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Ieaio

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I think this job is pretty exclusive in the fact that if we over induldge shopping etc then we just think to ourselves, I can buy this, I can just take another client. But then of course things don't nessisarly go to plan and before you know it, end of the month i've over bought. Bills are first and formost but I use insentives to work so bills take probabley twices as long as they should do to cover. How do I get out that mindset.....

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #1 on: 27 July 2015, 10:18:19 am »
This had been my mind-set for a while, I now try getting ahead of myself and make as much as I can pay the bills and whatever ive left over which isn't much at times I treat myself.
I have huge resentment paying  bills !
I set targets monthly also which on occasion I reach then its new furniture for home this month I hope  :)

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #2 on: 27 July 2015, 10:19:41 am »
Try thinking do you really need all the stuff you buy? Think long term, it's nice to treat yourself of course. I used to be the same and stopped as I got older and got scared that the work may slow down, luckily it hasn't but I'm ultra sensible with money now because I want a comfortable retirement x
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #3 on: 27 July 2015, 10:19:47 am »
Yes, it's the resentment for paying bills (Even though it's a privalage to live in my apartment and have water and electric I know this i'm not ungrateful) i still need insenstives to be able to make the monies for bills else I get grumpy. Doesn't help being a shopaholic
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #4 on: 27 July 2015, 11:24:30 am »
I tend to go shopping when feeling down, never a good idea. The bags coming home make me feel good but i rarely use/wear what i have bought, and the buzz is very short lived.I now have a terramundi pot (you have to smash it to open it). When i feel down i put notes in it. (once bills are paid). The feeling of knowing that it will soon be full of paper money is a better rush than the shopping. In the past 3 months it has paid for me to go to Thailand and Florida!

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #5 on: 27 July 2015, 11:28:20 am »
Ohhh yes, I think many of us are familiar with this mindset! I have been escorting for nearly 7 months now and have very little savings to show for it. I went a bit mental at first because I have NEVER had resources like I have now. All my bills are paid on time (again, a first for me) and then i would just spend everything else: holidays; clothes; shoes; jewellery; beauty treatments; expensive beauty products.

Last month I just sat staring at it all and yes I felt happy to have them but I would rather have savings for the future. So now I pay X amount into one bank account to cover all bills, Y amount into another bank account for personal spending and then the rest goes into a savings account. So I set myself a weekly target. I know I have to make Z amount each week to cover bills and personal spending, then I know whatever I make above that goes to my savings. It works well for me because I have allowed a little for those indulgence items, if I want to buy them, which means I am less likely to tap into my savings when I see that gorgeous bag that I really must have or else my life will never be the same :-P

Ps, prepaid credit cards are great for savings.

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #6 on: 27 July 2015, 12:50:26 pm »
Last time I escorted I spent all my money so this time I'm not spending a penny as it is additional income to my other job.

I want the feeling of having money behind me and I have been in a sticky financial situation in the past - never again. Also, I never wore half the stuff I bought and ended up selling a lot of it on e bay.

It takes discipline but I want to have something to show for it this time round, otherwise I can't see the point in doing it.

I'm dreadful with money and don't mind admitting it  :-[

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #7 on: 27 July 2015, 01:26:01 pm »
I tend not to not touch my money till the end of the week take a tenner a day out of it for food petrol stuff

End of the week I pay a set amount into the bank to cover the bills so say ?350 what's
What's left I tend to save I might take ?100 for myself if I want something but generally I tend to save it

This week I am at home so what I makes will just throw in the bank but the weekend I am touring so whatever I make I will save 100 percent

When I have gone to places like Dubai I save virtually everything that I make there and then when I come back I will do a few tours to pay off my credit card bill that I used to be on dubai as I find that works better for me


But to be fair I am probably older than most and have most of the stuff I want so don't tend to splurge that much

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #8 on: 27 July 2015, 01:38:56 pm »
At the beginning of this month I was on a high because I was well over my target bank balance, and now I'm slowly starting to hit it again because of all the illness I've had this month which has meant I can't work. I've also moved out recently and am in dire need of new work lingerie etc. that LASTS WELL because I am sick of spending peanuts on stuff that breaks after a couple uses, so before I start up work again in August I foresee my bank balance being below the target. Which is scary. The plus side is of course that I have my student loan arriving at the end of September which will tide me over should things go truly downhill, but hopefully August goes well so I can go ahead with my plan of paying the year's rent upfront.

In terms of general savings, I do the rule of thirds. A third in current account, a third in savings for whatever big thing I have coming up, and a third is untouchable till tax time. It's working quite well and the former savings account has obviously saved me in this time of not being able to work.

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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #9 on: 27 July 2015, 01:52:28 pm »
I'd say the most important thing is getting used to putting aside ~20% every week/month for tax, and also make sure there is plenty in one account for all your household bills.
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #10 on: 27 July 2015, 03:36:27 pm »
Does bills vs luxuries (in this job at least) does half and half sound too much do you rekon? Including my boob fund as luxury I guess. I feel i am terrible irresponsable with monies perhaps in need of shopahilic annoymous rather than saafe lol but shopaholics stuff revlolves around buying to feel better, I know myself VERY well to know that's not why I shop so I can't relate to that, I don't buy to feel better I buy because the thing is pretty and I want to be surrounded by pretty things. I don't buy things I don't want, I use and appreciate everything I buy but it's bloody excessive not one thing lingers in my wardrobe . My shopping habit is the reason I started escorting but I do feel I need to cap it. I'm 22 suppose i've got money management to grasp
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #11 on: 27 July 2015, 03:44:33 pm »
I put 25% for the tax bitches and pay my mortgage, bills etc! the rest I save! I have more handbags, shoes, clothes than a third world country, I pay all expenses for my daughters university and have a cheap apartment in Bulgaria that I rent out to tourists, I'm not flash like I was in my 20s I just live comfortably. I think as PaisB said when you get older the pointless luxuries lose their attraction x
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #12 on: 27 July 2015, 04:54:26 pm »
I put 25% for the tax bitches and pay my mortgage, bills etc! the rest I save! I have more handbags, shoes, clothes than a third world country, I pay all expenses for my daughters university and have a cheap apartment in Bulgaria that I rent out to tourists, I'm not flash like I was in my 20s I just live comfortably. I think as PaisB said when you get older the pointless luxuries lose their attraction x

It's either that ( getting older ) or you realise a fake handbag for ?50 from turkey looks just as nice as a ?500 one from bond St

The only thing I do spend  my money on is books ( I like reading ) my hair ( wigs /extensions ) and trainers for my running and boot camps which I do 3 or 4 of those a year which can be ?1000 each time  but other than than that I'm not a massive spender in that I spend big amounts every week

I used to spend several hundred pounds on my glasses but had my eyes lasered so don't do that anymore


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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #13 on: 27 July 2015, 05:12:13 pm »
I put 25% for the tax bitches and pay my mortgage, bills etc! the rest I save! I have more handbags, shoes, clothes than a third world country, I pay all expenses for my daughters university and have a cheap apartment in Bulgaria that I rent out to tourists, I'm not flash like I was in my 20s I just live comfortably. I think as PaisB said when you get older the pointless luxuries lose their attraction x

It's either that ( getting older ) or you realise a fake handbag for ?50 from turkey looks just as nice as a ?500 one from bond St

The only thing I do spend  my money on is books ( I like reading ) my hair ( wigs /extensions ) and trainers for my running and boot camps which I do 3 or 4 of those a year which can be ?1000 each time  but other than than that I'm not a massive spender in that I spend big amounts every week

I used to spend several hundred pounds on my glasses but had my eyes lasered so don't do that anymore
I like good quality makeup and belong to a good gym, treat myself to holidays but yes I agree Paris I save most of my weekly earnings, have become very frugal the past 10 years. The 10 years before that my money went down the drain with nothing to show for it now! I need my breast implants replaced soon and it will kill me to fork out for that x
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Re: Tips on dropping the "I can just make more money attitude"
« Reply #14 on: 27 July 2015, 06:30:38 pm »
When first began escorting I was spending money like it was going out of fashion but as a few years passed by am very careful now. After changing the mindset things get a lot easier. I ask myself do I really need it. Then go back to thinking about basic living. It helps me save. It takes will power though.