NON-SEXUAL COMPANION looking for AGENT and ADVICE

[adriana-companion]

Hello 1st I have to say thank you for this site. It has so much kind information. It has really given me a lot of help already... So MY QUESTION: I am having HUGE anxiety over finding an agency and also finding the correct advertising platform for my service.

I am a High Class Non-Sexual Companion/Travel Companion for UK domestic and International. I have relatively few assignments. In the past I have found clients through word of mouth and introduction (kind of fell into it - mainly very wealthy/influential clients), so I have never had a website or done formal advertising. Because of a recent change of circumstances with two main regular clients, I need to find other assignments imminently. I've been researching 3 months and am pretty terrified! Literally I have no idea what I am doing with this and feel very out of my depth. Actually I am worried of my prospects - maybe I've just had it too easy all this time or have been lucky with work so far?? I do know a small percentage of work that escorts get is non-sexual, from what I've read. But I exclusively offer non-sexual and can't change that. I can hardly find any sites - independent or agency - offering social escorts or travel companions etc with specifically social-only services.

SO WHERE TO ADVERTISE?? I do make it clear the services I offer, but I am not sure if advertising alongside 1,000 of sexual escorts, that I will get any work. Or perhaps I will mislead clients and end up putting myself in a bad situation (even though I feel I make it plain enough). I don't even know about managing a site or what to expect (although a lot of questions have been answered on this great site - dealing with time wasters for example)... Anyway that's another issue... back to topic...
 
Am I the only High Class Non-Sexual Escort/Companion???  It seems like there aren't many, or at lease I can't find a platform for my service. I did look all over sites like Punternet and Captain69, but I can't find a specific section for N-S. And I can't find a N-S agency that pays a decent rate (all but 1 are offering ?40 - ?60 per hour!... jesus!). Am I worrying about nothing? Should I just advertise with the sexuals and be bold about it?... Sorry to go on, just kind of lost who to ask for assistance and people seem so lovely here... Maybe I've just been lucky marooned out in adoring-tycoon-wonderland so far and there isn't a place in the real market for me? (Odd because there seems to be a place for absolutely EVERYTHING else.)
 
Please can any one help with offering a service or advice - Thank you in advance.

Kisses Adriana

PS - I hope no one is offended. I don't mean to sound "superior" that I am a non-sexual escort/ companion - it is just what's right for me (it would probably be a lot easier for me in the industry if that wasn't the case). No offence or judgement whatsoever intended. OK? kiss

[brandy@saafe]

Hi Adrianna and welcome to the forum,

And don't worry, you don't sound superior at all and I'm not offended. All of us on here are actually happy about being paid to have lots of sex. We don't see it for anything else other than what the job entails. And that's what it is at the end of the day, a job that we're happy in.

Your dilemma is indeed a difficult one. You're one of those few people I know of who worked via recommendations and word of mouth and not had to use a website. But I guess times have changed and now before anybody forks out any money, they would like to see what it is they're getting. Most of the sites I know of that advertise for non-sexual escorts have all been scam agencies promising you the earth. There are very few agencies out there, but as you say, they only charge clients ?50-?60. And even then you have to deduct the agency's fee, so there's not much left at the end of that. I've googled a couple of agencies like this one http://www.perfectaccompaniment.com/ who seem to be legitimate but they don't charge enough for your needs.

And you won't have much luck advertising alongside escorts who do offer personal services. People will probably think you're just being cagey and write to you asking what services you offer.

Even if you set up your own website, do you know of any directories that you can advertise on? You can't just have it sitting out there, it would at least need to be listed on some good directories to bring you in the traffic. But again, I don't know of any non-sexual directories you can be listed on.

What about advertising in the broadsheets? I've heard that the posh escort agencies have advertised their services in the big papers with great success. But then again, they've had websites that they could direct any enquiries to. And they're expensive too. But it's something to consider.

Sorry I can't be of more help.

[adriana-companion]

Hello Brandy,

Thanks so much for your quick reply and understanding. I am in the process of making a website. Actually I took a break yesterday to make a myspace page which was quicker as a sort of practice run... don't know if it will be as useful as a website, but it helps towards the the final site and can't hurt I guess. Since so far I've not advertised in the standard sense, I just have no experience in introductions this way. I was actually really excited about spreading out and expanding to a larger client base with varied, new prospects...{record scratches and music stops}... until I looked around and noticed all the beautiful high class girls offer sexual & erotica as their primary service... I know you are all wetting yourselves laughing at me right now LOL....

Perfectaccompaniment.com: Thanks for taking the time to google for me : ). I saw that site and actually wrote them enquiring. I feel this is the time that's right for me to have an agent (a little upside down I guess). Realistically, I'll end up staying independent because of the low pay. They deserve their cut for certain, but jesus I could probably walk dogs and end up with more money than I'd get at these agencies after commission and money on clothes, hair, makeup,,,,,,,etc. etc.

I'd love to find a targeted directory to advertise my new site in... But I am going to try my luck at the standard escort directory. I think I'll probably end up back in the tiny pond of tycoons & private introductions though.

If anyone who has a directory service to offer me, or knows of one to point me towards, please can you get in touch.

Ohh... 2 QUESTIONS please: 

1 - Does anyone have experience with ESCORTSMANIA.com ? I am thinking of advertising there.
2 - Can someone give their experience (or direct me towards a thread) of what happened when they 1st started out with their website? How long did it take for people to find you? How long did it take for serious clients to come from the website? How many platforms did you feel you had to advertise on to get enough traffic? For e-mail only girls how much of your time was on admin (answering query letters etc). I know my service is not exactly the same, but it does give some indication to me what I can expect.

Sorry for all these baby questions & thanks again for the sweet people here who take their time to reply and give their experience - really helps.

Kisses
Adriana

[BurlesqueHoney]

Hi there ? sorry to hear that you lost your ?comfort zone?, i.e. clients that kept you afloat.  Don?t think you need to justify your modus operandi that you don?t wish to actually offer sex.  Just kind of hard to suggest any suitable directories or places to advertise as all I can think off are about offering sexual services. 

But please stay well clear of Escortmania ? they are an unscrupulous rip-off outfit.  I am pretty sure there are loads of threads about them even on this site.

Pure ?escorting? as such as you mentioned seems fairly rarely required and any agencies that offer you good hourly rates need to be carefully checked.  Whatever you do ? never ever give them any money for administrative services or whatever costs they claim will be incurred by you joining them.  I would explore social networking sites and perhaps actively advertise in any publications that might be read by your intended clientele.  Maybe even approach larger companies that host big international conferences or other events and asked them whether you could offer your services as a strictly social companion for the time their guests/clients are in the UK.  Might sound daft but many larger companies book large corporate boxes at Lords or Ascot etc and similar social events ? perhaps you can find out if there are any social escorting opportunities at those events.  Likewise and this again might sound daft but since you are not ?disreputable? like most of us wenches of ill repute you could even approach designer boutique hotels and speak to the ma?tre d' and asked them to keep your details if any of their gentlemen guests need some company without personal services, i.e. a dinner date so they don?t have to spend their time alone during their stay.  I suggested similar approaches to a friend who did an aroma therapy course and who did not have a big budget for advertising.  Ok a different service but it worked for her as the hotels and event organisers could offer a service to their guests. 

Mmmh, as for websites and getting started,  I asked Mira Design to do my website which is a template site but got me really nice clients and good feedback.  But it is hard to really compare it to your aims as I do offer sexual services although many of my clients spend a good part of the booking time purely socialising.   

[Violette]

I googled, and found this blog:
http://englishcourtesan.blogspot.com/2007/08/social-escort-myths-request.html

Welcome,
No offense taken.
Maybe something to think about, but why not set up your own social escorting agency? Based along the lines of some of the more Elite agencies, keeping the ladies profiles a secret. Because think about it, even ladies could use this, you are traveling alone, and don't know the city, what better than a nice local lady to hang out with, show you around, do a bit of shopping have a nice chat dinner, and say good bye.
And the nice thing is, you can have all manner of ladies, from lovely young students, to sharp-witted grandma's, oh and gentlemen as well. You may wish to also book in with Expat companies, as a consultant, or Concierge to help new people moving to the area. Hope any of this helps. Kisses Violette

[hot.rain]

PM on the way

[strawberry]

Lots of help and good pointers.

On the 'class' level, we could take the stance we are the superior courtesans - highly skilled in the sexual arts.

 

[adriana-companion]

Hello Again,

Burlesque Honey - NO! NOT daft, those are really good ideas - thanks! My experience with a lot high-end hotels here and in France, is they are quite arrogant regardless of whom they are speaking to. I'm thinking whether I will write a formal letter 1st or just show up in front of the Maitre D'... Maybe the info will just get chucked if I take the correct & formal route, since businesses get so much info sent through on all types of goods and services - but especially with what I am offering not being readily understandable in reading the 1st few words. On the other hand I'll probably be back to the issue of misunderstanding what actually I'm offering if I just show up and ask to leave them a few business cards for their guests. {I am imagining it now} LOL...

Violette - I actually thought of that over the years! I see pretty people sometime & "hmmm" it's in the back of my mind "yeees you could work for me". Hehe. So at least I know it's not such a silly idea. One of my best friends is much older than me and is ALWAYS joking that he wants me to find him a rich elderly lady in Palm Beach to take care of us both... . The way I have operated up to now is within such a limited circle, I just don't  have enough knowledge of the "real" market to hold my own with something like that {...not yet anyway}. But I like it. )

Leila - PM sent back thanks again.

kisses for you all x

[adriana-companion]

Ohhh forgot,,,

VIOLETTE: Thanks for great link on the courtesan. Tried/failed to view your website to have a look.

With me making site for 1st time, It's really helpful to see other girls websites ~ regardless of type of service being offered. So far what I've seen is sites from admittedly stunningly beautiful girls, but mostly pretty generic tone/wording (oh... and a lot of badly designed suspect looking ones... that somewhere along the line infected my computer with malware that locked down me out for 3 days!). So it's nice to see people showing genuine personality and to be able to feel confident computer's not going to catch another digitalSTD.

I probably don't have the most "normal girl" personality and I'm pretty verbose {you wouldn't guess would you?}. My gut feeling is most of the high powered men I've meet are not that into what's going on on behind my eyes. I could be jaded here, but the ones that are poor and/or aren't paying seem to ask a lot more questions about my views on things... So after the record stopped from the panic about the "sex issue" I worried about saying too much on my pages and revealing any quirkiness {horrors}. It's reassuring to see so many sites of members here where girls allow what's special and different about them to come out in their tone and their words. If your getting work off the site it must mean client's are choosing on personality as well and want to know what you think... assuming they are reading... Minefield.

BURLESQUE HONEY: thanks for warning about Escortmania.... Had a look at your site: So funny things you said about payment. I LOVE the red hair - especially with your skin colouring - reallly a good look.

That's all for today
x's

[Violette]

Just a few idea on:
Social Escorting.... The other side of escorting.
If you are going to write letters, go and get it done at a proper stationers, Paris has some gems tucked away in the city, I think London has as well. I mean the kind of stuff the Queens uses. Plus business cards. It will lend credibility.
Use your full name on Biz card, with title, and any letters you can use behind it.
Also in interviews don't be afraid to name drop, as in the names of the clients who have contacted your company for services.
Also try Brussels, oh and Embassies and Consulates!
I can not tell you how many times I have been in foreign cities alone, having to find my way around, how nice it would have been to have some one to show me the ropes for a few hours! This has possibilities, worth exploring.           

[adriana-companion]

Thanks Violette
: )

[amy]

Hi Adriana!

I think you are wasting your time with the 'usual' directories - clients look at sites like Punternet because they want to book someone who will have sex with them for money, no matter what all the time and companionship disclaimers say. I think the idea of marketing your business around the top-notch hotels and travel companies is a much better one - if you have travelled a lot and speak a few languages as well as having a nice website and professional manner then I think you have no reason to believe it will not work.

To be honest, I believe that you should be looking to distance yourself from the 'escort' sites that we advertise on - even the ladies who not offer a full service are usually offering massage and HR at the very least, so if you are really not intending to do anything like this then I think it would be confusing for potential clients if you started appearing in these places. You will have your work cut out as it is constantly spelling out that you do not offer these services as unfortunately the word 'escort' to most people (with any connection to or interest in the industry) has come to pretty much mean the same as 'prostitute'.

Good luck and best wishes to you - do put a link up to your site when it's done! The only other thing - I have heard it said many times (and I agree completely) that if you want to appear 'high class' then possibly the least classy thing you can do is describe yourself as such. Leave that for the clients to decide.

[adriana-companion]

Hi AMY

Thanks for that advice on marketing and the well wishes.  I see what you're saying about that. And the high class thing as well. It is like nails down the chalk board - hard to know what to say. Wording is also generally causing me problems with the website - how to classify myself. I've done a Myspace page as a preliminary test. I am going to try and put a link in case anyone wants to look and give feed back (like you're all not busy enough - smiles).

I do speak 3 languages and am well travelled, so the advice YOU, BURLESQUE & VILOETTE give make more sense.

kisses

[lexienight]

I do speak 3 languages and am well travelled, so the advice YOU, BURLESQUE & VILOETTE give make more sense.

kisses

I had a japanese friend at uni who spoke english, french and russsian and during all the holidays she was off with guys working as a translator for amazing money.  she never admitted to doing any of the 'escort' work that i now do (i think she did though???) but even when she only worked the odd day here and there as a translator or guide in london she did ok.  with 3 languages behind you i wouldnt have thought you need to advertise anywhere near escorting sites.  there are plenty of agencies needing translators and guides for people so you should do ok on that alone.

good luck.

[adriana-companion]

Hello Lexie -

SORRY FOR THE LATE RESPONSE... I'VE BEEN TRAVELLING. STILL LOOKING FOR CLIENTS. THAT IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA ABOUT THE TRANSLATOR! Thank you so much. Hehh. I wondered if your friend was an under cover escort as well, or if she just had the luck of some generous clients. : ). I have spoken to a couple business men for advice on marketing... Both said they would probably be put off by the website and assume I was somehow offering escort services and probably just go with an escort. Not sure if this is correct for the majority of men, but I have delayed the website and am meeting people through social and private introductions again. The translator/tour guide idea (which inadvertently involves companionship anyway) is really very good though and something I never thought of. Also I've thought of describing myself as a "travel wife" or just a "travel assistant".

xox