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TheLittleMatchGirl

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #15 on: 06 April 2015, 04:28:31 pm »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #16 on: 06 April 2015, 05:58:53 pm »
I have just recently started chatting to another woman in my country, whom I hope to meet for a coffee and a chat next time I find myself in her hometown. Quite excited about this prospect, to be honest. :)

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« Reply #17 on: 08 April 2015, 12:56:18 am »
This line of work can be a lot to deal with by yourself. I try to make friends so I can have someone to talk to but idek if I can trust anyone. Do any of you have friends in the industry? How did you make them? How do you know they'll keep ALL your secrets

Escort friends I am weary of as they could mess around with your buisness. Only tell what you don't mind being spoken with others about. It is good to be cautious. Friends outside of escorting to have are very good. When not seeing clients the last thing want to do is talk more about like to switch off doing personal things. There are two I can talk to about any thing non escort friends. Personally I would rarther earn inbetween doing my own thing leaving not much room. But using the forum is good in a way, viewed friendly giving advice with various escorts. The best option to take if you wanted to meet up with others as friends is to share many things in common. Or it would be a personality clash that awkward tension. What about joining some get together groups meetup dot com. That way it is first hand you will know better about getting on with others in a fun setting. 

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« Reply #18 on: 08 April 2015, 01:05:49 am »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals


When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #19 on: 08 April 2015, 05:08:06 am »
It's just people though isn't it, nothing to do with sex work. I've known plenty of bitches in every area of life, and I'd say civvys are far less understanding of the importance of keeping gossip to themselves

Think this idea of sex workers being bitches probably stems from that stereotype of street workers fighting for punters/space.

Just because we fuck for money doesn't mean we don't have morals


When you hear stories about other escorts doing over escorts it stems from that. Escorting isnt as trust worthy as a civies, I am not saying cives are 100% trustworthy but the percentage must be higher than escort. For one they live in the normal life no competition. Thier way of living is different.

Any two self-employed individuals who happen to work in the same industry are, in fact, competition to each other. Moreover, even in salary environments, there is a competition for promotions - people in office environments can be vicious. You have a pretty idealized view of other lines of work if you believe competition doesn't exist there.
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« Reply #20 on: 08 April 2015, 01:39:23 pm »
No in fact a civy and an escort there is no competition, I wasn't talking about what you are in the first place. My post was not about two civys. It was about an escort and a civy if you re read my post properly. The difference between an escort and civy differs. I am well aware that competition exist every where in all lines of work (common sense) but of course what I don't state on my posts it doesn't mean that don't know. I am very aware thank you for your concern.

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« Reply #21 on: 08 April 2015, 05:55:11 pm »
I have 5 wg mates who I have known and been friends with since I began.They have never done anything wrong to me and we look out for each other.We met via a local forum.I just think arseholes are arseholes and the job has nothing to do with it.

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« Reply #22 on: 08 April 2015, 06:15:09 pm »
the job has nothing to do with it i agree iv meant some amazing girls through this line of work..one of which doesn't even live in the country anymore and we keep in touch via whattsapp every week more or less we have a chat and i haven't seen her in person for nearly 2 years. Yeah you meet some dick heads but you meet those in normal life too.

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« Reply #23 on: 08 April 2015, 06:17:59 pm »
One of my best friends is a WG we met away from work and I told her what i did as i do with anyone I am getting to know and want as a close friend.  She then told me she was an Escort too and isolated as no one knew - now she has some very good friends who are my friends and we all look out for one another which is lovely - there are no problems and we even go on holidays together which is lovely and works well for us.  We both respect each other and take into account the others feelings - yes there are moments but there are in any friendship and good friendships don't come easy so are worth hanging on to
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« Reply #24 on: 08 April 2015, 06:21:39 pm »
Kristina sounds like it was fate that you 2 met lol x

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« Reply #25 on: 08 April 2015, 06:58:20 pm »
I used to have WG friends years ago but it was just because we seen eachother every night on the street or in the sauna's
I worked in.
Nowadays I don't have any personal WG friends, that's how I'm so glad I've got friends on here!  :D
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« Reply #26 on: 09 April 2015, 12:25:54 am »
I do ;D I have a good friend whom I met at a FFM booking with a client and we were chatting afterwards and then bumped into each other at sex workers breakfasts. We do duo bookings together now as well.

I have met up with a couple of people from twitter. They're all great and people I know I'll get on with because we have similar views on things like feminism, sex worker's rights, LGBTQ issues etc. Quite a lot of them are involved in sex worker activism as well.

I'm fairly open with most people though. The only people I wouldn't want to find out would be future employers (which is why I blur my face in photos) and my parents - although even if they found out I think they'd be okay with it as long as I was safe and happy. My partner knows about my job and is supportive - I've told a few of his friends and a few of my friends know as well. Everyone I've told has been someone who I've known for certain wouldn't have an issue with it.

+1  ;D

I've had loads of positive experiences with fellow working girls/gals. Nice to have friends for buddies, picture exchange, duo partners, sex toy advice, touring buddies, exchanging tips, clothing swaps, having someone to chat to so you don't accidentally out yourself to civvy friends when you're having a really bad day.

I now am confident that sex workers are not dumb floozies ;)
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« Reply #27 on: 09 April 2015, 09:25:32 am »
I have acquintances, I have one very good friend who I have known for 4 years who I would definately call a friend.

Unfortunately last year was the last straw to break this camels back after assuming someone was my friend only to find out she has been going around spewing crap to anybody who would listen to her telling people how evil I am etc and not to be trusted.  Only for a few people to come back and tell me about it all, so you can imagine my surprise when 2 weeks ago I received an email from this person asking me how I was did I want to meet for lunch etc and when can we start touring again.  Then she went on to gossip about the exact same people she probably went and gossiped about me too.  She also got her little Neanderthal gimps worked up about me, so no I do not trust anybody in this industry.  But in saying that it does not mean I would not go out of my way to helps somebody out who needed it.

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« Reply #28 on: 09 April 2015, 09:51:42 am »
I had this issue online, another escort was new to a place I frequent online and took exception to the fact that I know a lot of the guys on there. She tried to cause massive issues for me and when she finally got her warnings as she was caught out redhanded in lies to the guys about me she then got two of her lack clients to harass me also. Lots of fake bookings, slagging me off in the pm system you know that sort of thing.

I can never understand why a guy would even get involved in harassing a girl on behalf of another. To me it screams E.A.S gone bad. Its utterly ridiculous and totally unfair

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Re: "Aint no friends in the game you aint learn that yet"
« Reply #29 on: 09 April 2015, 08:42:40 pm »
My best friend is a sex worker and I trust her explicitly, more than anyone in my world. I have known her for 10 years now

I have meet other working girls and been used to there advantage, my friend reminded me not all girls are as trusting as me and that I should protect myself more. Lesson learnt lol

I've got loads of other friends who know what I do also family, my work life isn't a secret and I prefer it that way.