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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Beowulf on 29 July 2020, 07:47:52 am
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Hi everyone i really need a handhold at the moment.
And some advice from you lovely ladies with a problem I have.
An old client of mine contacted me in June for an appointment after a gap maybe eigt years.
I was delighted to hear from as he is a lovely guy. Anyway,moving on to last Sunday I receive an odd text telling me to leave
said guy alone.
The girlfriend has gone through his phone and found the exchange of txts between us .All very polite btw.
The problem is that she has gone. beserk. Phoning and screaming obscenities at me and sendind me vile texts calling me all the names under the sun.She has tracked down my profiles on the internet .I'm scared she is going to start causing me trouble online. Or even track me down pysically.I have had a stalker before and this is starting to feel like that.
Common sense tells me just to ignore her.I've blocked her calls but can't block her texts.
I'm feeling very vunerable at the moment and don't know what to do.
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Ouch! Not the most ideal situation. I would just keeping ending the call, don’t even answer and she will soon get bored she’s just mad.
If it’s your AW she has found and your concerned, I would maybe go onto seeking services on the days I wasn’t available so the search comes back invalid then change your name to something very similar, there’s only so many times she will search with nothing coming up. I’m only on AW so I don’t know about any other sites but someone else on here will.
You could explain to her that this is your job, you don’t fancy him and have no interest in him. HE was the one who came looking for you! Threatening to call the police could work too, no one wants to be arrested for harassing escorts their boyfriend has been seeing.
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Honestly, if it was me I would tell her to desist or you will report her to the police for threatening behaviour and harassment.
Her anger is understandable but unfortunately misdirected. Escorting isn't a crime but threats and harassment is.
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Honestly, if it was me I would tell her to desist or you will report her to the police for threatening behaviour and harassment.
Her anger is understandable but unfortunately misdirected. Escorting isn't a crime but threats and harassment is.
Yes although the girlfriend is angry it's not your fault KBP, and neither should you be on the end of this anger. It's between her and her boyfriend, this is what I would be making very clear - leave me alone, it's between you and him.
I have been on the receiving end of this although in a different form, one was a client who told his wife he was having an affair - he then wanted me to lie about the exact nature of my relationship with him. She seemed more concerned he was going to run away to be with me, wanted reassurance I wouldn't which of course I could give. However didn't like the lieing and just told them to sort it out between them. Another occasion involved a text enquiry which I responded to, the guy left it on his phone which his other half read. He then claimed it was a spam text message, next thing I am being blamed for splitting up a family. ::) :o
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Honestly, if it was me I would tell her to desist or you will report her to the police for threatening behaviour and harassment.
Her anger is understandable but unfortunately misdirected. Escorting isn't a crime but threats and harassment is.
What she said. A short: "one more message/threat coming from you and I'm going straight to my local police station and will be pressing for harassment charges"
Watch how she goes quietly. And as that man-child she has as "boyfriend": block block block.
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I used to work for a agency and stupidly didn’t have a work phone I must have not put 141 before the clients number. around 2 weeks later I got a call and ended up revealing my real name as I thought it was my friend she sounded like her, anyway the woman went absolutely beserk saying all this abusive stuff and Shes been thought his phone bill and found this number. I took it on the chin and put the phone down blocked. Next thing she’s ringing me off her sister or friends phone and sending me loads of messages, the guy even rang the agency saying I’m harassing his girlfriend, the agency believed the guy like why would I do that. The guy kept ringing me too Trying to get me to lie off all different numbers this went on for weeks I had to get another sim it was never ending xx
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What she said. A short: "one more message/threat coming from you and I'm going straight to my local police station and will be pressing for harassment charges"
Watch how she goes quietly. And as that man-child she has as "boyfriend": block block block.
This is very good advice. She is using that feeling of power over you to compensate for feeling a lack of power in her relationship, so show her you aren't powerless. Also people never think SW can utilise the police, she probably thinks it's illegal.
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The fact that she cannot satisfy her husband/ boyfriend sexually and that he is going elsewhere is what is upsetting her. Remind her of that, or just ignore her.
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The fact that she cannot satisfy her husband/ boyfriend sexually and that he is going elsewhere is what is upsetting her. Remind her of that, or just ignore her.
We don;t know the story, maybe she's the wealthy one and he's with her for the money, maybe she has an illness that is stopping her from having sex with hubby. You don't know what's going on in peoples lives so better not to "rub their issues on their faces" whatever they are. Just block and leave the drama for them to deal with.
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The fact that she cannot satisfy her husband/ boyfriend sexually and that he is going elsewhere is what is upsetting her. Remind her of that, or just ignore her.
Omg that would start WW3!! If a hooker said that to me if I were the girlfriend then I don’t think that would shut me up at all! Worst advice ever!!🤣🤣
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Indeed. A man can't keep his dick in his pants, so it must be a woman's fault and she should be blamed. Nice.
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Tell the screeching hyena to back the fuck off or you'll report her. Bloody cheek.
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I wouldn't say that to a woman who has found out her partners having sex elsewhere, imagine someone telling you the same thing, their may be plenty of reasons he is having sex with sw's and to say that to a woman is just totally out of order and bitchy.
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Not all clients book escorts because they are getting no sex or crap sex with there partner a lot of the time they are just greedy selfish men that want variety no matter how good you please them in bed.
Best advice i would say to remind her that the escort is just doing a job and a very difficult job at that and we do not check who is married or not and why they are visiting an escort. Then say sorry you have a husband doing this but this is between you and your husband and if this abuse does not stop i will have to report you to police as this anger is towards the wrong person and this behaviour is a crime.
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We can understand her emotions but it’s still no excuse to take this out on the working girl. If it wasn’t her it would be someone else.
It’s the classic story of female blaming another female and not him, as if he was snatched off a street by evil prostitute. She needs to get w grip and see him for what he is.
That’s why I no longer bother as I see what they’re like.
I’d say report her for harassment.
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We can understand her emotions but it’s still no excuse to take this out on the working girl. If it wasn’t her it would be someone else.
It’s the classic story of female blaming another female and not him, as if he was snatched off a street by evil prostitute. She needs to get w grip and see him for what he is.
It's quite tragic actually. Escort puts ad on prostitution website (the kind were a man has to register as member and go through the hoops in order to find someone who ticks his boxes) so she can have no strings sex in exchange for money, then girlfriend finds out and accuses her of "snatching his boyfriend". I wonder if she's going through the whole AW ladies in the area blaming them for "body snatching his BF" while not holding said BF accountable for his actions. Sounds like two people in a very childish and disfunctional relationship trying to forcefully drag others into their drama.
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I've only ever had three wags contact me before asking who I am. One bievef I was a therapist specialising in trauma. She said, "oh thank goodness, and that makes sense because his father has just died". She gave me his name and I said in my poshest Essex voice (hard to do) that due to client confidentiality, I couldn't give any information. 😁
Second one I said if she'd like to call back later and speak to my husband because he sells insurance blah blah.
Third one had already Googled my number and knew I was an escort. She just sounded very sad. I ft bad for her and we had a nice conversation. Always so cringe though.
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Not all clients book escorts because they are getting no sex or crap sex with there partner a lot of the time they are just greedy selfish men that want variety no matter how good you please them in bed.
Best advice i would say to remind her that the escort is just doing a job and a very difficult job at that and we do not check who is married or not and why they are visiting an escort. Then say sorry you have a husband doing this but this is between you and your husband and if this abuse does not stop i will have to report you to police as this anger is towards the wrong person and this behaviour is a crime.
Personally I wouldn’t even bother explaining that all to her, just tell her harassment is a criminal offence end of
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Indeed. A man can't keep his dick in his pants, so it must be a woman's fault and she should be blamed. Nice.
so you're saying it's the OP's fault ?
Don't be naive , married/ attached men stray because they are not getting what they need at home (regardless of the reason(s). The fault here lies with the punter and his GF ( their relationship), not the sex worker. The GF is harassing and threatening the SW because she is the easy target.
A women who is or threatening verbal or physical abuse towards another women, a sex worker for doing nothing more than her work is deflecting the blame and responsibilities from those who really are complicite.
To see SW's excusing abuse towards a fellow SW simply because the abuser is female and may be rich, disabled..blah..blah..blah is no excuse or justification.
As I said to the OP remind her where the issues are rooted or simply ignore her.
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China girl i think you got the wrong end of the stick and read the post wrong. Amy just meant not fair to blame the partner or wife because a punter strays nothing to do with the OP being blamed.
I have had many punters tell me they are being unfaithful because they are greedy some even said there wife gives them sex when they want and up for trying anything but they just want several new faces and bodies to use too. Some men are just arseholes and should just be single in my opinion.
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so you're saying it's the OP's fault ?
No, I was responding to your post where you suggested that the man's partner must be at fault to justify his bad behaviour, thereby absolving him of his (complete) responsibility for it. Victim blaming at it's finest.
Edit: Crossposted with EG, who is entirely correct.
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No, I was responding to your post where you suggested that the man's partner must be at fault to justify his bad behaviour, thereby absolving him of his (complete) responsibility for it. Victim blaming at it's finest.
Edit: Crossposted with EG, who is entirely correct.
Their is only one victim here- the SW, imho
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Yes the SW is the victim. Girlfriend should not be threatning the sex worker but i can see why she is angry. The punter is the main one doing wrong for cheating and not covering his tracks so then the sex worker gets the shit from him not being able to keep his dick away from other vagina's or mouths.
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Cases like this only remind me that dealing with men only for paid sex and otherwise keep them the fuck away is the best policy :D
Amazing that most punters have been 100 times nicer and better behaved towards time than so called “boyfriends”.
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Cases like this only remind me that dealing with men only for paid sex and otherwise keep them the fuck away is the best policy :D
Amazing that most punters have been 100 times nicer and better behaved towards me than so called “boyfriends”.
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I had a Client's wife access his AW account, read his feedback and contact all the Escorts he had been with.
I was one of them.
She hurled some comical abuse about my physical stature which made me laugh. I simply hung up.
A few days later she called me again and poured her heart out. I admitted to nothing at any point, let alone the fact that when I had used his hotel bathroom bin, there was already two used condoms and a discarded stocking in there :-\
She concluded that he had chosen one of the other Escorts over her and that he was with her right now.
It was sad and excruciating, apparently some of the other Escorts had screamed abuse back and taunted her.
I blocked her after hanging up.