the term prostitute?

[Caledonia]

a prostitute has to have sex i dont have sex unless i fancy the guy i just have drink then go oops

No we don't, if that was the case we would all see the guy who turns up under the influence or the guy with only half our fee, or the guy with obvious signs of an sti/std, or the guy giving out danger vibes. Just like anyone we can say NO, we don't HAVE to have sex just because we are prostitutes/escorts/ whores/tarts or whatever else people want to call us.

[Chanel xxx]

I don't care what I get called, prostitute, escort, whore etc as long as I get paid.

I have to admit when I first started I was confused about what the difference in all the terms meant.  Where did I fit in, which one was I.  I soon realised that there was no real difference just words that meant the same thing.

Exactly!! As long as your paying you can even call me Al if you like. A client called me a hooker the other day, he wanted to marry me (first time I had ever met him) but I had to stop being a hooker first.. . I almost laughed as I havent heard that word in years.

[Barbie52]

I must admit to disliking it as well.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, sure as fk ................... it is a duck 

[Dani]

I am a prostitute and proud of what I do.  I work hard, I give a good service so why should I not be proud.

prostitute is just my job title same as hooker, prossie, whore, harlot, lady of the night etc etc etc

It is just the actual name of what we do.  I exchange sexual services for cash.  That is defined by the word prostitute.  An escort is someone who accompanies people to functions but offers no intimacy at all.  Not even kissing.  So I am not an escort.

I don't see why some women get so upset about their job title.  It is what it is.  If you are willing to sell sex then you cannot be offended by people using the correct term for what you do.

If people try to use it to upset me in an offensive manner then it doesn't matter what word they use or what they call me it is the tone and intent that pisses me off.  Calling me a prostitute even in an offensive way wont upset me though as I am one and I don't find it a dirty or disgusting job so they cannot make the term offensive for me

[meetingdiversity]

do you find this word offensive? i do

I don't especially when clients call me a prostitute because this is what am doing selling a horny time. Not ashamed of what I have become, fully understanding it was my choice to be labelled as one by doing this. I feel good about my position.

[carmen1988]

your all right i am a prostitute and i hate my job i feel awful about the word and i camnt accept it i find it very offensive i preferf the word  escort ..... i try to avoid having sex because i hate it i only do it for the money also i would just like to confirm to the member who said i show my tits for free on aw carmen1988 is not my aw username its something else....

[Caledonia]

i try to avoid having sex because i hate. it i only do it for the money

Then why are you in this business? There are other ways to make money that don't involve having sex when you obviously don't want to. Sooner or later your clients will realise your not into it and go elsewhere.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

I think it is rather unfortunate if you have chosen a user name for SAAFE that someone else has as a profile name on AW.  Especially one with the same year after it.  Perhaps a slight name change would be a good thing and it may save a lot of confusion, not just for yourself but also for everyone.

If you feel so bad about the job then perhaps it is time for a change or a break.  If you cant feel good about yourself with doing the job then it is going to come through in the work that you do and you are going to put clients off.

Perhaps time to re-think things to make yourself happy. There is no fun being in a job that you appear to despise so much.

[carmen1988]

lady lust didnt think people would investigate on aw its quite sad,,,,, im definately quitting this year im training to be a dom so hopefully thats better for me

[amy]

lady lust didnt think people would investigate on aw its quite sad,,,,, im definately quitting this year im training to be a dom so hopefully thats better for me

I agree with the first bit but it's a fact, and whilst nobody here means any harm it's as well to remember that this forum is public and there are plenty of other people out there with nothing better to do than make mischief. You can easily change your displayed forum name here on your profile if you want to .

I agree with everybody that it's not an ideal situation to be in any job you don't like, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the job or anything wrong with you for doing it - everybody needs money and you're doing something lots of people wouldn't be prepared to do to feed and support yourself. If you're taking practical steps to learn something related which would suit you better then that's great (although if you're a pro domme the law still says you're a prostitute ).

[ana30]

The term "prostitute" is a very tricky one because the official definition is: "Person who sells sex in exchange for money". That's fine. But if we where to use the term in an literal way what happens with all the ladies who date or marry for money? (A huge amount of them). As far as I know many women sell themselves to one man at a time and the only thing that makes them different to me is said time they spent with each guy. I mean.. I have a "bigger turn over" of guys than the uber Botoxed Belgravia wives who live in my street that for sure but we're both on our knees giving blowjobs in exchange of dough at the end of the day. We're both prostitutes, but somehow society wants to make me believe she's a respectable wife and I'm a hooker.

F*ck.

That.

[amy]

Well the law doesn't use the term in the 'literal' way, and since this is a sex work forum and the thread is discussing sex work we'll stick with the original subject.

To say that anybody who benefits financially from an arrangement which includes sex is a prostitute is just silly, and tedious comparisons to greedy civvy women (and one feature difference of actual prostitutes is that we tell you how much it's going to cost in total before anything happens) has nothing to do with the OP's question and isn't helpful, and nor is judging other people because of what some mythical 'society' may or may not think of us and what we do.

Back on topic.

[ana30]

do you find this word offensive? i do

The OP opened the thread asking if we found this word offensive and I was trying to point out the double morality of such "term". I know the law thinks it's totally fine for a lady to date a guy she would never give the time of the day if he didn't had a ten digit amount of money in his bank account. And yes. this has nothing to do with sex work (I know) but it has to do with the "offensiveness" of the word "prostitute".

[amy]

Well that's all very well, but then we're getting into whether your average 40 hour a week wage slave is 'prostituting themselves' to Tesco when they go to stack shelves or whatever, which may or may not be the case but is also nothing to do with the thread topic.

Either way, discussing and speculating about the supposed motivations of people who are nothing to do with sex work and not part of the forum (and therefore cannot contribute to the discussion) is bad form, so we're not going to do it.