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Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« on: July 17, 2011, 08:32:53 AM »
Hi all. This question doesn't seem to be in the mainstream of what this site does, but I have found little info on the web and some surprising hating on the idea. I wonder if you can give me a hand? I'm interested in the idea of selling my bumhole virginity to a man.

Some people told me that there would be a demand for this and I could probably make a decent amount. From what little I know about the UK gay scene men have a lot of free or cheap options with gay men, so I'm not sure. I want to look into it, but don't know where to start.

Any ideas?

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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #1 on: July 17, 2011, 09:22:48 AM »
There will be some interest in this, especially if you can do any one of a series of particular 'looks' (find some of the gay media and look at the photo shoots for ideas - muscle, suit, scally, sports and etc etc).

Try not to read any of the articles though: you may be expected not to know what various words mean as proof you are really straight!

As your research may have already shown, men get paid less than men in this field. You can forget the stories of women charging thousands unless you are Brad Pitt...

I shouldn't have to say this, but anyone who wants to do this without a condom can be crossed of the list.
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2011, 04:21:46 PM »
Thanks. Do you know what kind of websites this sort of thing is advertised on?

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« Reply #3 on: July 17, 2011, 06:23:42 PM »
I would need to know more about you, really. There is one big site, but they only like escorts who pay them so much per month, and there are probably better places - their fees would take a big chunk out of how much you could expect to get. Can you make this a news item in the gay media?

The other thoughts were that there's a 'straight men wanking' porn niche market and if you are ok with potentially everyone you know seeing it, they also do 'first time' porn. But it's a lot harder to go 'ouch, stop' in that context, so if your bum has been completely 'exit only', it's probably not a good idea.
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #4 on: July 18, 2011, 09:34:16 AM »
Just a thought - if you're going to do this, then you might want to start a blog to raise interest and spread the message. You'll need to decide on your 'character' before you start, but you could write about your everyday straight life, plus how desperate you are for money, how scared you are of being fucked or whatever else feeds into the gay virgin fantasy. Add a few good pictures of your bod and your tight bumhole and hopefully you'll get some wealthy bidders.

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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #5 on: July 20, 2011, 08:08:44 AM »
Thanks to both of you. The blog/news item one is good, but I want to protect my identity, so may not be a good idea, similar porn. Shouldn't be an issue with the client, but I don't want it being a big thing on the internet and some clever internet dudes finding out who I am or whatever.

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« Reply #6 on: July 20, 2011, 10:05:38 AM »
The fewer people who know you're offering this, the less chance you have of making money. It will never be much and I would be surprised if you walked away with as much as 200. Doing an anonymous but noticed blog about this should work, eventually, but you need to be prepared for it to take six months or so before you have a choice of men waving the 20 notes.

Why are you doing this? It's rather more common for first timers (who have for whatever reason not just gone on the scene and done it) to pay rather than seek to be paid. It was certainly a large chunk of my clients. If it's the money, the money, the money, then it is also possible to make money as a "suck a straight guy off" escort, but you have to get the look right, be somewhere with a large scene, and be prepared to do some marketing.

how scared you are of being fucked or whatever else feeds into the gay virgin fantasy.

The usual complaint from gay men about straight men they've managed to seduce is that they're too tender. Women are to blame, according to the scene's misogyny. See the popularity of the Scally, featuring young men who look like they'd like to mug you as much as let you have sex with them.

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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #7 on: July 20, 2011, 11:24:26 AM »
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Why are you doing this?

It's just about the money. I'm not bisexual or looking to get into it. I was thinking of a one time deal. If it would only be about 200 then not really worth it.

I might look into the blog idea, but have to see what's involved.

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« Reply #8 on: July 20, 2011, 12:45:06 PM »
Surely the whole concept is based on a fantasy anyway, so really anyone could claim to be 'selling their virginity'? how much money are you hoping to make? I would have thought there are plenty of other ways to make more money.

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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #9 on: July 20, 2011, 01:12:40 PM »
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Why are you doing this?

It's just about the money. I'm not bisexual or looking to get into it. I was thinking of a one time deal. If it would only be about 200 then not really worth it.



Sure you're not bisexual? Or is it a fantasy you have (nothing wrong with that) of being somehow violated by another man? Could a woman satisfy your anal play desires**?

Because, with all due respect, even the most feminine guys/most accepting of their female side guys/willing to explore their sexuality STRAIGHT guys that I know wouldn't dream of receiving bum sex from another man. (Although I do know one guy who is voraciously (500+ women!!) straight, who had an "arrangement" with a gay man, but even he was the giver and not receiver...)

(This is only in my own experience and people *I* know.)

**you wouldn't get paid for this though  ;)
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #10 on: July 20, 2011, 02:05:52 PM »
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Sure you're not bisexual? Or is it a fantasy you have (nothing wrong with that) of being somehow violated by another man?

Yes, I'm sure. I've never desired sexual activity with another man. I've just been left in a funny situation where I need some cash, and I'm comfortable enough with myself to deal with it as a one time deal if there is in fact any demand for this. I bet you don't crave all the services you do with your clients all the time.  ;)

I don't understand the whole thing about taking it up the arse being the worst thing that can happen. For me (no disrespect intended) fucking a guy, oral etc are worse but I suppose everyone's different.
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #11 on: July 20, 2011, 02:31:11 PM »
I don't understand the whole thing about taking it up the arse being the worst thing that can happen. For me (no disrespect intended) fucking a guy, oral etc are worse but I suppose everyone's different.

Yeah, I can completely see your point - as far as I know, most straight guys do need to participate in a lot of anti-gay talk (including "oh it's fine for the gays! Yeah, if I were gay, I would totally bum him. Gays are great! But I'm definitely NOT gay, oh no, I'm ALL about boobs! BOOBS, I say! BOOOOBS!!") for the purposes of establishing themselves within same-sex friendship/social groups; they will also usually talk this way around a straight woman if she inquires about his sexuality.

And I think it's often awkward for anyone to talk about intimate details of their most private sexual thoughts and fantasies in a general friendship group so it makes perfect sense in a way and is very common. I do not talk about whether or not I'd do gay-for-pay with the majority of people I know, even if we're having quite a sexually-open conversation already - possibly because I wouldn't want to have an argument about whether or not I'm secretly gay when I'm pretty sure I do know my own sexual orientation!

So talk is talk. I don't think there's a rule out there about not being allowed to contemplate selling your anal virginity as a straight guy - I don't think you necessarily have to therefore have secret gay/bi fantasies at all. This whole situation is probably vaguely similar to me being totally prepared to have full-on lesbian sex if someone seriously offered to pay me 1000 for a half hour, but for less than that, nope, I am too straight to have any personal interest in it and so just would rather not bother.

(Oh but wait - aren't all women supposed to be secretly bisexual? I'm pretty sure that's in the "Rulez Of Sex" book, as written by Cosmo/Men's Health, too, but I guess I haven't read my copy yet. :P)

(Sorry Cat - I definitely don't mean any of this as an attack on you or your post! If I sound sarcastic, it's only towards what I think are restrictive gender/sexuality stereotypes, and I'm only writing out my point of view in a general way/in order to support Mr Average's idea because his view resonates with me. I know you said you were only talking from your friends' reported experiences, and he and I are just doing the same based on our personal experience. :))
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #12 on: July 20, 2011, 02:33:29 PM »
Yes, I'm sure. I've never desired sexual activity with another man. I've just been left in a funny situation where I need some cash, and I'm comfortable enough with myself to deal with it as a one time deal if there is in fact any demand for this. I bet you don't crave all the services you do with your clients all the time.  ;)

I can only speak for myself, obviously, but whilst I'm certainly not some weird, up-for-it -all-the-time raving nympho (and my ads have never claimed I am), I advertise as heterosexual and catering  to male clients accordingly. I would no more be able to see (and offer a proper service to) people that went against the grain of my orientation than I would jump off a cliff, no matter how much money they were offering me; the thought of rolling about with a woman I don't know and don't fancy make me feel quite ill. Not 'craving the services' we do is hardly the same thing as advertising a bi/homosexual experience when you're not bi or homosexual.

I don't understand the whole thing about taking it up the arse being the worst thing that can happen. For me (no disrespect intended) fucking a guy, oral etc are worse but I suppose everyone's different.

If you decide to go ahead, from a practical point of view I would seriously think about getting a dildo or buttplug and having a trial run if you haven't before. It is far easier to stick things up mens bottoms than womens generally just because of the way things are laid out, but you might be in for a nasty shock if you really are a complete first timer. It ain't like having a quick poke about with a soapy finger to give it a wash.

As for 'worse', just the fact thatyou are thinking of things in terms of how 'bad' they are along some imaginary 'scale', would be enough to put me off. Considering that you're not actually likely to get as much money as you were hoping for by the sounds of things (and a couple of hundred would have been my highest guess too, so I don't know how much you were anticipating), I would be looking at other options to make whatever cash I needed. As ever, prostitution isn't the answer to everything, and as has already been said, if you want to earn plenty from it you're going to need to put some effort in marketing wise just like all the rest of us do.
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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #13 on: July 20, 2011, 02:50:19 PM »
amy, you're right it wouldn't be worth it for a couple of hundred and I couldn't contemplate becoming a full time gay escort when I'm straight. I don't really see the harm in it for one session though. I know enough about how to deal with shit that it won't leave any lasting problems.

I'm looking into it because some people suggested that I could make a decent amount as it was a gay fantasy. Maybe they were full of shit, I dunno. If I could get some decent cash within the month then it would be an answer to be honest, but either there's a market for it or not.



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Re: Straight guy looking at selling anal virginity
« Reply #14 on: July 20, 2011, 02:58:06 PM »
I'm looking into it because some people suggested that I could make a decent amount as it was a gay fantasy. Maybe they were full of shit, I dunno. If I could get some decent cash within the month then it would be an answer to be honest, but either there's a market for it or not.

It's very easy for people to pontificate about things they know fuck all about, as you have now found, but at least you've found a way to few people who do (and I don't claim to be one of them). The fact remains, that if you want to make any sort of decent money for anything, then bar a lottery win, there's likely to be some hard work involved. There are people who think we all make 5K a week too, because they look at the hourly rates on our websites and multiply them by some figure plucked out of thin air - it's good oldfashioned ignorance.

amy, you're right it wouldn't be worth it for a couple of hundred and I couldn't contemplate becoming a full time gay escort when I'm straight. I don't really see the harm in it for one session though. I know enough about how to deal with shit that it won't leave any lasting problems.

Soap and water works for me  ;D.
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