm »
I have been told of a few offputting outcall indiscretions due to the working girl (not the same girl BTW lol ), these are just a few off the top of my head:

1 - Her friend roared up to the address in a BMW with rap music blaring and parked right outside, when she was walking to the door her friend then shouted to her "hope he`s a sexy one" and laughed as she drove off.

2 - Girl turned up drunk/high and started crying hysterically in the conservatory because her boyf had cheated on her days before.

3 - Girl got questioned by a neighbour one afternoon as she was waiting for taxi outside their home because she swearing loudly on the phone in front of neighbours children ( preschool age ).

4 - After the lady left she told the taxi driver ( who picked her up from the end of clients road ) all about how she had a great time with this guy she met and hoped it would become something more.......the taxi driver realised he knew the client and his wife through the details she shared about him and his house.

Some people really do not think lol.

It just shows neither sides are not discreet all the time.

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #6 on: 02 June 2013, 03:20:33 pm »
Interesting replies.

I suppose we all suffer as a result of the idiocy of others. I suppose if he'd broached the subject in a different way I might have been less annoyed, but he'd only made an enquiry as to my availability at this point and as it happens am not available those days, so shouting about discretion was a tad premature!

chloe94

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #7 on: 02 June 2013, 09:30:36 pm »
It annoys me too, especially since it's evident on my profile that I am discrete; no face pics/identifying info given, kind of 'girl next door' look. It even says I am discrete. Captials seems a bit over-the-top :P

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #8 on: 03 June 2013, 01:25:36 pm »
I think this is something that's said, along with "are you clean?" quite a lot of the time naiively and innocently. That said when someone mentions discretion they can often be incredibly indiscrete themselves, come bumbling along shouting into their phone "What number is it again, I'm walking past number 6, number 7". The bloke is only thinking about finding and getting to your place, it is annoying but I learned long ago there's nothing much you can do - in fact kicking off about it only prolongs the 'exposure'.

I sometimes bat this type of comment back with a "No there's a neon sign with Ruth's knocking shop outside", same with are you easy to find?"No you'll never find me, I purposely don't want my clients finding me" - usually I say that after explaining I give good directions, it really won't be a problem I want clients to get to me!

So these are genuine concerns for newbie clients, however they are also lines used by TWs and those who just aren't relaxed enough to actually go ahead with the booking. I just grit my teeth, smile and try and understand.

One guy had it in his head that there's be men popping in and out on the hour, 8 hours a day, 7 days a week. He also asked me about STIs and legality of the whole business. Prior to that he'd only really had the images the media feed, which we know are mostly at best only loosely based on reality, most of the time not representative of the activity/occupation/whatever as a whole.

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Re: "Discretion is a must." Grrr
« Reply #9 on: 03 June 2013, 01:42:09 pm »
I think this is something that's said, along with "are you clean?" quite a lot of the time naiively and innocently. That said when someone mentions discretion they can often be incredibly indiscrete themselves, come bumbling along shouting into their phone "What number is it again, I'm walking past number 6, number 7". The bloke is only thinking about finding and getting to your place, it is annoying but I learned long ago there's nothing much you can do - in fact kicking off about it only prolongs the 'exposure'.

I sometimes bat this type of comment back with a "No there's a neon sign with Ruth's knocking shop outside", same with are you easy to find?"No you'll never find me, I purposely don't want my clients finding me" - usually I say that after explaining I give good directions, it really won't be a problem I want clients to get to me!

So these are genuine concerns for newbie clients, however they are also lines used by TWs and those who just aren't relaxed enough to actually go ahead with the booking. I just grit my teeth, smile and try and understand.

One guy had it in his head that there's be men popping in and out on the hour, 8 hours a day, 7 days a week. He also asked me about STIs and legality of the whole business. Prior to that he'd only really had the images the media feed, which we know are mostly at best only loosely based on reality, most of the time not representative of the activity/occupation/whatever as a whole.

I usually retort "no there is a red flashing sigh outside and Im riddled with disease, what do you think". No one has a sense of humour and they usually hang up. Luckily I am in a position to be in a position to only see those that meet my booking requirements and have a ssense of humour!