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TheLittleMatchGirl

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #30 on: 10 April 2015, 07:34:11 pm »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals



When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

I disagree, I'm not the kind of person to be competitive or conniving and I'm a hooker
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« Reply #31 on: 11 April 2015, 10:26:21 am »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals



When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

I disagree, I'm not the kind of person to be competitive or conniving and I'm a hooker

Just because you are not competitive or conniving does not mean other girls aren't and will not take advantage of your good nature.  Just always keep your personal and private information about yourself to yourself, do not for a single second think that someone in this industry would not hesitate to use it against you.  It is a terrible thought but none the less true.

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #32 on: 11 April 2015, 11:39:33 am »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals



When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

I disagree, I'm not the kind of person to be competitive or conniving and I'm a hooker

Just because you are not competitive or conniving does not mean other girls aren't and will not take advantage of your good nature.  Just always keep your personal and private information about yourself to yourself, do not for a single second think that someone in this industry would not hesitate to use it against you.  It is a terrible thought but none the less true.

Totally agree, I just mean you use your common sense as you would with any new friends. There's lovely wg's and bitches, same as anywhere
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« Reply #33 on: 11 April 2015, 12:35:35 pm »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals



When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

I disagree, I'm not the kind of person to be competitive or conniving and I'm a hooker

Just because you are not competitive or conniving does not mean other girls aren't and will not take advantage of your good nature.  Just always keep your personal and private information about yourself to yourself, do not for a single second think that someone in this industry would not hesitate to use it against you.  It is a terrible thought but none the less true.

But I think it's a bad idea to assume WGs in general are more conniving than the general population. It all makes us sound like selfish bitches, not just girls trying to make a living. To me, it just re-enforces anti sex worker stereotypes that assume we're soulless money hungry sinners.
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« Reply #34 on: 11 April 2015, 01:17:53 pm »
I would love to have a wg buddy who I can go shopping with, discuss shit days, travel and tour, rant about studies and student debt hehe.

I just don't trust anyone enough to get that close anymore. I lived with a wg for a little while and she told my agency my real name!? Why I don't know, there was no need to. She also tried to create drama between me and another girl  :FF and just generally didn't like to see others doing well.

I meet lots of girls at duos and parties but have never met 'the one' hehe, Maybe it's just me? I've exchanged a few numbers, had a few coffees, repeat duos but nowt. All the ones I get a long with have retired  or were only touring the uk, typical eh!?

I'm accepting that I will probably be a Lone Ranger in this game  :'(
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« Reply #35 on: 11 April 2015, 02:23:28 pm »
It would be a good idea to take a gamble but at a cost of getting bitten. That is enough to put any one off. Really... When stopped escorting be prepered to lose or have miminal contact with wgs friends just how it goes in life.  Then you will see the title of this thread.

Let me put it like this... SAAFE would be of no interest if left escorting totally closing the door. We wouldn't  be members  If had no intention of escorting what use would that be. There are two ways of living whoring and the civy life. I am real about this.
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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #36 on: 11 April 2015, 03:18:40 pm »
It would be a good idea to take a gamble but at a cost of getting bitten. That is enough to put any one off. Really... When stopped escorting be prepered to lose or have miminal contact with wgs friends just how it goes in life.  Then you will see the title of this thread.

Let me put it like this... SAAFE would be of no interest if left escorting totally closing the door. We wouldn't  be members  If had no intention of escorting what use would that be. There are two ways of living whoring and the civy life. I am real about this.

Well to me you're wrong. I'm not just a whore I'm a student, and a sister/daughter.

More to the point I still have friends who gave up whoring years ago

You can't just tar everyone with the same brush, we're all different. Just like all sales assistants are different and conduct their lives/relationships differently
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« Reply #37 on: 11 April 2015, 03:57:19 pm »
But I think it's a bad idea to assume WGs in general are more conniving than the general population. It all makes us sound like selfish bitches, not just girls trying to make a living. To me, it just re-enforces anti sex worker stereotypes that assume we're soulless money hungry sinners.

I do agree but I think it is a lot more prolific in this industry where professional jealousy over another woman you might not know from adam can happen.  We work in an industry where if it is slow or work starts to dwindle we tend to blame others than to take a long hard look at ourselves first and in such instances there are people who will lash out at innocent bystanders.




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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #38 on: 11 April 2015, 05:53:12 pm »
I would love to have a wg buddy who I can go shopping with, discuss shit days, travel and tour, rant about studies and student debt hehe.

I just don't trust anyone enough to get that close anymore. I lived with a wg for a little while and she told my agency my real name!? Why I don't know, there was no need to. She also tried to create drama between me and another girl  :FF and just generally didn't like to see others doing well.

I meet lots of girls at duos and parties but have never met 'the one' hehe, Maybe it's just me? I've exchanged a few numbers, had a few coffees, repeat duos but nowt. All the ones I get a long with have retired  or were only touring the uk, typical eh!?

I'm accepting that I will probably be a Lone Ranger in this game  :'(

I would love to have a WG buddy too. I am both civvy and doing sex work so does that make me conniving or not I wonder?  ;D
I'm not conniving to be honest at all, I would be a good mate first and foremost to anyone in this game as I would have respect for them x

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« Reply #39 on: 12 April 2015, 11:43:35 pm »
Yes. No. Yes. No.

It's human nature to blame everyone else for your problems instead of taking a long hard look at yerself, not prossie nature. And who are the innocent bystanders? If you assume that working girls will screw you over, than you'll always see a working girl screwing someone over. Yeah, I get that people have had bad experiences with other sex workers, legit, okay that all sucks and it is a good idea to watch your back in any industry amongst any friends. But, you know, you could have had a bad experience with your teaching colleague and then would you say, "well in the education business all teacher's are cutthroat because there aren't enough jobs so best not to have any friends in the industry at all..." but who would say that because teachers are good self-less citizens, right?




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« Reply #40 on: 13 April 2015, 12:00:06 am »
Yes. No. Yes. No.

It's human nature to blame everyone else for your problems instead of taking a long hard look at yerself, not prossie nature. And who are the innocent bystanders? If you assume that working girls will screw you over, than you'll always see a working girl screwing someone over. Yeah, I get that people have had bad experiences with other sex workers, legit, okay that all sucks and it is a good idea to watch your back in any industry amongst any friends. But, you know, you could have had a bad experience with your teaching colleague and then would you say, "well in the education business all teacher's are cutthroat because there aren't enough jobs so best not to have any friends in the industry at all..." but who would say that because teachers are good self-less citizens, right?

Agree

God some of the backstabbing and bitching I've endured in other industries is horrendous




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« Reply #41 on: 13 April 2015, 01:28:22 am »
I used to have WG friends years ago but it was just because we seen eachother every night on the street or in the sauna's
I worked in.
Nowadays I don't have any personal WG friends, that's how I'm so glad I've got friends on here!  :D

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« Reply #42 on: 13 April 2015, 08:27:39 am »
I think the stakes can be a bit higher in terms of being outed.

And I do think that there are some unstable people in this industry. I've definitely dealt with some nasty people in straight jobs - no doubt about that - but I think it plays out differently in most cases because of the nature of the business and what's at stake.

Let me put it this way: there's another WG in my block of flats. I see her all the time but I've never introduced myself to her because there's just too much at stake. The odds are pretty good that she recognises me, as well, but she and I have never done more than smile politely as if at any other neighbour.
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« Reply #43 on: 14 April 2015, 07:06:30 pm »
Quoting from Miss K XXX
There is good and bad in all walks of life and all occupations but other people in other occupations don't then go and out you (expose you) to your family and friends.

If an escort doesn't get her way or looses the plot like many do over the slightest little thing, they always have a hold over you to use as blackmail. I'm speaking from experience here.

I was far too trusting with my real name and details and let's just say that because I couldn't handle another escorts drinking and coke taking (which turned them into aggressive, argumentative and violent head cases)
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This happened to me too :( Mine was more of jealousy and me complaining they weren't screening/vetting clients properly before letting them in. I've learned to be very discreet even when dealing with fellow wg's. I don't give my real name, details and all that anymore.
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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #44 on: 14 April 2015, 07:17:26 pm »
Quoting from Miss K XXX
There is good and bad in all walks of life and all occupations but other people in other occupations don't then go and out you (expose you) to your family and friends.

If an escort doesn't get her way or looses the plot like many do over the slightest little thing, they always have a hold over you to use as blackmail. I'm speaking from experience here.

I was far too trusting with my real name and details and let's just say that because I couldn't handle another escorts drinking and coke taking (which turned them into aggressive, argumentative and violent head cases)

This happened to me too :( Mine was more of jealousy and me complaining they weren't screening/vetting clients properly before letting them in. I've learned to be very discreet even when dealing with fellow wg's. I don't give my real name, details and all that anymore.
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Course they do, just a quick read through here will show plenty have been outed by non escorts like friends/boyfriends etc
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